Grief support: No matter what your age, losing your dad can be difficult. Share your grief and talk with others who are coping with the death of their fathers.

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To all that come here for help, or to give help may God give you peace during the holiday season.
The best thing to do is to talk to people you trust and to not be afraid to show how you feel. dont forget that crying is ok
I lost my father on september 18, 2010. He died of a massive heart attack with no warning signs. 
I was always considered "daddy's little girl". He was my "go-to" person. Anytime I needed anything, he was always there. 
Now he isn't. 
I feel so lost and lonely. He was my best friend. 
Thanksgiving was the first holiday without him and it was extremely difficult. 
I miss him so much and hurt so bad. 
Someone help me get through this...



Monica Salisbury said:
I recently just lost my dad two weeks ago unexpectedly to a heart problem. It is so hard for me to comprehend that he is gone. I am trying to stay strong for my mom and my brother. I just had a birthday this past friday and it wasnt the same with out him. I was my dads only daughter out of three boys. I feel so lost without him :(. Not sure on how to cope with him being gone.

i know how u feel, about not sure how to cope. i feel the same way. i have no clue how we r gunna all get through this...
Thanksgiving was definetly hard. I know people say over time things will get easier. But if your a daddy's girl like me i dont think it will till we meet them again.


Jessica Brief said:



Monica Salisbury said:
I recently just lost my dad two weeks ago unexpectedly to a heart problem. It is so hard for me to comprehend that he is gone. I am trying to stay strong for my mom and my brother. I just had a birthday this past friday and it wasnt the same with out him. I was my dads only daughter out of three boys. I feel so lost without him :(. Not sure on how to cope with him being gone.

i know how u feel, about not sure how to cope. i feel the same way. i have no clue how we r gunna all get through this...
My dad died on the 9th of September this year. When I was young he was great, then when I grew up and got my own life he didn't connect with me anymore. We were distant and in the end it was too difficult to spend time with him. He just made me feel bad whenever I saw him. I knew he was going to die eventually from his kidney and heart problems. Dialysis can't work forever. I got to see him on his last day in hospital. I'm glad. I got to tell him that we'd all be okay and that it was okay for him to go. I didn't really register that he'd die that night. I wish I'd known. The doctors knew.. but when I went back in the morning he had died overnight. I miss him even though we weren't that close. The worst thing was watching him over the years get weaker and weaker. It's not good to see a big man cry from being in pain for so long. RIP ... I miss you dad.
I lost my dad 6 weeks ago. He was diagnosed with lung cancer one year ago this week. I wasn't too worried back then cuz the doctors said that they werent going to treat him, they were going to cure him. They removed his lung, and he was doing so well. I knew that I would eventually lose him because cancer always wins in the end. I just thought we had more time. He was doing good, but it was just one thing after another. he developed a large blood clot in his remaining lung which caused him to miss my wedding. He fought through that, but then a couple of months later, the cancer came back in his back. He fought past that, but then it attacked his liver and his good lung. He was the cat with nine lives. I was wondering when his luck would run out. Dad called me and told me that the cancer had spread and they were going to stop fighting it. He said he had 3 weeks left. That was a Tuesday. We lost him in the early hours of the following thursday. He went from being pretty much okay, to being gone forever very quickly. I still can;t wrap my brain around it. Im like a little kid. My daddy can't reaaly be gone. He was always sitting in his spot on the couch. Its just not possible that Ill never see him again. The problem I'm having is that the numbness and disbelief is wearing off. Im starting to realize that I really wont hear his laugh anymore. That spot on the couch is so darn empty. Oh my God this hurts. Its hard to breathe sometimes, and I cant belief I am not dehydrated from all the shed tears. I have no idea how my mom is still breathing. She is hurting so much more than I am, and somehow she manages to hold on.

Oh My Daddy! I cant find enough words to describe the most amazing Parent, friend, teacher, man my father was to me. I lost my dear daddy on November 8th, 2010. And, I m still waiting to wake up from this nightmare. Only if we were able to say Goodbye i keep saying to myself. My Daddy just dropped dead  and we still dont know why. I struggle everyday just trying to replay what happened? What did I not see. What could I have done? Whats wrong with me? My daddy and I have been together for my whole life. He worked hard everyday. He was only 69. I dont even remember my daddy growing old. All I know is I need him. He would give me the best direction, the best advice. He is one of the only people I know that doesnt have a selfish bone in his body. My Daddy gave to everyone even if he didnt have. That was the story of his life. That is what made him feel great! And, I just wish if I was there with him when he died. Maybe he needed me, or called for me..? I will never know. Whats worst is I dont even know what happened to my Dad. I do know it was natural and that does give me some comfort. Not enough though..

I am so sorry for anyone going through this. Sometimes I sit back with amazement when I am reading all the post because I cant believe this many people are feeling the same way I am. While all along I thought I was alone. I am so sorry for your sudden loss. I lost my Daddy on November 8th. And time has frozen since then.  Its funny beacuse people just dont really realize just how your life stops when something so tramatic has happened. I just pray for you and I and everyone else that we all start to find alittle comfort from somewhere..

 

Prayinf for you all the way from Dallas...

 

Allison

Jessica Brief said:




Monica Salisbury said:
I recently just lost my dad two weeks ago unexpectedly to a heart problem. It is so hard for me to comprehend that he is gone. I am trying to stay strong for my mom and my brother. I just had a birthday this past friday and it wasnt the same with out him. I was my dads only daughter out of three boys. I feel so lost without him :(. Not sure on how to cope with him being gone.

i know how u feel, about not sure how to cope. i feel the same way. i have no clue how we r gunna all get through this...

My Dad died December 21, 2010 and his funeral is scheduled for the day after tomorrow.

I miss him already.  Though he wasa old (88) and I am an adult, the pain of losing him is terrible.  My Dad loved the winter and always got on my case about shoveling the snow in front of our house.  This morning while watching the snow fall I thought of him and could almost hear his voice saying "be sure to clean up the snow".

Liz,

I do understand your emotions and how it hurts so much after the passing of one's parent.  You will miss your Dad no matter what!!  Just treasure the memories that you have of your Dad and seek comfort in the scriptures  (Romans 15:4)  Have faith in what the scriptures say in regards to the dead and the many promises made to us by God (Revelation 21:3,4;  Daniel 2:44;  Ecclesiastes 9:5) 

My Dad passed away in 2007 and I still miss him; I hear over and over his words of wisdom,  He had so much knowledge about LIFE.  We will never wake up and say "I don't miss my Dad."   I feel, I will always miss him - time will heal the pain - but I will always long to see him and want to have that "one more conversation" with him,  

So, in the events of things - you take your time in dealing with the death of your Dad.  Just remember - Death is not NORMAL - God did not create us to live and die; he had bigger and better plans for us.  (Romans 5:12). 

Liz said:

My Dad died December 21, 2010 and his funeral is scheduled for the day after tomorrow.

I miss him already.  Though he wasa old (88) and I am an adult, the pain of losing him is terrible.  My Dad loved the winter and always got on my case about shoveling the snow in front of our house.  This morning while watching the snow fall I thought of him and could almost hear his voice saying "be sure to clean up the snow".

My Father loving ,caring ,and ,wise are just a few of words to encompass a man that had a heart of generosity .  A son that loved his parents , a brother that loved each of his many sisters and brothers , and a loving  husband and a father who loved his children more then you could imagine a Father could love his children .  Sadly he passed away not a few years ago , which at times just seems like yesterday for the pain still is as deep .  I always wonder why it is when one is able now is able to maybe start doing things for themselves that this is when you here about them getting sick or dying . In my Fathers case both .  He now did not have to take care of us anymore . He was able to stop working and just be .   I always hoped to give back to him in growing up , not so much in material things but at least let him know he was loved .  As I had hoped that maybe now it was a chance to gave back to him in anyway I could , with that same enormous love my heart held for him .  Cancer hardly gave him a chance , no cure , no band aid even to make his days comfortable .    The call that day was one that dropped me to the floor  , a wrenching yet no scream came from me .  Life as I knew it would never be the same .   My saddens was for all those who loved him so knowing the pain they too must be feeling .  Unable to say anything about my feeling for along time of how I truly felt for fear if I did the wall of emotion would come down .  I still to this day have not felt it all for I am able to some how put up this wall . Maybe it is because my Mother and dear Sister have passed just recently too that I can not maintain with all that I maybe feeling  .  I just know I was blessed in life with wonderful Father one gave to me at times more then he had  wishing now I just could turn back the clock so to now be the one to give back to him . Though only to know that God has his Angel my Father sitting up in heaven right beside him.

 

To all of you , comfort and love for being so blessed with the Fathers we all we able to have

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