Dealing with a sibling's death

Grief support: Share your story and learn from others about coping with the loss of a sibling.

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Permalink Reply by victoria bell on February 19, 2013 at 12:28am

before the other. And through the years, I realize, he will do justwhat he promised. Stop trying to figure everything out, you can't but scripture says ask, seek and knock and God will open your eyes of undrestanding

Permalink Reply by victoria bell on February 19, 2013 at 1:07am

And on the same day my older brother died (unexpectedly) six yrs later . And three yrs later my next older brother died unexpectedly. It is hard not understanding but I cry as I tell theLord I trust you. Hold on , your help is already on the way. And God send others my way that are going through. I am able to share what I have and continue to go through. And we help each other.
I also keep a journal, writing how and what I am feeling. I put the day,date and the time. There are days I read to see where he has brought me from. Checking my progress, knowing it is a.bit better. Praying all of our strength in the Lord. God Bless.

So sorry this is in pieces, I'll get it right, I promise.

Permalink Reply by Baby-daughter on August 13, 2013 at 5:06pm

Hi to my brother Ray. It has been about 7 months since I said hi. just wanted to say hello. I still miss you even though it has been 23 years. If you see Mama ask her to let me know how she is. Mama has been with you since 7-31-2010. Everyone tells me they see things and they know it is from someone in heaven saying hi. Can you, Mama, Uncle Albert or Grandpa please say hi to me. your baby sister. all my love to you all.

Permalink Reply by Jennifer Wilkins on November 15, 2013 at 12:58pm

Lisa, I'm sorry for your sudden loss. Death is definitely an enemy to us all. I learned in the Bible that Jehovah God will rid mankind of this enemy soon. Death is not the end of it all as all of us at one point in our lives were taught. I am attaching a link so you can find out more about seeing your sister again. It is my hope that this information comforts you and provides you with some hope.

http://www.jw.org/en/publications/books/dead-live-again-tract/dead-...

My deepest sympathies,
Jennifer

Permalink Reply by Katherine on December 24, 2013 at 8:32am

Losing a loved one is hard itself. Then to lose a sibling? The feeling is indescribable. I lost my brother on September 13, 2012 to a car accident. He was only 20 years old. The pain I feel in my heart when he comes to mind is so intense that sometimes I can't breathe. So I know how it feels to lose a sibling, especially unexpectedly. What I have found comfort in is the loving provision that our Heavenly Father, Jehovah God, has provided for us. Revelation 21:4 says that "he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away." We can all look forward to the future when there will be no more death, or suffering, or pain like the one we're experiencing now.

Hope I helped someone :)

Permalink Reply by Baby-daughter on January 21, 2014 at 8:45am

Hi Ray. My big brother. Im sorry for not sending you messages sooner. First Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. I still miss you and think of you day. The tears still come because thru all the years that I protected you i could not protect you from you getting that horrible virus & illness. Tell Mama I miss her so much and love you both

Your baby sister protector

Permalink Reply by Martha on February 3, 2014 at 11:41pm

I Lost my oldest sister on 1/23/14. She had been sick her whole adult life, but at the time of her death she was doing ok. We were not expecting to lose her and the unexpected loss is devastating. I always thought that she would pass in the hospital and that I would have a chance to say good-bye. Somehow I think it would have made it a little easier if I was able to tell her one last time how much I love her and how much she meant to me.

We have two other sisters, both older than me as well. The second oldest was extremely close to my sister who passed. She was there when my sister died. She is taking her death extremely hard. She feels like she could have done more to save her. The pain my other sister feels is killing me. My heart breaks even more knowing that she is so broken. I wish there was something I could say to take all the sad feeling from her. I wish I could bring my sister back and I definitely wish I could have seen her one last time before she passed. This Friday, Feb. 7, is her memorial. I am going to say something about my sister, but I cant even bring myself to start writing it.

The only thing I hope right now is that she knew how much she meant to me. That she was an inspiration to me. In August I got married. Our father passed in 2006, so I had my sister walk me down the aisle. I am so grateful for that memory and I will cherish it for the rest of my life.

I am sorry if i was rambling. I didn't know where to start and it was hard to write this. It is hard to think that my sister is gone and I will never again get to see her... I am so heart broken

Permalink Reply by Baby-daughter on April 20, 2014 at 7:13pm

Happy Easter my dear brother. I love and miss you. I think of you always.

Baby Sister

Permalink Reply by Karen. Davison on September 28, 2016 at 10:13am

Lost my brother and his wife 2 years ago yesterday. I can't come to terms with his loss, it is so painful. My brother was my closest friend and huge part of my life.

Permalink Reply by Diamond on October 12, 2016 at 12:37pm

Karen, Death or the lost of our love one is never easy to come to terms with and never will be something we can just accept. It is not natural and it was not our Heavenly Father purpose for us to die. Remember, what was stated at Romans 5:12 "That is why, just as through one man sin entered into the world and death through sin,+ and so death spread to all men because they had all sinned." Death is an enemy to us - we long for our lost love ones. I lost my brother and parents and treasure the many beautiful memories I have of them. Some of them bring me tears of joy and some bring me tears of sadness - knowing that they are no longer here. However,, I truly trust and believe in the promise given to us at John 5:28,29. When one day I will live to see them again.