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amaryllis said:
May God bless you, Libby, for these good words you say to those who are going through a time of grief as you talk to them about hope and peace.
In such a moment words like yours are exactly what we mostly need. You are a blessing.
All the best.
amaryllis said:
May God bless you, Libby, for these good words you say to those who are going through a time of grief as you talk to them about hope and peace.
In such a moment words like yours are exactly what we mostly need. You are a blessing.
All the best.
THANK YOU KIMMBERLY BENDER i WILL SURE KEEP YOU IN MY PRAYERS AND THOUGHTS lET ME KNOW HOW YOU ARE DOING AND IF IO CAN ANSWER ANY OF YOUR MANY QUESTIONS JUST LET ME KNOW gOD WILL SURELY hELP YOU DOWN THIS SOMETIMES LONELY ROAD. hACE FAITH AND KEEPUP THE GOOD WORK. lET ME HJEAR FROM YOU. gOD bLESS liBBY
i lost my only son david he was 18 car accident he was 15 min late getting home from bringing his girl friend home. i had a feeling something was wrong. i searched the roads he would have taken. i found the care off the road in the woods. i did cpr in him myself being an icu nurse. this was on jan 31 2010 he also has 4 sisters a second mom and his dad we are all still numb i suffer post tram stress and i am now disabled. we just dont know how to deal
valerie becker said:
i lost my only son david he was 18 car accident he was 15 min late getting home from bringing his girl friend home. i had a feeling something was wrong. i searched the roads he would have taken. i found the care off the road in the woods. i did cpr in him myself being an icu nurse. this was on jan 31 2010 he also has 4 sisters a second mom and his dad we are all still numb i suffer post tram stress and i am now disabled. we just dont know how to deal
Dea valerie.the ther e are several reasons it is so hard for you to dal right now. 1 is the fact that you found your son, 2 the fact that you did c.p.r.and that failed.and last is that it has not been so long ago. Grief is hard work really hard work. Now all you can and shoud right now is to take one day at a time, one hr. at a time then one minute at a time. grief neveer gets in a hurry. and my dear thnik about it we really donnot want your hurting to go away we just want it to get better and believe me it will GET BETTER. the problem is i nor do you know when that will be so all i can ask of you at this time is to take it slow and easy. TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF FOR HIM IF NOT FOR ANY OTHER REASON. tRY TO RELAX A LOT. DO WHATIT IS YOU ENJOY DOING, I WOULD SUGGEST WALKING GOIN TO A PARK GO SOMEWHERE YOU AND YOUR SON USED TO GO JUST SIT AND DO NOTHING BUT THINK ABOUT THE GOOD LIFE YOU SHARED WITH YOUR SON. nO PARENT SHOULD EVER HAVE TO BURY THEIR CHILDREN. i AM NOT GOING TO TELL YOU I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GING THROUGH BECAUSE I DO NOT KNOW AT ALL WHART YOU ARE FEELING. i JUST KNOW RIGHT NOW IT HURTS SOOOOO BAD. iT IS AS IF YOU HAD CUT YOUR FINGER, YOU HVE TO TAKE CARE OF IT AND LET THE HEALING BEGAN. bUT LIKE I SAID BEFOR IT IS SURELY NOT EASY iT IS A LONG AND TIRING AND HELPLESS FEELING THAT JUST WILL NOT GO AWAY. AT LEASE FOR NOW. SO PLEASE JUST TAKE IT EASY AND DO THE VERY BEST YOU CAN. aLSOI NEED TO ADD ASK FOR GUIDENCE AND HELP FROM YOUR CHURCH FRIENDS TALK WITH YOUR PASTOR. BUT MOST OF ALL GETON YOUR KNEES AND TELL THE lORD THAT YOU ARE HURTING SO BAD AND THAT YOU COME TO HIM FOR STRENGTH AND HELP. aND I KNOW HE IS A GOOD GOD AND HE WILL ANSWER THAT PRAYER IN DAYS TO COME. tAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF AND THE REST FO YOUR FAMILY. lET ME HEAR FROM YOU. gOD bLESS.............
On dec 18, 2009 I picked up my boys from school and my middle son john went to bed when we got home he said he was just tired. i went to my youngest son kyles christmas party at school and when i got home John was still asleep. John got suspended that day for skipping which was not the first time. I woke him up later to talk to him he had a really hard time waking up. i told myself if he does not talk to me correctly i am calling 911. well he did answer my questions correctly. this was around 6:30pm friday night. i went to bed and when i got up the next morning i was getting ready to take my oldest son to take his drivers test. he asked me if i knew where Johns gloves were i said no go ahead and wake him up and ask him. he knocked on the door a couple times. i said in my head oh no something is wrong. i just had a bad feeling and when Sammy opend the door i got up and started to go in there. he came out and said there is something wrong with John he wont move. i ran in there and found John was gone. He never woke up. They are doing an autopsy but we will not know the results for a few more weeks. it is driving me crazy.

I miss him sooooooooo much! I know he did not do it on purpose but it still hurts.
Jenny Ruselowski said:
On dec 18, 2009 I picked up my boys from school and my middle son john went to bed when we got home he said he was just tired. i went to my youngest son kyles christmas party at school and when i got home John was still asleep. John got suspended that day for skipping which was not the first time. I woke him up later to talk to him he had a really hard time waking up. i told myself if he does not talk to me correctly i am calling 911. well he did answer my questions correctly. this was around 6:30pm friday night. i went to bed and when i got up the next morning i was getting ready to take my oldest son to take his drivers test. he asked me if i knew where Johns gloves were i said no go ahead and wake him up and ask him. he knocked on the door a couple times. i said in my head oh no something is wrong. i just had a bad feeling and when Sammy opend the door i got up and started to go in there. he came out and said there is something wrong with John he wont move. i ran in there and found John was gone. He never woke up. They are doing an autopsy but we will not know the results for a few more weeks. it is driving me crazy.

I miss him sooooooooo much! I know he did not do it on purpose but it still hurts.

I sometimes feel like such a failure as a mom.
Jenny Ruselowski said:
Jenny Ruselowski said:
On dec 18, 2009 I picked up my boys from school and my middle son john went to bed when we got home he said he was just tired. i went to my youngest son kyles christmas party at school and when i got home John was still asleep. John got suspended that day for skipping which was not the first time. I woke him up later to talk to him he had a really hard time waking up. i told myself if he does not talk to me correctly i am calling 911. well he did answer my questions correctly. this was around 6:30pm friday night. i went to bed and when i got up the next morning i was getting ready to take my oldest son to take his drivers test. he asked me if i knew where Johns gloves were i said no go ahead and wake him up and ask him. he knocked on the door a couple times. i said in my head oh no something is wrong. i just had a bad feeling and when Sammy opend the door i got up and started to go in there. he came out and said there is something wrong with John he wont move. i ran in there and found John was gone. He never woke up. They are doing an autopsy but we will not know the results for a few more weeks. it is driving me crazy.

I miss him sooooooooo much! I know he did not do it on purpose but it still hurts.

I sometimes feel like such a failure as a mom.
Dear jennie i am so very sorry for your loss. I can not evenimage how you are coping. Just try to remember that everything happens for a reasons i am sure you are saying yea right a reason! All i can say is just do the best that you can. and please do not feel as if you are a failure. THAT I AM SUR IS NOT THE CASE. DO YOU HAVE A HOSPICE GROUP IN YOUR AREA ? IF SO CONTACT THEM. THEY HAVE SUPPORT GROUPS THAT YOU COULD ATTEND MAYBE NOT RIGHT NOW BUT AFTER YOU BEGIN TO FEELMORE NORMAL. THEY ARE A GREAT SOURCE TO HELP YOU ON YOUR JOURNEY OF GRIEF. AND ALSO THIS LEGACY.COM HAS MANY WONDERFUL RESOURCES THAT YOU COULD GET. AND MOST OF ALL FIND SOMEONE THAT YOU AN TALK TO ANYTIME DAY OR NIGHT. TRY TO TAKE GOOD PHYSICAL CARE OF YOURSELF AND I WILL PRAY FOR YOU. JUST REMEMBER YOUR SON LOVED YOU VERY MUCH AND HE REALLY WOULD NOT WANT YOU TO BE SO SAD AND HURT. BUT YOU CAN NOT HELP THAT IT IS NATURES WAYS OF TELING YOU SOMETHING IS WRONG. SO TAKE CARE AND LET ME HEAR FROM YOU. GOD BLESS YOU IS MY PRAYER ADN MAY YOUR SON REST IN PEACE......... LIBBY
My mom was taken from us on Jan. 12th of this year 2010. Her heart stopped due to her Dr. giving her to medications at to high of dosses. I think about the morning after she was taken into the ICU becuase the paramedics gave her CPR for 15 mins and were able to get her heart started again, I was sitting next to her bed looking at her with a tub down her throat and machines everywhere hooked up to her. The ICU Dr. was asking me what happened... as I'm telling him about her health the past few days he asks me about her meds.. When I started telling him about them he had a look of disbelief all over his face... He said no no that does not make sense.. your mom is over weight,66 yrs old and a diabetic.. there is no way she could be on all of that on top of her diabetic meds..He kept probbing and asking me different ways almost the same thing trying to get a different answer.. I have grown such a hate and fear of hospital's now that I dont think I will ever go into one for any reason. At first we had hopes even when they told us that she did not get oxygen to her brain for 15mins and even if she did come out of the coma she would not have a normal life ..of couse myself and my step dad tried not to hear that ..After 4 days of tests that clearly showed she had almost 0% brain waves we decided that we would take her off life support. Almost her entire family which is very big (6 sisters, 5 brothers) came to pray and see her god knows how many nieces and nefews. The ICU Dr. Patel which will always be thought of kindly believed that she would start breathing on her on becuase she had one of the strongest hearts he had seen. Well he was right and we were so thankfull for that because HOSPIS which is the best thing ever, set up a 24hr nurse and everything needed to take care of her medical needs back at her home in her bedroom. They were all so great and made the the next two days of her life so wonderful !! Dr. Patel gave her moriphene at the highest level to make sure she was going to be in the most comfort, I spent the next almost two days sleeping on the coach and sitting with her along with my step dad and of course all of our family that would not leave her side.. She passed in the evening on Jan. 12th which is a memory I almost wish I could take away but at the same time would not want to. We had her big t.v. on with her favorite music playing the entire time and if your reading this mom I hope that made you happy and made you feel safe. It seems just like yesterday she was taking me school clothes shopping which was really along time ago considering Im 38 now. One thing that makes me feel great is knowing that a few months before she was taken from us one of her sisters, my auntie Nancy was able to get her to start reading a little bit of the bible and she found god so now when I talk to her out load and in my thoughts I feel safe that she is with him and happy again. MOMMMMAA I miss you and love you with all my heart !!

I just loSt my mother in law on the 16 of April and it has been really hard on my husband's family but especially on my husband since he was always their for her and I try to make him feel better but at the same time I miss her also how can I make him feel better when I don't feel good at all every time I think about her I cry just because she was a wonderful person she passed I. Guess her heart stopped but I'm glad she is in heaven because the Bible told me so its just the humans in us makes us hurt to know will no longer see her and enjoy her advise since she had lived life for her kids
John 5:28,29 says "do not marvel at this because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out, those who did good things to a ressurection of life,,those who practiced vile things to a ressurection of judgement." So Lynette,you can see hear that there will be a day when you can see your husband rob through ressurection. Also one more scripture is at 1 corinthians 15:20-22 says "However, now christ has been raised up from the dead,the firstfruits of those who have fallen asleep in death. For since death is through a man, ressurection of the dead is also through a man. For just as in adam all are dying, so also in the christ all will be made alive" I hope these words comfort you. Just keep these scriptures in mind.

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