My husband kept telling me to put him in a cardboard box and throw him away. I wouldn't do that. But I found a beautiful wooden box at Goodwill for $5 a few months into his illness. I kept it in the back room with stuff for the grandchildren. Then when he passed on I polished it up really nice and used it for his urn. I honored his wish not to waste money and reused a beautiful handmade object. No one questioned where it came from and my children and I got to smile privately.
I personally think choosing the urn for the ashes is a beautiful way to keep the family involved and help with their grief. When we lost my grandmother five years ago we chose a beautiful wood urn to keep her and my grandfather's ashes in. We looked at what the funeral home had to offer and a friend gave us a site that we eventually ended up ordering from. All of us wrote down our top three choices and we went with majority rules. It's nice that all of us had somewhat of a say in where we laid them to rest and the company was able to custom order the urn in companion size. It's the first thing I look for when I go to my mom's house. We ended up with the purpleheart and the pic doesn't do it justice. wood urns hope this helps.
Hi, I lost my dad to Lake Michigan two years ago. Here's an article on from the Huffington Post about it. I loved him so much and was so sad to have lost him. Because I found a lack of resources for bereaved teens who have lost a parent, I decided to create an online resource and site for people similar to my situation: hence www.slapd.com was born! (SLAP'D: Surviving Life after Parent Dies)
It will be officially launched soon, but you can still check out the site. at www.slapd.com.
The Twitter is www.twitter.com/slapd_teen
Our Instagram is www.instagram.com/slapdnonprofit
Our Facebook is https://www.facebook.com/SurvivingLifeAfterAParentDies
Please do not hesitate to give me feedback, or ideas on how to improve it. We have forums, ask columns, interviews and articles, and a place to create a tribute page or memorialize your loved one. :)
Sorry, I don't mean to spam. I just want to help others like me. Loved my dad so much.
I am a certified GC with the Academy of Grief Counseling. We have an assortment of blogs that can serve as resources for those grieving. You are free to read them and also find us on social media. While we are not primarily a grief counseling agency but a professional organization that trains counselors in bereavement counseling, we still do have articles etc. So feel free to look
Mark Moran, GC