My friend and the father of my son was killed by gunshot to the chest on May 14, 2010. The guy that shot him is still on the loose. I constantly think of him i feel so helpless. he supposed to help me raise our son he is only 8 years old he meant so much to him. he meant alot to me. i just wish there was something i could do to make it all a bad dream. i am so confussed i don't know what to feel. i get sad, then mad, then alone, scared, i miss him alot i just hope he knew that. THIS IS THE MAN IN THE PICTURE THAT KILLED HIM
i lost my dye."grandad".on 16th of aug this year,the pain doesnt seem to get any better.i miss him and loved him so so much,felt like my heart was brocken in to a million pieces.he was like my dad and my best friend.i helped him out the last 6 months just with house work n shopping ,as he was very indipendant and dnt want to take that away from him,,he deteriotaed very quick.and spent one day in hospital with him before the angels came for him..ive nevr seen someone die before.
Hi, my name is Laura. . . I am new to this blog site. I guess it was fate that I found it!
I suddenly lost Brian three years ago. My partner of almost 11 years. I have my journal where I write my thoughts when I don't know where I am going to next. I write when I am lonely. I write when I feel like no one else understands. I know there are others out there who also feel this way. How long does it take to get past this? I guess you never do ...people tell you that you need to get on with your life, they tell you to let it go, to get out and meet others, but I don't want to; I feel as it I am abandoning him, leaving him behind. Brian was my whole life, my inspiration, my laughter, my reason to live. I know it isn't as they say "healthy" to not want to go on, but how do you do it? I'm not a "weak" person, I lost my father at an early age ... 10 days old, my sister at 10 years old, my mother at 17 and it was just me and my sister raising my 7 year old brother; I also lost my nephew who I raised for 6 months AFTER my sister died. He was 6 months old. I thought I could never get past that, but I did. Someone told me that my sister needed her baby with her. I felt so awful that I couldn't save him, he died of meningitus. And now here I am again, trying to live, and I just have nothing left, nothing.
It has been almost 3 years - January 28, 2008 . . .I guess somehow, and in someway as I said that I have to heal with others, heal with time and know that there are others too that in someway can help with what I like others are also feeling. I just want the "holidays" to be over, I cry everyday and I feel like others think I am crazy . . .maybe I am, and I don't even care.
margarita chacon said:
Rhonda said:Hi everyone, I'm Rhonda and I lost my husband on 11/05/2007. How long does it take to quit laying awake at nights, hearing their voice, smelling their aftershave? There's nights I don't go to bed at all. It's not real bad all the time! Sometimes it comes in spells! Like this past weekend (Valentine's Day), I yearned to see him just one more time!! I have been out on dates and had lots of friends hanging around, but I always find my self looking for "Him" in a crowd! When does it all ease? We were married 27 years and the last 10 were wonderful years. I don't understand why it won't go away. I lost someone before, just never a companion, and I finally survived it. But this just keeps hurting!!!!!!!!!!!!
I can't even begin to tell you how much I feel for your lost. I lost my Dad in 2007 and I do know each lost is different. You had a very wonderful husband who was a perfect match for you. I know, with the lost of my Dad - who can take his place? No-one. So time - only time is enabling me to accept his death I will never stop missing him or wanting to see him as you say "one more time." I am married and that is why I do not believe in ever parting each other in a mad state. Unforeseen occurences befalls us all. Ecclesiastes 9:11.
God is love (1 John 4:8) and when we love it is the most powerful emotion you can have for someone near and dear to you. You do not need to feel that you must handle your emotion the way others handle theirs or in the time-frame that they did...or feel pressured to meet some one else. You handle it the best way for you. You may never want to get married again--you may find that brings you the most happiness - yet you do not need to live a life of a monk - but just accepting the fact that you once had someone you loved and the best way for you to handle it at this point in your life is not to invest any interest or desire in marrying some-one else.
I don't know your spiritual foundation - but seek comfort in the Scriptures (Romans 15:4) Sometimes, it is hard for our friends not to be bias in their effort to offer sound advice. However, the quiet time you spend in prayer will allow you to get in touch with your true feels and using the Scriptures as a guide. (2 Timothy 3:16,17.
So, enjoy your life - which may consist at this moment - just quiet solitude. (Ecclesiastes 3:7); it may consist of just being in a relax state for a few months - no matter how you handle it - just ask your friends to respect your space in handling your grief, - I hope this helped somewhat........