The loss of a child

Grief support for all coping with the loss of a child

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Permalink Reply by JoAnn on November 10, 2009 at 10:44am

Tragedy seems to be a part of my family history..my grandmother was hit by a car, grandfather murdered, my dad fell from an 8 story building and recently my son was taken by a wild horse. My son was 42, with 2 children and a baby due Christmas day. None of this make sense...I have faith and trust in the Lord...but it is still hard as a mother losing my son.

Permalink Reply by Honesti on November 14, 2009 at 11:21am

At 11:13am on November 14th, 2009, Honesti said…
When a child dies, it is particularly hard for the mother. Thus the Bible acknowledges the bitter grief that a mother can feel. (2 Kings 4:27) of course, it is difficult for the bereaved father as well. "O that I might have died, I myself, instead of you , "lamented King David when his son Absalom died.--2 Samuel 18:33.
Yet, if we have confidence in the resurrection, your sorrow will not be unrelenting. As the Bible says, you will "not sorrow just as the rest also do who have no hope."(1 Thessalonians 4:13 ) Rather, you will draw close to God in prayer, and the Bible promises that "he himself will sustain you."--Psalm 55:22. Delete Comment

Permalink Reply by Alice Priscilla G. Tan on November 17, 2009 at 8:22am

I am new at this site.i am searching the internet for some kind of relief..it's been almost 8mos. since i had lost my eldest son on march 24,2009..an accident happened while we were celebrating his 3rd bday on march 22..the pain is still here..and will always be here..i miss him so much..my wonderful baby..nobody understands me..i know people who could understand me are those who had experienced the same pain i had..i wish to have friends thru this site.

Permalink Reply by Maryanne Turner on November 20, 2009 at 10:16am

I lost my son 5 years ago. He was sick for exactly 2 weeks. He was 22 yrs old. He died in April, he was going to graduate URI in May. I don't think it matters how long it has been. I miss him so much. I have 3 other sons, but he was my first child. I will never forget. Holidays are the worse. I think losing a child is the hardest thing, you grieve for the rest of your life.

Permalink Reply by Leslie L. Fiorda on November 20, 2009 at 9:37pm

Dear Alice...I am glad you found us. {I say "us", because it's almost like family here}. It is a hard thing we go through...I still can't believe that "I" am going through this. My son Jordan passed away 4-29-07. And it seem like just yesterday. He was only 23 years old. Your son was only 3yrs old? What is his name? Just a baby...and you know, no matter what age they are...they are still our babies. I am praying for you, Hun, and I am grieving with you. Write me anytime you need to talk. luvdablues@roadrunner.com
May the Lord bring you {and all of us} some peace. ...............Leslie

Alice Priscilla G. Tan said:

I am new at this site.i am searching the internet for some kind of relief..it's been almost 8mos. since i had lost my eldest son on march 24,2009..an accident happened while we were celebrating his 3rd bday on march 22..the pain is still here..and will always be here..i miss him so much..my wonderful baby..nobody understands me..i know people who could understand me are those who had experienced the same pain i had..i wish to have friends thru this site.

Permalink Reply by Judy on November 23, 2009 at 9:36pm

Dear Alice,
I'm so sorry for the loss of your young son. We can all understand and relate to the pain you're going through, so I hope you keep writing. It really helps.
Judy

Permalink Reply by Leslie L. Fiorda on November 26, 2009 at 2:38pm

Hello Everybody....
I don't know how you all are doing...I imagine the same as me. Today is a hard day. I went to the cemetary today to visit Jordan. Brought him some flowers. He loves sunflowers, so I got a big bunch of them. He was 6'4" tall, and always said that .."they were one of the only things that could grow taller then him". I sat there at his marker and trimmed around it so that the grass wasn't growing over it. I trimmed around the brass underground vase. {I used to trim a turkey on Thanksgiving}... Everything looked just as it should be....except for me being there in the first place. I am having a real hard day today. I am just so lonley for his hugs. I wish this pain would stop cutting me so deep. Keep me in your prayers...you are in mine. God bless you.... Leslie

Permalink Reply by dorine on November 26, 2009 at 3:20pm

i just want you to know i lost my daughter almost 2 years ago she was only 22 and had 2 children and they where very small they dont know yet but they will and i know its been the hardest 2 years of my life and i lost my dad 2months befor my daughter and i strugle everyday with this so i know how you feel dorine

Permalink Reply by Judy on November 27, 2009 at 1:33am

Thanksgiving was very hard and I cried most of the day; the first of the major holidays without our son. We had a picture of him at his place at the table and lit a candle that had last burned when we ate together the night he died. I still can't believe this has happened, it just seems so unreal and unnatural. I wonder how I'll get through his birthday 12/24 and angel day 12/28.

Permalink Reply by Gerry Fiden on November 28, 2009 at 10:14am

This was my first Holiday knowing that my son was no longer on this earth. When my phone woke me up indiating I had a text message, I laid in bed and cried. It would not be from him. There would be no phone call, no e-mail. no I love you mom. I held my sons ashes close to my heart, felt so empty and just cried. Thank God for friends who convined me to go to their home for dinner. With the help of my friends daughter and her children, I was able to get through the day. Playing with her 5 year old son and 1 year old daughter was bittersweet. I know Ric was there in spirit, as he was and always will be in my heart. I love you,Mom

Permalink Reply by T.C. Goodwin on November 30, 2009 at 1:32pm

Some people think that GOD "takes" children from their parents, as some have been told. Some children die in accdents, as adults do. But all of us have inherited sin, we are all imperfect. We were born in a system in which everyone -both the good eventually dies (Eccl 9:5) However, it is a comforting that God will reunite children with their parents by means of the ressurrection..John 5:28,29

Permalink Reply by nancy on December 1, 2009 at 3:54pm

Gerry Fiden said:

This was my first Holiday knowing that my son was no longer on this earth. When my phone woke me up indiating I had a text message, I laid in bed and cried. It would not be from him. There would be no phone call, no e-mail. no I love you mom. I held my sons ashes close to my heart, felt so empty and just cried. Thank God for friends who convined me to go to their home for dinner. With the help of my friends daughter and her children, I was able to get through the day. Playing with her 5 year old son and 1 year old daughter was bittersweet. I know Ric was there in spirit, as he was and always will be in my heart. I love you,Mom