Views: 14334

Replies to This Discussion

hi,i havent been on here for awhile,i have some bad news that i would like to share with you.my aunt has been on life support because of her kidneys and has had dialysis,.we almost lost her.than last week i had a friend of mine of the families die in a car accident and she was only 13.the other girls were 16 and 14 that all so passed away.there is a survivor of the crash and she is only 12.we are al praying for the families recovery and to heal,.and to pray for cydnies family as she recovers.please pray for all the friends and family involved they need lots of prayers.if you would like to read the article it is in winona daily news and it is the 26 of april paper.rollover lewstion-aultera.thanks everyone and if you would like to join the groups and give the families and friends support please dont hestitate to ask i do have it.and i am doing ok but this tragedy put me back to when my son got shot and died at age 16 in 2006.thanks for listening everyone.
In minnesota we have a law no texting and driving at the same time.it is hard when they are 16 i lost my son at 16years old in 2006 and it is hard.this can be one of your support groups that what i come on here for.we are just like one.we take care of one another.and you are not alone.you have your brothers wife and child to look to as your family.they need support to from you.your brother left this world for you look after them.but i hope this helps and i hope you come back to this site.

Eric Pavlis said:
A year ago I lost my brother in a sudden accident. He was just finished helping his biking group out and was riding home. All of a sudden a 16 year old boy recieved a text message, and while answering it, swerved and struck my brother. My brother died instantly, doing what he loved, riding his bike. I am trying to get idaho to put in state wide laws to stop people from texting while driving. THe boy lost his liscence for a year and only got 10 days in juvy. My brother was the 3rd biker killed in Idaho in 2 weeks. My Brother left behind a 2 year old daughter and young wife. He was my last family member, and I feel completely alone. I have no support group. I miss my brother terribly, and think about him alot. I wish I could share his pain. I have so much trouble writing this. My brother was incredible, he was a father, a vetran, and freind. We shared in each other's joy. I've lost my parents, but this is much harder. If anyone knows of a support group around Portland Or, it would really help, I really need someone I can relate to, and I think that would help.
Kimberly Bender said:
How can I deal with the death of my father when I feel that I didn't do as much as I could have? I live in Cuyahoga Falls, and my dad lived out in Doylestown. I didn't get out there as much as I would've liked to due to my work and the distance, but that didn't mean that I didn't care. My youngest brother dealt with all of dad's problems, probably partly because he could afford to do so. I just have a hard time dealing with this, because I feel all alone. Is there anyone that might have had the same experience, and could tell me how to deal with my feelings of inadequacy? Any replies will be appreciated. Thank you. Kimberly Bender
Kimberly -

I am so sorry for the grief you are going through with the loss of your Dad.
We will all feel that there is more we could have done and we all feel we could have spent more time with the one we loved and has now passed.. You are not alone. I think you have answered your own questions - you live farther away than your brother, you had to work and your brother had more money to be available and take care of your Dads needs.. Don't feel guilty about any of this - you have done nothing wrong just be thankful to the Lord that your Dad had your brother there through his hard times.. What a blessing this was not only for your Dad but for you and your brother.. You can have peace knowing your Dad was well cared for by someone you love, trust and could depend on during your Dads rough times.. Your Dads presence is with you Kimberly and you will see signs of this. Dad is at perfect peace now and he wants you to be at peace too.. Yes - we will miss our loved ones through this life but in paradise is where we will meet again forever more.. Blessings to you - you are in my thoughts and prayers..
I buried my son yesterday. He was 44, married with two children 7 and 9. He was a loving, kind, generous and very sweet person, wonderful husband, son and Daddy. He died suddenly with no warning to us and we just cannot understand it.
I am numb and sick to my stomach, I can only take one minute at a time. I need to understand what happened but have to wait for the official autopsy report to be complete before I have any chance of understanding, maybe not even then. I just can't function, my head is pounding, my heart is broken, my stomach is sick. How do I get to a point where I can even function in a useful way again? How do I get through this, how do I help my grandchildren who can't understand why they lost their Daddy?
Nancy my dear, so deeply sorry i am, so close to you in my thoughts and in my heart. for now i just give you a big hug because you are under such a pain that it is not time to tell you any story, it is just time to give you love and understanding. i will come back to talk to you later on.
much, much love and God bless you.

Nancy Battersby said:
I buried my son yesterday. He was 44, married with two children 7 and 9. He was a loving, kind, generous and very sweet person, wonderful husband, son and Daddy. He died suddenly with no warning to us and we just cannot understand it.
I am numb and sick to my stomach, I can only take one minute at a time. I need to understand what happened but have to wait for the official autopsy report to be complete before I have any chance of understanding, maybe not even then. I just can't function, my head is pounding, my heart is broken, my stomach is sick. How do I get to a point where I can even function in a useful way again? How do I get through this, how do I help my grandchildren who can't understand why they lost their Daddy?
Nancy Battersby said:
I buried my son yesterday. He was 44, married with two children 7 and 9. He was a loving, kind, generous and very sweet person, wonderful husband, son and Daddy. He died suddenly with no warning to us and we just cannot understand it.
I am numb and sick to my stomach, I can only take one minute at a time. I need to understand what happened but have to wait for the official autopsy report to be complete before I have any chance of understanding, maybe not even then. I just can't function, my head is pounding, my heart is broken, my stomach is sick. How do I get to a point where I can even function in a useful way again? How do I get through this, how do I help my grandchildren who can't understand why they lost their Daddy?
Sage said:
Hi Nancy -

I am so very sorry about the loss of your son.. I just can't imagine the shock you must be in.. Please know you are in my many thoughts and prayers.. Amaryallis is right.. You need hugs for now. Take one moment at a time Nancy. You will soon have the answers that you need.. Blessings and (((((((hugs))))))) to you..
hi, dear Nancy, good morning! you will find this message sometime to morrow and you will see someone had been thinking of you and praying for you. write again when you feel disposition of doing so. much love and hugs.

Nancy Battersby said:
I buried my son yesterday. He was 44, married with two children 7 and 9. He was a loving, kind, generous and very sweet person, wonderful husband, son and Daddy. He died suddenly with no warning to us and we just cannot understand it.
I am numb and sick to my stomach, I can only take one minute at a time. I need to understand what happened but have to wait for the official autopsy report to be complete before I have any chance of understanding, maybe not even then. I just can't function, my head is pounding, my heart is broken, my stomach is sick. How do I get to a point where I can even function in a useful way again? How do I get through this, how do I help my grandchildren who can't understand why they lost their Daddy?
I KNEW MY COUSIN HAD BREAST CANCER AND I KNEW IT WAS TERMINAL,BUT I REFUSED TO ACCEPT IT BECAUSE SHE TOLD US THE CANCER WAS IN REMISSION AND WE BELIEVED HER.I SAW THE WEIGHT LOSS AND CRIED EVERY TIME BUT SHE TOLD ME SHE WAS GOING TO BE OKAY,SHE PROMISED.I GOT THE CALL ON THE 29TH OF APRIL AND MY HEART STOPPED!I WANTED TO HIDE,TO DIE,TO TAKE THE PAIN AWAY FROM MY SELF AND THROW IT AWAY.NOT EVERY FAMILY MEMBER IS YOUR FRIEND,BUT WE WERE VERY CLOSE FRIENDS,I LOVE HER BUT I LIKE HER THE MOST.I CAN'T GET AROUND IT,BECAUSE WE WERE TO GROW OLD TOGETHER(SHE WAS 40,TODAY THE 17TH OF MAY SHOULD HAVE BEEN HER 41ST)I WILL LOVE HER FOREVER AND LATER ON LEARN TO ACCEPT HER PASSING.
hi Nancy, i keep thinking of you and i am sure other members of this community, too - how are you doing?
hugs and prayer-thoughts

amaryllis said:
Nancy my dear, so deeply sorry i am, so close to you in my thoughts and in my heart. for now i just give you a big hug because you are under such a pain that it is not time to tell you any story, it is just time to give you love and understanding. i will come back to talk to you later on.
much, much love and God bless you.

Nancy Battersby said:
I buried my son yesterday. He was 44, married with two children 7 and 9. He was a loving, kind, generous and very sweet person, wonderful husband, son and Daddy. He died suddenly with no warning to us and we just cannot understand it.
I am numb and sick to my stomach, I can only take one minute at a time. I need to understand what happened but have to wait for the official autopsy report to be complete before I have any chance of understanding, maybe not even then. I just can't function, my head is pounding, my heart is broken, my stomach is sick. How do I get to a point where I can even function in a useful way again? How do I get through this, how do I help my grandchildren who can't understand why they lost their Daddy?
amaryllis said:
hi Nancy, i keep thinking of you and i am sure other members of this community, too - how are you doing?
hugs and prayer-thoughts

amaryllis said:
Nancy my dear, so deeply sorry i am, so close to you in my thoughts and in my heart. for now i just give you a big hug because you are under such a pain that it is not time to tell you any story, it is just time to give you love and understanding. i will come back to talk to you later on.
much, much love and God bless you.

Nancy Battersby said:
I buried my son yesterday. He was 44, married with two children 7 and 9. He was a loving, kind, generous and very sweet person, wonderful husband, son and Daddy. He died suddenly with no warning to us and we just cannot understand it.
I am numb and sick to my stomach, I can only take one minute at a time. I need to understand what happened but have to wait for the official autopsy report to be complete before I have any chance of understanding, maybe not even then. I just can't function, my head is pounding, my heart is broken, my stomach is sick. How do I get to a point where I can even function in a useful way again? How do I get through this, how do I help my grandchildren who can't understand why they lost their Daddy?

RSS

Latest Conversations

Pamela Kruger is now a member of LegacyConnect
14 hours ago
Alberto Harrison-Baxter posted a status
"I happened to see Gilbert Diaz message and it brought back painful memories after I lost my two loved ones, 3 years apart."
Wednesday
Alberto Harrison-Baxter updated their profile
Wednesday
Profile IconPaty Berwick and melony joined LegacyConnect
Wednesday

Community Guidelines

Please be respectful of others. For more information, read our Community Guidelines.

Follow Legacy

© 2020   Created by Legacy.com.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service