Remembering Dad

Grief support: No matter what your age, losing your dad can be difficult. Share your grief and talk with others who are coping with the death of their fathers.

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Permalink Reply by YALONDA on June 19, 2010 at 12:39pm

I can only imagine the pain that comes with loosing someone you love dearly in death. I do agree with the importance of cherishing our parents while they're still alive. I would like to share an encouraging thought from God's word the bible found at Rev. 21:3,4, this scripture gives us a hope for those we've lost in death. It speaks of a time when death and pain will be done away with here on this earth. This may seem like mere wishful thinking, but our heavenly father is a GOD of purpose and his purpose has not change due to Adam and Eve sinning. Your father no doubt meant the world to you and our father in heaven is well aware of the pain you feel and he feels the same way. We're his beautiful creation and his desire is to restore mankind to their original purpose in times yet to come. Look forward to that promise and find comfort in his word the bible.
John 5:28,29

Permalink Reply by Rachelle on June 20, 2010 at 12:48am

When I lost my father in the year of april 2007 it was the hardest thing that I ever had to experience in my life.. up until than I had other relatives and friends that passed and it was very hard for me too, but losing a parent I never prepare myself for the empty feeling that I will feel.. I was at the hospital when my father passed, I seen it happen right before my eyes.. he was very sick and I knew that he would not survive but I just kept praying that God will not let him die. but you know what some weeks before my dad died, I had a chance to speak with him about everything that I may have not ever spoke to him about, like all the great moments I had with him .. till just everyday stuff .. and I had a chance to pray with him too alot and he even start it to memorize a bible scripture from psalm 23 ... well not to write to much.. because it is still hard for me.. I would like to inspire anyone ,.that has lost their fathers, to just let God be your strength through your sorrow, death is never a easy thing to accept even though it is apart of life. if anyone will like to join me here on legacy connect.. just to talk i definitely do not mind.. i will share spiritual inspiration with anyone.. that is what God has inspired me to do.. Peace And Blessings To You ... All In Your Time Of Sorrow! Keep Me And My Family In Your Prayers.. And I Will Keep You All In Mines!

Permalink Reply by Kayepeanyc on June 20, 2010 at 6:33am

This is the first Father's Day without my Dad. He died on November 18, 2009. He was 86 years old. His illness and death were totally unexpected--he was gone in 4 weeks. I cannot fully express how much I miss him. Life is so hard without his smile, his advice, his humor, his intelligence, his love. He did everything for my mother and now I feel the twin burdens of taking care of her and grieving my dad's passing. My faith has been utterly shattered and I find no solace in a god that has given me more family and health responsibilities than I can handle.
I think of my dad every day.

Permalink Reply by Nicole on June 20, 2010 at 12:06pm

Cindy,
Today is a very rough day. I too lost my dad to cancer. We found out 2/2 and he passed on 2/27. By the time they found it, it was too late to treat him. I really haven't grieved, but today seems to really hit me hard. I'm trying hard to hold on to all the precious memories I have, hoping that will bring comfort. Still doesn't replace the emptiness I feel inside. Sorry, I just needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for listening. Nicole

Permalink Reply by Claudia Carr on June 23, 2010 at 10:05pm

My dad died on June 2 due to avoidable medical errors after a routine gall bladder operation. Even at 81, he died too soon. The fact that it didn't have to happen makes it all even harder. Even at my age, I relied on my father's advice and wisdom. He was always there for his daughters and listened hours on end whenever we needed him. Someday I will make something good from his passing - in his name. I don't know how or when. In the meantime, I will grieve for however long it takes. Oh, I smile a lot, too. Missed you on Father's Day dad. Claudia

Permalink Reply by amy garrett on June 24, 2010 at 9:37pm

my dad passed away on may 1 of this year and i am just hurt and sad and cry alot i need to talk to someone who knows what i am filling

Permalink Reply by amy garrett on June 24, 2010 at 9:39pm

Nicole said:

Cindy,
Today is a very rough day. I too lost my dad to cancer. We found out 2/2 and he passed on 2/27. By the time they found it, it was too late to treat him. I really haven't grieved, but today seems to really hit me hard. I'm trying hard to hold on to all the precious memories I have, hoping that will bring comfort. Still doesn't replace the emptiness I feel inside. Sorry, I just needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for listening. Nicole

Permalink Reply by amy garrett on June 24, 2010 at 9:43pm

amy garrett said:

Nicole said:
Cindy,
Today is a very rough day. I too lost my dad to cancer. We found out 2/2 and he passed on 2/27. By the time they found it, it was too late to treat him. I really haven't grieved, but today seems to really hit me hard. I'm trying hard to hold on to all the precious memories I have, hoping that will bring comfort. Still doesn't replace the emptiness I feel inside. Sorry, I just needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for listening. Nicole

Permalink Reply by austin moore on June 24, 2010 at 10:55pm

i lost my dad last year when he was 42 and i was 13 i had just started seeing him again after not even knowing if he was alive. istarted seing him every other weekend for a year and then on easter he felt stomach and chest pains he was ignorant to go to the doctor but after me and my sister pestered him to go he went he had a lesion on his chest so they sent it to california for testing and when itcame back and he had a rare form of stomach cancer that was at stage 4 since it was rare and had spread from his stomach they couldn't do anything with it he always looked onthe bright side and never tried to act normal but we could tell that he was getting bad. it sucked seeing him suffer with all that pain and my dad was not the person that wuld cry but he would break down and start bawling because of the pain. he died june 1 2009 at 8:17 in the morning at mercy hospital in omaha nebraska.

love you dad and miss you your kids

austin and heather

Permalink Reply by austin moore on June 24, 2010 at 11:00pm

i know its tough but if you try to focus on the good times not all the bad things like the poem at my dads funeral

a golden heart stoped beating
hard working hands layed to rest
god broke our hearts to prove to us he only takes the best

Permalink Reply by Teresa Field on June 25, 2010 at 10:55am

My father, Ernest, passed away on Saturday June 5th, 2010 and it was clearly the saddest day of my entire life. I felt as if life had stopped for me and to a degree I still feel this way. My dad was the most wonderful man in the world. I never saw him being old, he was just my dad. Dad was 81 years old, but he was always the leader in our family, I still looked up to him and shared with him things about my life and he would give me advise. The one thing I am having trouble coping with is that I will never see my dad again in this lifetime. Somehow I cannot get that out of my mind. Although I am 59 years old, I feel like I am five. I have decided to not share a lot of my grief with people because they just do not understand the pain connected to losing a parent. This society would rather not hear about death or grieving at all. It is very, very sad, because it is a normal process and IT will take time to ease back into life and accept my loss. I will NEVER forget my dad and I am planning different things to keep his memory alive. I am doing this for me because it eases my heart.

Permalink Reply by tina foley on June 26, 2010 at 5:39pm

Teresa Field said:

My father, Ernest, passed away on Saturday June 5th, 2010 and it was clearly the saddest day of my entire life. I felt as if life had stopped for me and to a degree I still feel this way. My dad was the most wonderful man in the world. I never saw him being old, he was just my dad. Dad was 81 years old, but he was always the leader in our family, I still looked up to him and shared with him things about my life and he would give me advise. The one thing I am having trouble coping with is that I will never see my dad again in this lifetime. Somehow I cannot get that out of my mind. Although I am 59 years old, I feel like I am five. I have decided to not share a lot of my grief with people because they just do not understand the pain connected to losing a parent. This society would rather not hear about death or grieving at all. It is very, very sad, because it is a normal process and IT will take time to ease back into life and accept my loss. I will NEVER forget my dad and I am planning different things to keep his memory alive. I am doing this for me because it eases my heart.