Remembering Dad

Grief support: No matter what your age, losing your dad can be difficult. Share your grief and talk with others who are coping with the death of their fathers.

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Permalink Reply by River of Tears on March 22, 2011 at 5:20am

Dear Freddie , What a touching yet sad reading of the passing of your Father and also your Mother and Sister.

What was so touching is something that seems to be so simple for many yet you put it in words that came so clear of love and time that you so appreciated with a man you called your Father . Just as in when the time on the clock will remind of when we used to do things with them as you , almost brought me to tears though today seems if I would I would not stop . So many thoughts of my Father of late , not sure why as he is always on my mind yet for some reason he feels so close by . He passed not long ago as did my Mother and Sister in the last few months . All as your family now I can only believe are angels in heaven . Hoping and praying for all that this is where there is peace and joy for them to find and freedom from any pain or anguish one may face in life .. The love for you father seems to be as gentle and caring as your words are. Ones that now your Sister children will be able to feel and hear . Ones I hope you have in you life so to bring you comfort at this time of great pain .. A comfort you would hope all would have everyday in there life .. What you have shared today is as you saw the clock turn to the 8 pm it reminded me that all time does not slip through your fingers as I have written before . As it is in the memories of even the time of day that brings back that warmth in your heart of being with someone you so love . One that will forever stay in your heart

Please take care . Blessing to you and all

Freddie Reyes said:

It has been 5 months since I lost my dad. Tonite when I checked the time and saw that it was 8:00 pm it brought back memories. Around 8:00 was the time I would usually warm up the coffee and serve our nightly dessert.My life has changed so much since the day he left.I no longer live in the apt. we shared and called home for the last 5 years.I rent a room in a house full of strangers.I don't cook any breakfast , lunch , or dinner as I did for him. I eat out , or just have snacks.I'm hoping things will ge better once I go back to work,which will be in 5 days , I've been off since Sept. dad passed in Oct. I've had too much time alone.I've been holding up pretty well, except when I thought of those memories tonite , they brought tears to my eyes.I lost my mom in 2002,my sister in 2009,and my dad in 2010. I do have another sister and I had lunch with her this weekend , I have my sisters daughters , but I do lead a very lonely life....The pain is still fresh , so I'm sure in time things will get better....

Permalink Reply by Ty on June 17, 2011 at 10:22pm

Well father day is around the corner and it will always be on the same month of my dad's passing.
Kind of a tough annual reminder. However he always taught us how to be independent; and we will always to look up to him.....

Permalink Reply by Norma D'Andre Batson on June 18, 2011 at 2:21pm

LEWIS NORMAN BATSON. The greatest father ever.It was for too short a time we had to spend together but I knew you always had me in your heart and mind. I will continue to love those memories though. I thank GOD for you and mom,Blanche. You love for each other created me and for that I am more than grateful. Norma D'Andre Batson

Permalink Reply by River of Tears on June 19, 2011 at 3:27am

In waking today as I have the many days since my father past away , I so often wish I could just pick up the phone as I used to ask him how he was and share what was going on . Most calls were filled with laughter , since he always had just heard a new joke or two from one of my Aunts which you would never think had that in them yet when to hear the joke it made it all that more funny . Yet to be able just to on the phone with him even for a moment was like a gift . To hear his loving voice always tell me how he loved me . Yet for me I wanted to let him know the same some how . Some how believing I would never be able to do it as he did . I was right . Since someone like he , you could never be the same nor could you hold on to time enough to stop it from passing so that you had enough time to show or say all you may have wanted to . I just hope he knows in Heaven how I feel since I can not tell him directly maybe this is the only way I can .

To see in each entry each of you share is that love and the pain you have seems to be a common yet indvidual bond we each may have . How this can happen in life who may know . It is one of the wonders of this world of life . What I do know is this pain has not taken the love away I have for him nor the memories . Rather they seem to grow each day . Each day may hold a different memory or saddness that I may have to go through yet to know that I was fortunate at all to have a Father as the man my Father was I feel truly blessed . The pain can grow deep and physically hurt yet some how I do survive even though I never thought I would get to this day . Maybe it is his strength and love that keeps me going . He did tell me he would come back if he did not see me happy yet I do not want him to even have to think about these things if that is what Angels do . I rather believe that Angels see only the peace and joy and freedom and turmoil . Yet knowing my Father he would break through the gates of heaven to be with anyone of his children . His love for his children was so clear and near to his heart even to his last breath on earth that I can not doubt that he may be here with me today .

This is why I say to you Dad I Love you more then you know . You are my Blessing in life that I may have not deserved but some how I was lucky to stand in the right line when being created or God thought just maybe you would be the one that could love me enough to tell me who I truly was . One of you daughters who does love you .

Happy Fathers Day to all the Fathers to each of your Fathers .

Blessing to each of you in this day and the days to come ..

Take care

Permalink Reply by Jennifer Wilkins on June 21, 2011 at 9:35am

River of Tears

so sorry to hear about your loss. The loss of a parent is difficult no matter what age you are. When I experienced the loss of my grandmother, whom I live with since I was an infant, I was soo lost, and things still remind me of her but learning and putting faith in the words in the Bible at John 5: 28, 29 and Ps. 37:11, helped me see that Jehovah God is going to make it possible to see her again on earth, and I am looking forward to that day. In the meantime I pray to God, and He helps me to go on, not being as angry all the time. Hope this gives you some comfort.

Permalink Reply by Jennifer Wilkins on June 21, 2011 at 9:47am

Freddie

My heart goes out to you with all you have endured in your lifetime. Loss of a loved one is a very difficult, and it seems you have had to experience it more than once. Bible promises have helped me with different trials I have had to go through. Psalms 55:22, Revelation 21:3-5, among other promises in the Bible have comforted me and my hope is that they will comfort you as well. If you would like to talk more about why there is so much suffering in the world, and how Jehovah God will fix it so we don't have to endure this pain or any sadness/disappointment anymore, please email me at jenniko78@aol.com.

Freddie Reyes said:

It has been 5 months since I lost my dad. Tonite when I checked the time and saw that it was 8:00 pm it brought back memories. Around 8:00 was the time I would usually warm up the coffee and serve our nightly dessert.My life has changed so much since the day he left.I no longer live in the apt. we shared and called home for the last 5 years.I rent a room in a house full of strangers.I don't cook any breakfast , lunch , or dinner as I did for him. I eat out , or just have snacks.I'm hoping things will ge better once I go back to work,which will be in 5 days , I've been off since Sept. dad passed in Oct. I've had too much time alone.I've been holding up pretty well, except when I thought of those memories tonite , they brought tears to my eyes.I lost my mom in 2002,my sister in 2009,and my dad in 2010. I do have another sister and I had lunch with her this weekend , I have my sisters daughters , but I do lead a very lonely life....The pain is still fresh , so I'm sure in time things will get better....

Permalink Reply by Ashley Rachuna on June 24, 2011 at 6:34pm

My dad passed away 2 1/2 years ago im still struggling and trying to get used to the fact he is no longer with me. I was a daddys girl i loved him so much and i still to this day go up to the hospital where he died same floor and everything thinking he will be sitting there in his chair. I love you dad and i miss u so much

Your daughter,

Ashley

Permalink Reply by Sherri Watts on July 5, 2011 at 12:38pm

I just lost my father a month ago and it hasn't gotten any better for me. I'm not sure whether to go get help or what. I don't know where to go or what there is out there. I'm having such a hard time.

My father was everything to me. He was my best friend and I could count on him for everything. He was there for advice and everything else. He never let me down. He was the best father, best grandfather, best father-in-law and brother and brother-in-law as well as uncle. They just don't seem to make people like him anymore. I feel so lost and am coming here for help from any of you all that have been through this. I know many people feel the same about their fathers so please help direct me to a place where I can get through this pain.

Permalink Reply by Lori Farrar on July 19, 2011 at 9:10am

Most of the time, I wish I had more time with my dad before he passed too. But it was not to be. My dad suffered alot, even though he was extremely loving in nature, and charisma. But I also know that if he survived to this day, his suffering would have hurt more and more. I'm glad he's not suffering anymore. But there is a few things I wish I could have done along time ago. The main thing I would have done if I wasn't afraid of my ex, would have to put him away for hurting my dad and my family. I know there is a time for all, but I will always feel bad for not protecting my family more. I should have been more strong for them, but I was weak. I didn't know what to do, with the situation. It was my ex, that put my dad in the hospital. Now I know, that I should have called the cops, but back then I was afraid of my ex. I hope that someday, my ex realizes what he did to my family.

Permalink Reply by Lori Farrar on July 19, 2011 at 9:16am

I know your pain very well, and I hope and pray that your pain will not be as hard as it is, right now. I know that my dad, is with his parents in Heaven. I hope and I pray that someday we will all be together again, but in GOD's time, no sooner. You need to realize that the pain your feeling, will someday lessen. But you need to leave it in GOD's hands. I know that I did, and its lessened my pain, even though not very much, I still feel the pain of not helping my dad more. But I have to come to grips with what has happened in my past.

Permalink Reply by Lori Farrar on July 19, 2011 at 12:31pm

You really are a blessing to all you meet. What a wonderful person to have said, what you said. I also lost someone that I truelly loved, he was my dad. And I also wish I had more time with my dad, but his time was cut very short. I pray everyday that I have the chance to see my dad again, even if its in the next life. I know that when its my time to go to GOD, I will see my loved ones too. I keep that thought in my heart, because I know its true. Its thoughts like this that keep me sane, in this world. And it also keeps me alive, knowing that my dad loved me, as much as he loved the Lord, and our family. GOD bless You, for your thoughts.

Permalink Reply by Amanda Ward on August 8, 2011 at 8:28am

Hi! On August the 14th will be one year that by best friend (my daddy) has been gone. I fool myself by saying that Im ok with it. Deep down im not. I have so many things to tell my dad. I catch myself picking up the phone and waiting for him to answer so I can tell him about a new recipe,about the funny things the kids did,or even about a crappy day im having. Im finding the closer it gets to the 14th the harderim coping with it. I have pushed myself away from friends. I holding onto what little bit i have to my husband. People say it gets easier. I find it gets harder. I went home to visit my mom over the summer. It was the hardest visit yet. I did not visit I worked. I did things for her and other family memebers. I did not want to sit down and think about life. My 10 year old is having issues coping with my dads passing. What do you tell a 10 year old when you dont know how to answer your own questions. I have turned my back on God. I dont hate him, but Im still mad. My family and neighbors are trying to incourage me to go to church. I tell I will one day. I tell everyone im ok with my feelings. Deep down im not. I pretend to be strong in front of everyone. I dont want anyone to know I have issues.