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Permalink Reply by Wendela on October 31, 2009 at 11:57am

Hi, Julie. I'm coming up to the 2 month mark day after tomorrow; I can hardly imagine it getting worse in the second year, but I believe it. Numbness and denial can go a long way toward being able to pretend to be okay at work and in public. Halloween was David's favorite holiday. Everything was just so much fun with him, I loved being married to him, and I miss him so much every day.

julie thomas said:

i lost my husband almost 2 years ago and sometimes it still feels like he is around. sometimes its good, sometimes it makes me angry. i had him in my dreams for some time, now not so much anymore. i had feeling of the type of dreams you had during my first year. not a horror, but utter sadness. i find the 2nd year so much harder than the first. i'm not nearly as numb as before. you should try therapy, it helped me alot. you might want to see your doctor as well. take care

Permalink Reply by Anita Simmons on November 2, 2009 at 9:45pm

To be honest with you, I would give anything to dream of my fiance who I just lost a week ago. Maybe he is trying to tell you something, maybe he isn't ready to leave your side, just maybe he misses you and that is his way of supporting you. Try to see it as a blessing you get to still see him. I know that may not help for I don't know your dreams but I would greatly encourage you to go to counceling and see what you may not have dealt with. Sleep well, I will pray you sleep well.

Permalink Reply by Showbiz Kid on November 2, 2009 at 10:03pm

Anita Simmons said:

To be honest with you, I would give anything to dream of my fiance who I just lost a week ago. Maybe he is trying to tell you something, maybe he isn't ready to leave your side, just maybe he misses you and that is his way of supporting you. Try to see it as a blessing you get to still see him. I know that may not help for I don't know your dreams but I would greatly encourage you to go to counceling and see what you may not have dealt with. Sleep well, I will pray you sleep well.

Permalink Reply by Showbiz Kid on November 2, 2009 at 10:06pm

Anita - I am so very sorry for your loss. You are just still in the beginning....and yes, I know
that is probably what it is. If you don't mind, what happened to your fiance'?
You have a long road ahead....please be kind to yourself....it is so hard.
Take care and hope to hear from you .... bless you

Permalink Reply by Anita Simmons on November 3, 2009 at 11:12pm

Please read in the discussion I started in hopes to get advise titled "sudden death" He was traveling home from a hunting trip in Texas when the p;ane went down coming home to leesburg, Fl. I hope, after reading others advise I didn't sound cold. I have not felt him, dreamt of him or even had signs. I know I wake every morning sick to my stomach and I wish it would just stop. I know I wouldn't want to feel this way 5 yrs from now. It's only been 8 days yet I have already began speaking to the stephen ministris with a church, looked into a group and plan to go volunteer at the non profit organization he created. Some say I am pushing myself too hard to move foreward yet I can't stand feeling this way. All I hear is him saying in the back of my head is "Get after it" "I want to keep you happy" He said it daily to me. lease seek out the church for help if money is difficult. It helps. Saw them today and it was not a good day at all. Generally I can have a few hrs of calm but, not today. But I do know that they brought a sense of peace earlier in my life and so I believed they could again. I'm so sorry you can't sleep. Talk to someone.

Showbiz Kid said:

Anita - I am so very sorry for your loss. You are just still in the beginning....and yes, I know
that is probably what it is. If you don't mind, what happened to your fiance'?
You have a long road ahead....please be kind to yourself....it is so hard.
Take care and hope to hear from you .... bless you

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