Remembering Dad

Grief support: No matter what your age, losing your dad can be difficult. Share your grief and talk with others who are coping with the death of their fathers.

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Permalink Reply by pam dotson on May 6, 2010 at 4:31pm

Sherry, Thank you very much for writing. It was extremely kind of you. I understand about anger being all consuming...it hurts my heart more than the person with whom I am angry. I like your quote and it is very appropriate in my situation. Since writing about my father, I have prayed about letting go. This has helped a great deal. Thanks again for writing to share your experience with your birth mother's death.

pam dotson

Permalink Reply by Terry Miller on May 7, 2010 at 8:11am

I lost my dad 13 years ago. He was a true cowboy in every sense of the word; to this day if I see a cowboy hat in a crowd of people or hear the sound of cowboy boots on the floor I still turn and look for my dad!Love Always

Permalink Reply by Emily on May 10, 2010 at 8:18pm

My dad died 14 years ago when I was only 6. In the past couple of years it has started to affect me, but before that it didn't as much. I really hate not having any memories of him. The ones I do have I don't even know if they're my own; I think most of them are things that others have told me or things I remember from pictures. I just want to know what it's like to have a dad, and I wonder how my life would be different if he was still around.

Permalink Reply by COLLEEN on May 15, 2010 at 12:35pm

I also lost my dad well 6 years ago and I knew it was going tobe hard but it way more than that we werent ready.
Since he's been gone I am turning into a recluse I dont leave except to grocery shop . I 'm already the oldest member of my family and I afraid if I go TOFAR AWAY FROM HOME AND SOMETHING HAPPENS TO ME MY KIDS WONT HAVE ANY ONE..
AND GOD FORBID I ALOUD SOMETHING TO HAPPEN TOME CAUSE i'M SURE MY BROTHER FOR GOT SOMETHING WHILE HE STOLE MY INHERRITANCE AND EVERY THING ELSE HE COULD WHILE I WAS WITH OUR DAD AT THE HOSPITAL..
hE'S AMILLIONAIR AND i'M A POOR SINGLE MOM AND HE HAS NO CHILDREN
AND HE SAYS HE CANT COME IN THEHOUSE OR EVEN PARK IN FRONT OF IT CAUSE IT'S TO HAUNTED

Permalink Reply by ulooz on May 17, 2010 at 4:02am

My father, who raised 4 children with his beloved wife, mentored 10 grandchildren, taught others children in the public school system for 40 years....then cared for my mother throughout an extended degenerative neurological condition at home, as if she was his 5th beloved child, died peacefully in his sleep in his 85th year. He was indeed the glue that held us all together. The constant in an ever changing world. The last 5 years of his life, when he lived with my children and me, gave us all cherished memories and traditions (such as holding our breaths when we pass a particularly "greasy" local restaraunt) that will stay with us all for ever. He will be missed in ways that cannot be counted

Permalink Reply by rosie on June 1, 2010 at 3:31pm

I'm 34 and 6 days ago my dad died very suddenly of a massive heart attack. I don't know what to say really I feel numb, lost and very angry that he had been to the doctors and was told he had indigestion when very obviously it wasn't, that he died alone, that I didn't get a chance to say goodbye, that I'll never see him again. I loved my dad but I don't think I told him enough he was not a man too show his emotions but he loved all his family around him. I can't get over how angry I feel I need the doctors to admit they should of done an ecg it might of picked up that he had heart attacks( there was scarring on his heart) maybe they could of helped him maybe not but I might of got a chance to say goodbye to him. I just want to wake up.

Permalink Reply by Priceless on June 1, 2010 at 10:20pm

I miss by Dad (and my Mom) this past Memorial Weekend. It is still hard to believe they are both gone. I played their video tribute this past weekend and will play them each on Father's Day. I miss Dad and Mom very much, I know they are in good hands, with God. YLD

Permalink Reply by Donna Wilkins on June 2, 2010 at 8:54pm

Dear Daddy,
It will be 6 years this August since I have heard your voice, it still hurts just as much as it did the day you went to Heaven. I miss our talks, I miss you making me laugh when I was upset or just for no reason. I miss you telling me you love me and that I 'was such a pretty thing'.
You were a great dad and I still struggle to get thru the day sometimes, I have great memories but that just isn't enough. I would give anything for just one more day.....
I love you so much!

Permalink Reply by shay on June 5, 2010 at 2:16pm

JASON,i lost my daddy march,21,2010 to cancer. i was living out of state, and got a phone call telling me my daddy had cancer. we never even thought that was what was makeing him sick. i could not get to alabama to him fast anough. we drove to the hospital, i had been up all night, just as soon as i got there they transfered us to a bigger hospital. we got there they took him straight into surgery, put a feeding tube in,a trak in his neck and tried to remove the cancer from his throat . but it was to late ,it took up his whole throat. so for the next 6 months he got to come home . we did radation,and hospice came by every day. i watched my dad take his last breath but he knew i was there till the end. this has been the hardest thing i've ever had to deal with. my life will never be the same without him, even though i'm grown i was still a daddy's girl. be thankful you did not have to watch him go through what daddy had to. oh yea they removed his vocal box,lynerc,and limp nods. idont think we will ever get over the loss of our dad's we just have to find a way to get through everyday.

Permalink Reply by Michele T on June 5, 2010 at 7:09pm

Have to tell you something about your father and your relationship with him, you WILL NEVER get over the loss, but will only accept the fact he is not here. His presence in you life is something you will never forget and will never have again with anyone else. No one can fulfill that love that a father has you just have to deal with second best

Permalink Reply by Michele T on June 5, 2010 at 7:15pm

Donna Wilkins said:

Dear Daddy,
It will be 6 years this August since I have heard your voice, it still hurts just as much as it did the day you went to Heaven. I miss our talks, I miss you making me laugh when I was upset or just for no reason. I miss you telling me you love me and that I 'was such a pretty thing'.
You were a great dad and I still struggle to get thru the day sometimes, I have great memories but that just isn't enough. I would give anything for just one more day.....
I love you so much!

Permalink Reply by Michele T on June 5, 2010 at 7:15pm

Michele T said:

Donna Wilkins said:
Dear Daddy,
It will be 6 years this August since I have heard your voice, it still hurts just as much as it did the day you went to Heaven. I miss our talks, I miss you making me laugh when I was upset or just for no reason. I miss you telling me you love me and that I 'was such a pretty thing'.
You were a great dad and I still struggle to get thru the day sometimes, I have great memories but that just isn't enough. I would give anything for just one more day.....
I love you so much!