Grief support: No matter what your age, losing your dad can be difficult. Share your grief and talk with others who are coping with the death of their fathers.

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I'm sorry for your loss. I know it is hard. I still miss my Dad! I see the things he has helped me with at my home after the divorce. I have been at my new home 2 years tomorrow! Dad was amazing in getting things orgainized and packing and unpacking!! he has done so much to help make my home a nice place. i miss him!! I don't know what to say as far as getting over it. I'm still dealing with it. I see his picture and think, I won't see him again until I go. I just wish I could be with him. I miss his voice and smell. All I know this all sucks and then there are dirtbags and idiots out there that can't compare to him. I knkow I was married to one. Just isn't right or fair. Praying that God gives us peace, So hard after the last 5 years have been so aweful with x and hearing of the OTHER WOMAN, tramp. and then all of this. I pray that I have patience for all of this. best too you
I'm sorry for your loss. I know it is hard. I still miss my Dad! I see the things he has helped me with at my home after the divorce. I have been at my new home 2 years tomorrow! Dad was amazing in getting things orgainized and packing and unpacking!! he has done so much to help make my home a nice place. i miss him!! I don't know what to say as far as getting over it. I'm still dealing with it. I see his picture and think, I won't see him again until I go. I just wish I could be with him. I miss his voice and smell. All I know this all sucks and then there are dirtbags and idiots out there that can't compare to him. I knkow I was married to one. Just isn't right or fair. Praying that God gives us peace, So hard after the last 5 years have been so aweful with x and hearing of the OTHER WOMAN, tramp. and then all of this. I pray that I have patience for all of this. best too you
Thank you Jeanine. hoping the best for you .
I'm just really scared how it's going to be during the holidays. Especially November because it is my dads birthday and thanksgiving which was "HIS" holiday. He's not here to bar b que the Turkey or make his famous pumpkin pie or even make me my own special stuffing. And my birthday is in December too.
I miss his voice and how he smelled after he bbq'd. I used to tell him that I was going to bottle his smell up and call it eau de dad's bbq ( I miss him so much that after my brother in law had bbq'd last week , I just kept hugging him because he smelled like my dad ). I can still see his shadow in our living room, where he used to lie down and watch tv.
I agree 210% that It does suck..
ALTHOUGH IT'S NOW THE SECOND HOLIDAY SEASON SINCE DAD HAS PASSED, IT FEELS SO FRESH. I'VE CRIED SOME,BUT KNOWING THAT BEING THE ELDEST, I WAS ALWAYS THE ONE EXPECTED TO BE THE ROCK, AND THE CARETAKER AND KNOWING THAT DAD DIDN'T WANT ANY SADNESS FOR ANY OF US I KIND OF, I GUESS THIS SUBCONSCIOUSLY MADE ME AWARE OF THE IMPACT HIS EXPECTATIONS HAD ON ME. I KNOW IT'S A PROBLEM WHEN THE GRIEVING IS NOT CHANNELED THE PROPER WAY, BUT SO MANY PEOPLE GO THROUGH SO MANY DIFFERENT PROCESSES. PERHAPS THIS IS MINES. ALL I KNOW IS MY FOUR BOY'S AND I HAVE DONE THE LAST HOLIDAYS WITH FRIENDS AND FAMILY, BUT THE REALITY OF IT IS IT'S NOT POPPA AS THE BOYS WOULD SAY. THOSE WERE THE SON'S HE NEVER HAD. I'M PROUD TO HAVE HAD ALL MY CHILDREN BEFORE HIS PASSING. I THINK ABOUT HIM 24/7, 60 YEARS OLD TOOK ILL AT 59YEARS OF AGE HODGKINS LYMPHOMA. YOU WERE SO YOUNG AND TAKEN WAY TOO SOON IT'S NOT FAIR AT ALL. I'M STILL ANGRY.!!!!!!! DAD WAS TRULY A ONE OF A KIND AND IN LIFE AND DEATH HE WILL REMAIN THE BIGGEST PART OF ME. I LOVE YOU MY HERO IN MEMORY OF MR. HOLLIS LOEL SMITH A.K.A. POPPA,& DAD. MISSING YOU ETERNALLY
I understand your lost; we all cope with lost somewhere in the course of our life. Your Dad will always have a special place in your heart. You can rest assure that he is peacefully resting unaware of the many struggles, pain and suffering that we are still enduring, (Ecclesiastes 9:5) Your Dad is at peace. Treasure the memories that you have of him; and enjoy the happiness you receive when you think of the few times that he did communicate, expressing his feeling to you. Our Dads are so precious to us......we long to hear there voices eternally and to be able to hug them always - a source of comfort we can all receive is that which is written in the Bible - especially at Revelation 21:3,4 - in God due time he will wipe away the consequences of sin forever - vanishing Death. The pleasant thoughts of your Dad is what will keep you happy. Do not allow guilt to eat at you - you did what you felt was necessary due to his health. When my Dad passed I thought the pain will go on forever - however, I start thinking of all of the good times and the promised given to us in the Bible in respect to Death. I am able now to love the memories and to hold onto the word of God with all confidence.
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Diana Garcia said:
Hi everyone.. I just lost my daddy September 3rd . I've been trying to cope by doing my best and taking care of my mom,brother, and sister. I feel so LOST still..
I took my dad to the hospital because he had really bad chills and a fever.The ER dr said that his liver & kidneys didn't look so good and that we should start to prepare ourselves over the next couple of months. But I didn't get the next couple of months, I got a day. We left my daddy over night and he knew I was scared so He told me not to worry that he was coming home the next day. When we went the next morning he told my mom and siblings that god told him to give us a hug and tell us that everything would be ok. He didn't tell me this though, he just gave me the hug .
My daddy was a man of few words.. he wouldn't tell us he loved us he would make a sound instead. So I started to worry more when I told him that I loved him and he would tell me he loved me too.
He did okay during the day, but then it went downhill. He was put on a ventilator to help him breathe, but he could still acknowledge us. The next morning was not good, he couldn't acknowledge us anymore. He was getting worse.
My daddy passed that night..
Part of me feels guilty that it was me that insisted that I take him to the hospital.
I feel like my heart will never stop hurting..
THANK YOU DIAMOND AND GOD BLESS YOU.
I am 59. When I was 11 in 1962 my family had just moved to Shreveport La. We were very poor. My dad bought me a Boy Scout uniform, a BSA book, and a bicycle for Christmas. Inside the book he wrote "Be a good Scout.". Dad. He provide joy to me instead of having a bad muffler replaced on his car. He died going to work December 21, 1962. I remember singing Rudolph the red nosed reindeer at my 6th grade Christmas party when my mom came in my classroom to tell my teacher. Time can't heal all things, each holiday season is harder to survive. I feel soon I won't be able to.
I just lost my dad not that long ago. More like not even a month ago. I was alway's a daddy's girl. i did everything with him. I am not to sure what to say. i feel lost without him. does anyone have any idea's on how to help my little brother he is only11 and doesnt really know how to cope
I am very sad for you. Just be there for your brother. He will be without a compass. This holiday season will be difficult, but please know your family would have wanted both of you to still have it. jh
Thank you so much. my dad was a huge Christmas freak he loved it so much. Mom said that when we start to pull all of it down we will afterwards go through all of his stuff in the attic
Thank you Diamond. This does help a little.


Diamond said:
I understand your lost; we all cope with lost somewhere in the course of our life. Your Dad will always have a special place in your heart. You can rest assure that he is peacefully resting unaware of the many struggles, pain and suffering that we are still enduring, (Ecclesiastes 9:5) Your Dad is at peace. Treasure the memories that you have of him; and enjoy the happiness you receive when you think of the few times that he did communicate, expressing his feeling to you. Our Dads are so precious to us......we long to hear there voices eternally and to be able to hug them always - a source of comfort we can all receive is that which is written in the Bible - especially at Revelation 21:3,4 - in God due time he will wipe away the consequences of sin forever - vanishing Death. The pleasant thoughts of your Dad is what will keep you happy. Do not allow guilt to eat at you - you did what you felt was necessary due to his health. When my Dad passed I thought the pain will go on forever - however, I start thinking of all of the good times and the promised given to us in the Bible in respect to Death. I am able now to love the memories and to hold onto the word of God with all confidence.
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Diana Garcia said:
Hi everyone.. I just lost my daddy September 3rd . I've been trying to cope by doing my best and taking care of my mom,brother, and sister. I feel so LOST still..
I took my dad to the hospital because he had really bad chills and a fever.The ER dr said that his liver & kidneys didn't look so good and that we should start to prepare ourselves over the next couple of months. But I didn't get the next couple of months, I got a day. We left my daddy over night and he knew I was scared so He told me not to worry that he was coming home the next day. When we went the next morning he told my mom and siblings that god told him to give us a hug and tell us that everything would be ok. He didn't tell me this though, he just gave me the hug .
My daddy was a man of few words.. he wouldn't tell us he loved us he would make a sound instead. So I started to worry more when I told him that I loved him and he would tell me he loved me too.
He did okay during the day, but then it went downhill. He was put on a ventilator to help him breathe, but he could still acknowledge us. The next morning was not good, he couldn't acknowledge us anymore. He was getting worse.
My daddy passed that night..
Part of me feels guilty that it was me that insisted that I take him to the hospital.
I feel like my heart will never stop hurting..
I recently just lost my dad two weeks ago unexpectedly to a heart problem. It is so hard for me to comprehend that he is gone. I am trying to stay strong for my mom and my brother. I just had a birthday this past friday and it wasnt the same with out him. I was my dads only daughter out of three boys. I feel so lost without him :(. Not sure on how to cope with him being gone.

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