Grief support for all coping with the loss of a child
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I know how you feel. I just had the one year anniv. of my son Josh's sudden death . He was the one trapped in the car upside down and he drowned. I was really suprised at the emotional state I was in the day before the anniv. The day of, it was like I was right back in the beginning. So be prepared. I ended up going to my daughters because all his friends kept calling and wanting to come over and I had nothing left to give them but tears. I thought I truly was going to die that night, all over again. But for some odd reason I am still here.
Hang in there, Sweetie... we are all in this together.
email me if you want to: sm1sue@hotmail.com
Sincerely with love,
Sue
Veronica said:My name is Veronica and the 31st of this month will be a year since I saw my son Everett. On the 28th of October will be a year ago that I was told the torso that was foud in the river on September 14th was my son. I never thought that this could happen to anyone. He was a loving person and loved everyone. He was 38. It hurts everyday. It is said that God will never leave us but I feel so alone. I have good people in my life but sometimes I feel they don't understand what I'm really feeling.I'm sitting here now khurting was if it was Oct. 28th all overagain. Every day seem like that day. I have good days and bad ones and hurting everyday.
I LOST MY SON IN OCT 7TH,2006 HE WAS ONLY 16 WHEN HE PASSED AWAY AND I DIDNT FEEL ANY PAIN AT ALL BECAUSE I WAS NUMB.AND TILL THIS DAY I LOST MY MIND SOMEWHAT,I ASKED QUESTIONS TO PEOPLE THAT I WENT TO THE DOCTORS OR SOMETHING WITH.MY FRIENDS ARE STILL CONCERNED BECAUSE I FEEL STRONG BUT I FEEL I AM A BURDEN TO THEM IF I CRY OR IF I TALK ABOUT MY SON.WHAT HAPPENED WAS MY SON WENT TO HIS FRIENDS HOUSE HIS FRIEND WAS CLEANING HIS GUN HE SAID AND HE THOUGHT HE TOOK ALL THE BULLETS OUT OF THE GUN,POINTED THE GUN AT MY SON AND PULLED THE TRIGGER,THE KID WAS ONLY 15,HE GOT PROBATION TILL HE IS 19.2,987RESTITUTION AND 200 OF COMMUNITY SERVICE,EVERY ONE ASK IF IT WAS A ACCIDENT AND I ALWAYS SAY I AM THE MOM AND I DONT THINK SO BUT YOU ALL BELIEVE WHAT YOU WANT TO.SO MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY AND I AM HERE TO TALK TO BECAUSE I NEED SOME ONE TO TALK TO.HOW LONG HAS IT BEEN SINCE YOUR SON?BUT I WENT TO SUPPORT GROUP AND THEY SAY TALK ABOUT THE DEATH OF YOUR FAMILY THAT HAVE BEEN GONE AND IT WILL HELP EASE THE PAIN AND I HAVE DONE THAT.AND IT HELPS.THANKS AND I HOPE WE TALK SOMEDAY.THANKS FOR LISTENING
God Bless You! I can't imagine having someone alive that I could blame. They say forgiveness is healing. I do believe that is true. My son died in a car accident, he was driving. I know he swerved to miss an on comming motor-cycle in his path. An accident... but a young girl was killed also. I am sad in so many ways. Mostly for myself, cause I am selfish. I think of the grand-kids I will never have given to me from Jordan, he would've been a great father. I am thankful that he IS a Christian. I know I will see him again, someday. He passed in April, the 29th; 2007, and it seems like yesterday. I have two other children...people say, "Well at least you have others". Like somehow that takes the pain away. It doesn't. I love all of my children. My life has been my children. Now one third of my life is gone. How are we supposed to forget that? We will never get over it, but We WILL get through it. My thoughts and prayers are with you. ...Leslie
kristi said:I LOST MY SON IN OCT 7TH,2006 HE WAS ONLY 16 WHEN HE PASSED AWAY AND I DIDNT FEEL ANY PAIN AT ALL BECAUSE I WAS NUMB.AND TILL THIS DAY I LOST MY MIND SOMEWHAT,I ASKED QUESTIONS TO PEOPLE THAT I WENT TO THE DOCTORS OR SOMETHING WITH.MY FRIENDS ARE STILL CONCERNED BECAUSE I FEEL STRONG BUT I FEEL I AM A BURDEN TO THEM IF I CRY OR IF I TALK ABOUT MY SON.WHAT HAPPENED WAS MY SON WENT TO HIS FRIENDS HOUSE HIS FRIEND WAS CLEANING HIS GUN HE SAID AND HE THOUGHT HE TOOK ALL THE BULLETS OUT OF THE GUN,POINTED THE GUN AT MY SON AND PULLED THE TRIGGER,THE KID WAS ONLY 15,HE GOT PROBATION TILL HE IS 19.2,987RESTITUTION AND 200 OF COMMUNITY SERVICE,EVERY ONE ASK IF IT WAS A ACCIDENT AND I ALWAYS SAY I AM THE MOM AND I DONT THINK SO BUT YOU ALL BELIEVE WHAT YOU WANT TO.SO MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY AND I AM HERE TO TALK TO BECAUSE I NEED SOME ONE TO TALK TO.HOW LONG HAS IT BEEN SINCE YOUR SON?BUT I WENT TO SUPPORT GROUP AND THEY SAY TALK ABOUT THE DEATH OF YOUR FAMILY THAT HAVE BEEN GONE AND IT WILL HELP EASE THE PAIN AND I HAVE DONE THAT.AND IT HELPS.THANKS AND I HOPE WE TALK SOMEDAY.THANKS FOR LISTENING
Hi Everyone,
I lost my son, Jack, in a car accident nearly 8 months ago on December 28, 2008. He had just turned 20 four days before. He was the light of my life, and we shared an especially close bond; maybe it was meant to be that way because our time together would be cut short. I am thankful to have found this site as I can really relate to the feelings other writers have shared. This "grief journey" is confusing, filled with such a range of really strong emotions that shift constantly. We just took Jack's brother to college and I felt I wasn't going to be able to handle it. It was so strange not to have the brothers together for such a big step, and it just made me feel Jack's absence to the depths of my soul. My panic attacks started to return and at times I just wanted to scream because this was not the way our life was supposed to be. I'm doing better this week, feeling more calm and in control of myself. I think what happens is that handling the grief takes a lot of energy on a daily basis and then when something else happens that is emotional, it's just too much and I fall apart. When that happens, I wonder how I'll get through this, I mean, I just can't imagine spending the rest of my life without Jack. I wonder if I will ever be happy again - is it okay to be happy again or does that dishonor him? I wonder if I should let my friends know how I'm feeling or keep my thoughts to myself because they won't understand? So many new feelings, too much to process at once. For right now I'll pray to get through one day at a time.
i really don/t know where to start, my son was killed in a car wreck on july 3 2009, he was only 26 and he was my baby ...and i still don't believe it . i keep thinking it is a bad dream. it can't be real . i don't know how to face this and i don't want to . i know i am going to have to get someone to talk to but it is so hard.. i am finding it hard enough typing this, good thing i don't know much about typing are i would have time to think.anyway i will be back on soon ... noone should have to go throu this.. linda
Hi Judy,my name is Elaine phillips and I also lost my son Kris to a car accident in April 2006. Kris and I shared so much together. Out of three kids Kris was my love child. He enjoyed embracing,kissing,helping others and just about fix anything that was broken. I miss Kris so much,he left behind 2 young sons Kris J. and Kory J. They loved him so much because Kris was always there for them. He was a New Orleans Firefighter,but always had time to be with is family. Yes Judy the only thing you can do is to take it one day at a time. Also a lot of praying to God asking for the strength and a good mind frame to go on. This heartache and pain that I have will I know one day come to an end,but it will never make me lose connection or forget about Kris. I would like to remember all the good time that we shared as a family. I know Kris would not like for me to be sad the rest of my life. Right now I still carry a lot of saddness with me. I really think it is because Kris boys are always around me,so all I can do is think about what it would be like if Kris was here with is sons. But I know GOD MAKES NO MISTAKES and this is what I have to hold on for when I meet and see him again when my day come because we all have an appointed day and time. So Judy I will be praying with you for strength to carry on through in this rough time for you and your family. Write anytime we know how and what you are feeling. Elaine
Judy said:Hi Everyone,
I lost my son, Jack, in a car accident nearly 8 months ago on December 28, 2008. He had just turned 20 four days before. He was the light of my life, and we shared an especially close bond; maybe it was meant to be that way because our time together would be cut short. I am thankful to have found this site as I can really relate to the feelings other writers have shared. This "grief journey" is confusing, filled with such a range of really strong emotions that shift constantly. We just took Jack's brother to college and I felt I wasn't going to be able to handle it. It was so strange not to have the brothers together for such a big step, and it just made me feel Jack's absence to the depths of my soul. My panic attacks started to return and at times I just wanted to scream because this was not the way our life was supposed to be. I'm doing better this week, feeling more calm and in control of myself. I think what happens is that handling the grief takes a lot of energy on a daily basis and then when something else happens that is emotional, it's just too much and I fall apart. When that happens, I wonder how I'll get through this, I mean, I just can't imagine spending the rest of my life without Jack. I wonder if I will ever be happy again - is it okay to be happy again or does that dishonor him? I wonder if I should let my friends know how I'm feeling or keep my thoughts to myself because they won't understand? So many new feelings, too much to process at once. For right now I'll pray to get through one day at a time.
elaine,hi this is kristi,the time has come to say you are in my prayers perty soon as we go on to sept 12th.i still think of both of our sons being born and than there gone from us.take care and i hope you write thanks kristi
Hi Kristi,I just returned from our Revival at my church. I miss hearing from you. Kristi I miss Kris so much and I know we have shared so much together with the lost of our sons. I still crys,my heart still aches. Sept. 12 he won't be here another year with me for my birthday.I know Kristi all of the hurt and pain that you have been through. I still pray every night for this Site,because we all need prayers for strength to go from one day to another. You know Kristi this is just me and how I feel. The lost of a child is a all together a different pain. I lost my mother whom I loved dearly,my father,grandmother-father and a brother. But the pain and the hurt was different. The lost of my two sons took so much from me. I would give anything just to get a bear hug or a kiss from Kris now. I miss him so much. But I must go on some how with the help of God I know I will make it. Kristi go to Kris Memorial Site and listen to Kris brother Ricky sing Hold On And Don't Let Go with the Gospel Group,Harold Holloway and Company that he sings with.
(http://memorialwebsites.legacy.com/wemissyoukrisJP/homepageaspx)
kristi said:elaine,hi this is kristi,the time has come to say you are in my prayers perty soon as we go on to sept 12th.i still think of both of our sons being born and than there gone from us.take care and i hope you write thanks kristi
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