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Permalink Reply by Christy Ante on November 12, 2009 at 7:38pm

Your right White Dove....
(white dove) said:

Well, arighty then! This is a place to voice our feelings, true to us, which may not reflect anothers opinions or feelings. How about if it is adopted, what is right for one may not be for another? I read all. What feels right i take in, what doesn't i disgard. As simple as that. We are here for emotional relief not debates. Now, it would be nice if we could be able to get back to talking about our dearly departed. Thank You.

Patricia St said:

Mattew 8:22 Jesus spoke, some of “the dead” were hearing his voice. Peter used similar language at 1 Peter 4:5,6. This is so because those hearing Christ were ‘dead in trespasses and sins’ before hearing but would begin to ‘live’ spiritually because of faith in the good news.—Eph 2:1

Eccl 12:7 ... "the spirit itself returns to the true God who gave it"..
The spirit is our life-force. the spirit returns to God in the sense that now our hope for future life rests entirely with God. Only by his power can the spirit, or life-force, be given back so that we live again.
We read Psalm 104:29, 30 "If you conceal your face, they get disturbed.If you take away their spirit, they expire, And back to their dust they go. If you send forth your spirit, they are created; And you make the face of the ground new.

it's an observation too... have a bless day

Rev.James Durden said:

1st Ptr.4:5,for this reason the gospel was preached to those who are dead, that they might be judged according to men in the flesh,but live according to God in the spirit.The spirit realm is alive the body sleeps not the spirit because the spirit is eternal.Death is the separation of the spirit from the body (Eccl:12:7)Then the dust (ie the body) will return to the earth as it was and the spirit will return to God who gave it.Just an observation not an arguement.
Patricia St said:

your feelings are normal, Many religions teach about death—that God takes people to be near him, but the Creator is not cruel. According to 1 John 4:8, “God is love.” Note that it does not say that God has love or that God is loving, but it says that God is love. So intense, so pure, so perfect is God’s love, so thoroughly does it permeate his personality and actions that he may rightly be spoken of as the very personification of love. This is not a God who takes people in death to be near him.

My grand mother passed away 2 years ago, I found comfort and hope on God, he is not causing death of love ones. The Bible, tells us that the dead are unconscious; they are in a condition best compared to sleep. (Ecclesiastes 9:5, 10; John 11:11-14)

i'm waiting that day, when i'll see again all my love ones who have died, and i know that they are no suffering in hell and i'm not worry about what happens to us after death.

Jehovah God is love, soon we'll to see how Jehovah will satisfy our desires (Psalm 145:16)

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Permalink Reply by (white dove) on November 12, 2009 at 8:31pm

Thank You. I have mentioned earlier that i have lost my dear mom and now our dear friend. I was visiting his wife today, and we were of course talking about him, when my friend noticed a lock of hair on the ground!!! It was her husbands hair from his last hair cut!! How it got in the back yard no one knows... but my job was to be his barber. I felt he was truly there and letting us know~ he was too! He is communicating very strong in many ways. That message was for me :) He had a spiritual nature also, and i'm sure his first quest was to learn how to communicate with us down here... for he left us all way too fast. Blessings to all

Christy Ante said:

Your right White Dove....
(white dove) said:

Well, arighty then! This is a place to voice our feelings, true to us, which may not reflect anothers opinions or feelings. How about if it is adopted, what is right for one may not be for another? I read all. What feels right i take in, what doesn't i disgard. As simple as that. We are here for emotional relief not debates. Now, it would be nice if we could be able to get back to talking about our dearly departed. Thank You.

Patricia St said:

Mattew 8:22 Jesus spoke, some of “the dead” were hearing his voice. Peter used similar language at 1 Peter 4:5,6. This is so because those hearing Christ were ‘dead in trespasses and sins’ before hearing but would begin to ‘live’ spiritually because of faith in the good news.—Eph 2:1

Eccl 12:7 ... "the spirit itself returns to the true God who gave it"..
The spirit is our life-force. the spirit returns to God in the sense that now our hope for future life rests entirely with God. Only by his power can the spirit, or life-force, be given back so that we live again.
We read Psalm 104:29, 30 "If you conceal your face, they get disturbed.If you take away their spirit, they expire, And back to their dust they go. If you send forth your spirit, they are created; And you make the face of the ground new.

it's an observation too... have a bless day

Rev.James Durden said:

1st Ptr.4:5,for this reason the gospel was preached to those who are dead, that they might be judged according to men in the flesh,but live according to God in the spirit.The spirit realm is alive the body sleeps not the spirit because the spirit is eternal.Death is the separation of the spirit from the body (Eccl:12:7)Then the dust (ie the body) will return to the earth as it was and the spirit will return to God who gave it.Just an observation not an arguement.
Patricia St said:

your feelings are normal, Many religions teach about death—that God takes people to be near him, but the Creator is not cruel. According to 1 John 4:8, “God is love.” Note that it does not say that God has love or that God is loving, but it says that God is love. So intense, so pure, so perfect is God’s love, so thoroughly does it permeate his personality and actions that he may rightly be spoken of as the very personification of love. This is not a God who takes people in death to be near him.

My grand mother passed away 2 years ago, I found comfort and hope on God, he is not causing death of love ones. The Bible, tells us that the dead are unconscious; they are in a condition best compared to sleep. (Ecclesiastes 9:5, 10; John 11:11-14)

i'm waiting that day, when i'll see again all my love ones who have died, and i know that they are no suffering in hell and i'm not worry about what happens to us after death.

Jehovah God is love, soon we'll to see how Jehovah will satisfy our desires (Psalm 145:16)

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Permalink Reply by Christy Ante on November 13, 2009 at 2:34am

Great story....I love to hear about these things that happen to others, it gives me hope. I have that same sorta thing with my son....he was told he was cancer free the first part of June and the 10th of July he was gone, the doctors did not detect the cancer in his spinal fluid until it was too late....so he left us so fast, my head still cannot wrap around it all. Because of that fast leaving and his age, I wonder if it has any effect on his communicating.

(white dove) said:

Thank You. I have mentioned earlier that i have lost my dear mom and now our dear friend. I was visiting his wife today, and we were of course talking about him, when my friend noticed a lock of hair on the ground!!! It was her husbands hair from his last hair cut!! How it got in the back yard no one knows... but my job was to be his barber. I felt he was truly there and letting us know~ he was too! He is communicating very strong in many ways. That message was for me :) He had a spiritual nature also, and i'm sure his first quest was to learn how to communicate with us down here... for he left us all way too fast. Blessings to all

Christy Ante said:

Your right White Dove....
(white dove) said:

Well, arighty then! This is a place to voice our feelings, true to us, which may not reflect anothers opinions or feelings. How about if it is adopted, what is right for one may not be for another? I read all. What feels right i take in, what doesn't i disgard. As simple as that. We are here for emotional relief not debates. Now, it would be nice if we could be able to get back to talking about our dearly departed. Thank You.

Patricia St said:

Mattew 8:22 Jesus spoke, some of “the dead” were hearing his voice. Peter used similar language at 1 Peter 4:5,6. This is so because those hearing Christ were ‘dead in trespasses and sins’ before hearing but would begin to ‘live’ spiritually because of faith in the good news.—Eph 2:1

Eccl 12:7 ... "the spirit itself returns to the true God who gave it"..
The spirit is our life-force. the spirit returns to God in the sense that now our hope for future life rests entirely with God. Only by his power can the spirit, or life-force, be given back so that we live again.
We read Psalm 104:29, 30 "If you conceal your face, they get disturbed.If you take away their spirit, they expire, And back to their dust they go. If you send forth your spirit, they are created; And you make the face of the ground new.

it's an observation too... have a bless day

Rev.James Durden said:

1st Ptr.4:5,for this reason the gospel was preached to those who are dead, that they might be judged according to men in the flesh,but live according to God in the spirit.The spirit realm is alive the body sleeps not the spirit because the spirit is eternal.Death is the separation of the spirit from the body (Eccl:12:7)Then the dust (ie the body) will return to the earth as it was and the spirit will return to God who gave it.Just an observation not an arguement.
Patricia St said:

your feelings are normal, Many religions teach about death—that God takes people to be near him, but the Creator is not cruel. According to 1 John 4:8, “God is love.” Note that it does not say that God has love or that God is loving, but it says that God is love. So intense, so pure, so perfect is God’s love, so thoroughly does it permeate his personality and actions that he may rightly be spoken of as the very personification of love. This is not a God who takes people in death to be near him.

My grand mother passed away 2 years ago, I found comfort and hope on God, he is not causing death of love ones. The Bible, tells us that the dead are unconscious; they are in a condition best compared to sleep. (Ecclesiastes 9:5, 10; John 11:11-14)

i'm waiting that day, when i'll see again all my love ones who have died, and i know that they are no suffering in hell and i'm not worry about what happens to us after death.

Jehovah God is love, soon we'll to see how Jehovah will satisfy our desires (Psalm 145:16)

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Permalink Reply by (white dove) on November 13, 2009 at 7:08am

While my mom was well, her 2 brothers and a sister passed, my mom missed them terribly. I remember her telling me about a card her sister sent to her... way before her leaving, fell right on the floor. My mom saw this as a sign that she had reached her destination. She was searching... couldn't believe her sister passed because of her living so far away and the daughter gave NO official notice of this happening to any family members. My mom felt so without any hard evidence-for lack of a better word. But once she saw that card jump off her table onto the floor, she knew. Later i felt my mom's brothers and sister were in waiting... they came in pretty heavily for my mom. All for guidance for her. She even had a dream of our dear neice who left us about 20 yrs ago! My cousin told her in her dream "to take it slow". And i have to say she sure did!!!

Christy Ante said:

Great story....I love to hear about these things that happen to others, it gives me hope. I have that same sorta thing with my son....he was told he was cancer free the first part of June and the 10th of July he was gone, the doctors did not detect the cancer in his spinal fluid until it was too late....so he left us so fast, my head still cannot wrap around it all. Because of that fast leaving and his age, I wonder if it has any effect on his communicating.

(white dove) said:

Thank You. I have mentioned earlier that i have lost my dear mom and now our dear friend. I was visiting his wife today, and we were of course talking about him, when my friend noticed a lock of hair on the ground!!! It was her husbands hair from his last hair cut!! How it got in the back yard no one knows... but my job was to be his barber. I felt he was truly there and letting us know~ he was too! He is communicating very strong in many ways. That message was for me :) He had a spiritual nature also, and i'm sure his first quest was to learn how to communicate with us down here... for he left us all way too fast. Blessings to all

Christy Ante said:

Your right White Dove....
(white dove) said:

Well, arighty then! This is a place to voice our feelings, true to us, which may not reflect anothers opinions or feelings. How about if it is adopted, what is right for one may not be for another? I read all. What feels right i take in, what doesn't i disgard. As simple as that. We are here for emotional relief not debates. Now, it would be nice if we could be able to get back to talking about our dearly departed. Thank You.

Patricia St said:

Mattew 8:22 Jesus spoke, some of “the dead” were hearing his voice. Peter used similar language at 1 Peter 4:5,6. This is so because those hearing Christ were ‘dead in trespasses and sins’ before hearing but would begin to ‘live’ spiritually because of faith in the good news.—Eph 2:1

Eccl 12:7 ... "the spirit itself returns to the true God who gave it"..
The spirit is our life-force. the spirit returns to God in the sense that now our hope for future life rests entirely with God. Only by his power can the spirit, or life-force, be given back so that we live again.
We read Psalm 104:29, 30 "If you conceal your face, they get disturbed.If you take away their spirit, they expire, And back to their dust they go. If you send forth your spirit, they are created; And you make the face of the ground new.

it's an observation too... have a bless day

Rev.James Durden said:

1st Ptr.4:5,for this reason the gospel was preached to those who are dead, that they might be judged according to men in the flesh,but live according to God in the spirit.The spirit realm is alive the body sleeps not the spirit because the spirit is eternal.Death is the separation of the spirit from the body (Eccl:12:7)Then the dust (ie the body) will return to the earth as it was and the spirit will return to God who gave it.Just an observation not an arguement.
Patricia St said:

your feelings are normal, Many religions teach about death—that God takes people to be near him, but the Creator is not cruel. According to 1 John 4:8, “God is love.” Note that it does not say that God has love or that God is loving, but it says that God is love. So intense, so pure, so perfect is God’s love, so thoroughly does it permeate his personality and actions that he may rightly be spoken of as the very personification of love. This is not a God who takes people in death to be near him.

My grand mother passed away 2 years ago, I found comfort and hope on God, he is not causing death of love ones. The Bible, tells us that the dead are unconscious; they are in a condition best compared to sleep. (Ecclesiastes 9:5, 10; John 11:11-14)

i'm waiting that day, when i'll see again all my love ones who have died, and i know that they are no suffering in hell and i'm not worry about what happens to us after death.

Jehovah God is love, soon we'll to see how Jehovah will satisfy our desires (Psalm 145:16)

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Permalink Reply by Christy Ante on November 14, 2009 at 1:14am

So I have written before how I am so desperate for a sign from my beloved 8year old son. Last night I am watching Project Runway which I never watch....and all of a sudden they talk about a fashion show to take place in "Bryant Park". My sons name is Bryant and its a name that you really do not see or hear very often. I am going to try and take this as some sorta sign from him....its reaching I know, but I am going to take it. I am still waiting for that visit, but I am learning to let go of him and try not to grieve so hard. The last thing I would want is to "trap" him from moving on.

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Permalink Reply by (white dove) on November 14, 2009 at 7:12am

Dear Christy, I feel similiar in not wanting my beloveds souls trapped or stuck here with us! This may sound a little far fetched but, i was watching a tv series "Ghost Whisperer". There is a man who was so lonesome, he trapped and tricked souls to stay with him. This i do NOT want to do. I know our loved ones may have worried about US left behind. I personally need to get stronger so they know i will be alright. I have talks with my mom and friend often. Asking them respectfully of course, to go along on their journey and not to worry. While taking care of my dear mom, i held her hand and was at her bedside through out... she was in a coma for a week before she grew her wings ;) and wouldnt you know, that the very first time i threw a pillow on the floor and turned on the tv... and physically seperated my presence from her, (at this point i was horrified to see the extreme process of her body leaving, and i just couldn't handle it anylonger) and i crashed hard in front of that tv at the foot end of my moms bed... is when SHE chose to leave!! Now i see it as a type of message to me. She wanting to stay for ME! So could it be possible a soul may do the same? For this, I pray for them to be free. I did learn also, that each and everyone of us has our own way, timing, ideas on chosing the "time" of departure. Of course not in an accident or other ways.... I needed to cut the extreme connection of my mourning from them so they can continue on... as i told our dear friend, after they started him on morphine drip, "I will see you later my friend". And that i truly feel to be a fact. My beloveds were "trapped" in pain and procedures, and illness in their bodies. Now its time for my Buddies to have alittle fun, and freedom!! Oh i am sure they will check back every now and then, in my time here, i also need to get back to living FOR THEM.

Christy Ante said:

So I have written before how I am so desperate for a sign from my beloved 8year old son. Last night I am watching Project Runway which I never watch....and all of a sudden they talk about a fashion show to take place in "Bryant Park". My sons name is Bryant and its a name that you really do not see or hear very often. I am going to try and take this as some sorta sign from him....its reaching I know, but I am going to take it. I am still waiting for that visit, but I am learning to let go of him and try not to grieve so hard. The last thing I would want is to "trap" him from moving on.

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Permalink Reply by shanon l on November 14, 2009 at 1:01pm

i have lost my grandparents and my mom and my uncle -moms brother. seems like the whole family is gone-but i know they arent. after my grandfather died in 1993, he came to me in a dream and told me that whenever i needed him, he would be there. and he has, in my dreams, not alot, but there. he also leaves pennys all over my floor! lol, i know hes around. my grandmother is a whole other story-she and i used to have entire conversations-she at her house and me at mine. when she was dying i told her to come back, just once, to let me know that there was another side-she did. she died in 1995, she still comes back to see me, although not as often as she did. a month before my mom died, my grandmother was literally at my side, i could smell her, feel her-she was all around me. it was just after christmas, moms last one, and i was helping her pack up all of her christmas stuff-she was labeling everything so everyone knew what was theirs-and she was yelling at me to stop tugging her shirt, i laughed at her because i was in the other room-i told her, its your mother-shes trying to get your attention! she turned at looked at me in total shock and disbelief-i said, shes right here with us mom, shes been all day-my mom looked at me and asked if that meant her time was close, i told her i didnt know, but if she asked her mom, she would come to her and tell her what she wanted to know-mom died 2 weeks later. the night she died, there was snow on the ground. she died at midnight. just after the funeral home had left with her body, i was standing outside, in the bitter cold crying. i looked up to the sky and told my mom how much i would miss her-in my ear i heard my moms voice say " i will never be more than a heartbeat away", then i heard the snow crunch, like someone walking. i knew she had to go see someone, she did. my brother called me the next day and told me about a crazy dream he had about mom.....he was asleep, and he heard her call to him-he woke up and saw a figure standing beside his bed, he told me it looked just like mom, and it she told him " i will never be more than a heartbeat away", now my brother doesnt believe in this sort of thing, but he does now. when he told me that i had to laugh, i know now that i have two angels watching over me. when my uncle passed, i felt the presence of my mom and grandparents-but now that the family is all together, i hardly see them-but, the pennys are still there and every so often, i swear i can smell my mommoms perfume-or my youngest will say something so out of the blue, i know its mom.

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Permalink Reply by Christy Ante on November 15, 2009 at 12:57am

Thanks for sharing....it give me hope that I will get that someday.

shanon l said:

i have lost my grandparents and my mom and my uncle -moms brother. seems like the whole family is gone-but i know they arent. after my grandfather died in 1993, he came to me in a dream and told me that whenever i needed him, he would be there. and he has, in my dreams, not alot, but there. he also leaves pennys all over my floor! lol, i know hes around. my grandmother is a whole other story-she and i used to have entire conversations-she at her house and me at mine. when she was dying i told her to come back, just once, to let me know that there was another side-she did. she died in 1995, she still comes back to see me, although not as often as she did. a month before my mom died, my grandmother was literally at my side, i could smell her, feel her-she was all around me. it was just after christmas, moms last one, and i was helping her pack up all of her christmas stuff-she was labeling everything so everyone knew what was theirs-and she was yelling at me to stop tugging her shirt, i laughed at her because i was in the other room-i told her, its your mother-shes trying to get your attention! she turned at looked at me in total shock and disbelief-i said, shes right here with us mom, shes been all day-my mom looked at me and asked if that meant her time was close, i told her i didnt know, but if she asked her mom, she would come to her and tell her what she wanted to know-mom died 2 weeks later. the night she died, there was snow on the ground. she died at midnight. just after the funeral home had left with her body, i was standing outside, in the bitter cold crying. i looked up to the sky and told my mom how much i would miss her-in my ear i heard my moms voice say " i will never be more than a heartbeat away", then i heard the snow crunch, like someone walking. i knew she had to go see someone, she did. my brother called me the next day and told me about a crazy dream he had about mom.....he was asleep, and he heard her call to him-he woke up and saw a figure standing beside his bed, he told me it looked just like mom, and it she told him " i will never be more than a heartbeat away", now my brother doesnt believe in this sort of thing, but he does now. when he told me that i had to laugh, i know now that i have two angels watching over me. when my uncle passed, i felt the presence of my mom and grandparents-but now that the family is all together, i hardly see them-but, the pennys are still there and every so often, i swear i can smell my mommoms perfume-or my youngest will say something so out of the blue, i know its mom.

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Permalink Reply by Christy Ante on November 15, 2009 at 12:58am

You are just so wise, you really are. You seem to be in a very good place in your grief over your mom and friend.....I hope to be that someday too. SMILE
(white dove) said:

Dear Christy, I feel similiar in not wanting my beloveds souls trapped or stuck here with us! This may sound a little far fetched but, i was watching a tv series "Ghost Whisperer". There is a man who was so lonesome, he trapped and tricked souls to stay with him. This i do NOT want to do. I know our loved ones may have worried about US left behind. I personally need to get stronger so they know i will be alright. I have talks with my mom and friend often. Asking them respectfully of course, to go along on their journey and not to worry. While taking care of my dear mom, i held her hand and was at her bedside through out... she was in a coma for a week before she grew her wings ;) and wouldnt you know, that the very first time i threw a pillow on the floor and turned on the tv... and physically seperated my presence from her, (at this point i was horrified to see the extreme process of her body leaving, and i just couldn't handle it anylonger) and i crashed hard in front of that tv at the foot end of my moms bed... is when SHE chose to leave!! Now i see it as a type of message to me. She wanting to stay for ME! So could it be possible a soul may do the same? For this, I pray for them to be free. I did learn also, that each and everyone of us has our own way, timing, ideas on chosing the "time" of departure. Of course not in an accident or other ways.... I needed to cut the extreme connection of my mourning from them so they can continue on... as i told our dear friend, after they started him on morphine drip, "I will see you later my friend". And that i truly feel to be a fact. My beloveds were "trapped" in pain and procedures, and illness in their bodies. Now its time for my Buddies to have alittle fun, and freedom!! Oh i am sure they will check back every now and then, in my time here, i also need to get back to living FOR THEM.

Christy Ante said:

So I have written before how I am so desperate for a sign from my beloved 8year old son. Last night I am watching Project Runway which I never watch....and all of a sudden they talk about a fashion show to take place in "Bryant Park". My sons name is Bryant and its a name that you really do not see or hear very often. I am going to try and take this as some sorta sign from him....its reaching I know, but I am going to take it. I am still waiting for that visit, but I am learning to let go of him and try not to grieve so hard. The last thing I would want is to "trap" him from moving on.

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Permalink Reply by (white dove) on November 15, 2009 at 8:19am

Christy, I just had a profound thought regarding your dear dear son. At his age, and his illness, was part of his childhood taken on this earth during all? Could it be possible, he's catching up a little now on all he couldn't do while being here? I pray, he will come to you in the most special way only his mama and he would know very well. And in being so young, he was still very close to God... some say babies come to us straight from Heaven, and can read our aura's, and see our angels over us.. but as time goes on, this starts to leave or fade.. maybe he stayed close all along. He may be right over your shoulder now, and is watching over You! Blessings to you dear, for we all have our own time, in our mourning... and i think we all go through this at VERY different times. My daughter and i attended our dear friends memorial yesterday... I was a little bit in shock. So Many showed, all that diserted our friends during his illness. It was a little bit difficult for me to see the laughing, joking, and even drinking during such a sad time. However, i feel blessed that i was there during his journey and i know all of my friends heartfelt feelings... right up to his leaving. But, i just wasn't in the partying mood thats for sure. Their ways, not mine!


Christy Ante said:

You are just so wise, you really are. You seem to be in a very good place in your grief over your mom and friend.....I hope to be that someday too. SMILE
(white dove) said:

Dear Christy, I feel similiar in not wanting my beloveds souls trapped or stuck here with us! This may sound a little far fetched but, i was watching a tv series "Ghost Whisperer". There is a man who was so lonesome, he trapped and tricked souls to stay with him. This i do NOT want to do. I know our loved ones may have worried about US left behind. I personally need to get stronger so they know i will be alright. I have talks with my mom and friend often. Asking them respectfully of course, to go along on their journey and not to worry. While taking care of my dear mom, i held her hand and was at her bedside through out... she was in a coma for a week before she grew her wings ;) and wouldnt you know, that the very first time i threw a pillow on the floor and turned on the tv... and physically seperated my presence from her, (at this point i was horrified to see the extreme process of her body leaving, and i just couldn't handle it anylonger) and i crashed hard in front of that tv at the foot end of my moms bed... is when SHE chose to leave!! Now i see it as a type of message to me. She wanting to stay for ME! So could it be possible a soul may do the same? For this, I pray for them to be free. I did learn also, that each and everyone of us has our own way, timing, ideas on chosing the "time" of departure. Of course not in an accident or other ways.... I needed to cut the extreme connection of my mourning from them so they can continue on... as i told our dear friend, after they started him on morphine drip, "I will see you later my friend". And that i truly feel to be a fact. My beloveds were "trapped" in pain and procedures, and illness in their bodies. Now its time for my Buddies to have alittle fun, and freedom!! Oh i am sure they will check back every now and then, in my time here, i also need to get back to living FOR THEM.

Christy Ante said:

So I have written before how I am so desperate for a sign from my beloved 8year old son. Last night I am watching Project Runway which I never watch....and all of a sudden they talk about a fashion show to take place in "Bryant Park". My sons name is Bryant and its a name that you really do not see or hear very often. I am going to try and take this as some sorta sign from him....its reaching I know, but I am going to take it. I am still waiting for that visit, but I am learning to let go of him and try not to grieve so hard. The last thing I would want is to "trap" him from moving on.

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Permalink Reply by Christy Ante on November 16, 2009 at 12:39am

Ugh, not a good day for you it sounds like. I remember the day of my son's funeral ( at his reception ) and looking at everyone doing "their own thing" some are chatting about meaningless garbage and joking and thinking how on Earth does this happen ?? How can it be that they just go on like nothing happened and yet I am devastated. Loss is just so down right hard to take.
You might be on to something with his just being a kid right about now....He was diagnosed when he just turned 6 and passed away at 8...so for as long as he knew he was a "chemo kid". He loved being outside and getting dirty so he is probably pretty busy just being a kid. I too hope that one day I will get to hear from him as I miss him so very much. Thanks for your kind words, like I said I have been inspired by you.

(white dove) said:

Christy, I just had a profound thought regarding your dear dear son. At his age, and his illness, was part of his childhood taken on this earth during all? Could it be possible, he's catching up a little now on all he couldn't do while being here? I pray, he will come to you in the most special way only his mama and he would know very well. And in being so young, he was still very close to God... some say babies come to us straight from Heaven, and can read our aura's, and see our angels over us.. but as time goes on, this starts to leave or fade.. maybe he stayed close all along. He may be right over your shoulder now, and is watching over You! Blessings to you dear, for we all have our own time, in our mourning... and i think we all go through this at VERY different times. My daughter and i attended our dear friends memorial yesterday... I was a little bit in shock. So Many showed, all that diserted our friends during his illness. It was a little bit difficult for me to see the laughing, joking, and even drinking during such a sad time. However, i feel blessed that i was there during his journey and i know all of my friends heartfelt feelings... right up to his leaving. But, i just wasn't in the partying mood thats for sure. Their ways, not mine!


Christy Ante said:

You are just so wise, you really are. You seem to be in a very good place in your grief over your mom and friend.....I hope to be that someday too. SMILE
(white dove) said:

Dear Christy, I feel similiar in not wanting my beloveds souls trapped or stuck here with us! This may sound a little far fetched but, i was watching a tv series "Ghost Whisperer". There is a man who was so lonesome, he trapped and tricked souls to stay with him. This i do NOT want to do. I know our loved ones may have worried about US left behind. I personally need to get stronger so they know i will be alright. I have talks with my mom and friend often. Asking them respectfully of course, to go along on their journey and not to worry. While taking care of my dear mom, i held her hand and was at her bedside through out... she was in a coma for a week before she grew her wings ;) and wouldnt you know, that the very first time i threw a pillow on the floor and turned on the tv... and physically seperated my presence from her, (at this point i was horrified to see the extreme process of her body leaving, and i just couldn't handle it anylonger) and i crashed hard in front of that tv at the foot end of my moms bed... is when SHE chose to leave!! Now i see it as a type of message to me. She wanting to stay for ME! So could it be possible a soul may do the same? For this, I pray for them to be free. I did learn also, that each and everyone of us has our own way, timing, ideas on chosing the "time" of departure. Of course not in an accident or other ways.... I needed to cut the extreme connection of my mourning from them so they can continue on... as i told our dear friend, after they started him on morphine drip, "I will see you later my friend". And that i truly feel to be a fact. My beloveds were "trapped" in pain and procedures, and illness in their bodies. Now its time for my Buddies to have alittle fun, and freedom!! Oh i am sure they will check back every now and then, in my time here, i also need to get back to living FOR THEM.

Christy Ante said:

So I have written before how I am so desperate for a sign from my beloved 8year old son. Last night I am watching Project Runway which I never watch....and all of a sudden they talk about a fashion show to take place in "Bryant Park". My sons name is Bryant and its a name that you really do not see or hear very often. I am going to try and take this as some sorta sign from him....its reaching I know, but I am going to take it. I am still waiting for that visit, but I am learning to let go of him and try not to grieve so hard. The last thing I would want is to "trap" him from moving on.

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Permalink Reply by Mary Leaver on November 16, 2009 at 4:58am

Very recently I was a "sitter" for a class of medium students who were progressing to the next level. I'd been meaning to become a student of the class, but hadn't yet become one, when the mediator/teacher was sending out a request for a couple of sitters for the class to read one evening.

To say it was an awesome evening, would be the biggest understatement of the century. I was the most incredible evening in quite some time. There were 7 students and each of them had messages for me from Joe, he'd made an appearance front and center. They knew nothing about me...please note that I am an intuitive myself and been on this psychic path most of my life AND since the death of my husband 4 years ago, had wanted to develop my skills to connect with him. 4 years later, I STILL cannot imagine a life with someone else. Yes, I've begun to date, but that's not yet going anywhere as I still can't put Joe in the past. (YES even psychics have a very hard time on the grief path.) They knew only my name. The first lady connected with Joe very quickly. She said she felt he was "waiting" for her, she'd felt all day that the evening would bring important messages to someone who needed to hear them, and as soon as I walked into the room that night she knew it would be me. They call connected and validated things about our life together. That Trista (my daughter, his stepdaughter) still remembered him every day. When I asked for validation, he laughed and said refrigerator decorations. That's what he called my magnent collection. And Trista used to make fun of them and swear that she'd never do same. But Joe's pix and memorial write up is there now...and she sees it daily. ALL KINDS of validation came through that night with EVERY single student. That he used to send me Oceana roses, the color of his favorite rose=red and mine=yellow! That we were RV'rs and loved our time in that "rolling camp". That the thunderbolt struck us both the first time we touched...that our lives changed forever that night...that we knew we were from the same "soul group" and had many lives together...AND that we'd made a promise to each other, that whichever one died first, would validate for the other certain things to let the survivor know that was true and that we could communicate with each other. And that he'd missed me as it had been a long time since we'd connected and he had so much to remind me of...it'd been over a year since I'd actively connected with him. Was trying to move on. I'm on an international business trip and on the way over here, (left the next day after sitting for the class) I was awaken from sleeping knowing that Joe was there I smelled his cologne...ON THE PLANE...that he was travelling with me like we'd dreamed of him doing...my business trips take me to some really exotic places. I absolutely believe we can communicate with the other side at will...we need only to raise our vibration enough to do that. I know it's true...I've been living it, Mrs. Joe H Leaver

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