Remembering Dad

Grief support: No matter what your age, losing your dad can be difficult. Share your grief and talk with others who are coping with the death of their fathers.

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Permalink Reply by Kim Robinson on June 15, 2010 at 2:02pm

I lost my father 3 months ago after he got sick last October. I am very sad with Fathers Day approaching. My Dad lived a very healthy life for 80 years and then we lost my brother unexpectedly at 48 it was 3 years ago and our family, myself included was changed forever. My dad took the news terribly as they were so close and we had no warning signs, I think the grief is ultimately what took his life. I appreciate my life and my family so much but I am always sad, one day I was on top of the world and then my happy life was changed forever. I lost my best friend and he was cheated out of a long life and I feel cheated too. I wish everyone feeling sad the strength to get through this tough time. Happy Fathers Day!

Permalink Reply by Karen on June 15, 2010 at 7:18pm

My Dad had me late in life. He was 46. He was the best! He was definately a hands-on Dad. I was lucky enough to have both my bio parents raise me - no alcohol, drugs, or any other problems in our family. I'm an only child but am so grateful for the life my parents gave me. Mom's 91 now & has slight dementia but she lives in the home she shared with Dad for 25 yrs. Anyway, back to Dad - my first Father's Day without him. Dad was fully functional at 94 & even drove the day before his stroke. Two months later he was gone...Fri I'm taking mom to the florist to get an arrangement to put on his grave. Happy Father's Day, Dad - I love you & always will.

Permalink Reply by Joann on June 15, 2010 at 7:34pm

Happy Father's Day, Dad.

It has been 15 long years since I have looked into the great brown smiling eyes. I still miss you every day. I miss your laughter most of all. I carry it in my heart. You were the best. You never, ever one time judged me. I can say that about nobody else in my world. You thought everything I ever did was great. I learned so much from you. You taught me how to live my life, to work hard and to play hard. You were strong and handsome and funny as hell and honest. I know what is important because of you. May you rest in eternal peace, my dear Dad. God bless you!!!

Permalink Reply by Cali on June 15, 2010 at 8:51pm

My dad died exactly one week before my ultrasound to find out what his first gradnchild was going to be...

He married my mom, who had two daughters from a previous marriage. Their father never paid child support and was a total deadbeat. My dad never hesitated when he said he would adopt them. Then he had two of his own kids, and his family was his life! I miss him so much.
He lived the last few months of his life in the ICU, and in and out of the emergency room when he got released. It was a horrible year. It helps to know there's a Heaven, but it doesn't hurt less.
I love you, Dad. Your memories give me hope.

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Permalink Reply by Susan on June 16, 2010 at 3:06am

This is my first Father's Day since my father's death in May. My father died quietly at the age of 87 after an 18 month illness. He had had a long healthy life before becoming sick in early 2009.

It will be an empty day. . .but he rests peacefully after a job of father that was extremely well-done.

Permalink Reply by Marsha Van Hook on June 16, 2010 at 9:23am

My dad died on March 8. I can not look @ the sales ads or listening to a commerical. I cried 2 hours on Sun. I have 2 bothers who both lost sons in 06 to drugs.

We do have 1 nephew and 4 great nieces and nephews.

I just called one bother to see what to do on Sun.

Marsha

Permalink Reply by bobbye on June 16, 2010 at 11:39am

my dad died 12/29/09 so this will be my first Father's Day without him. My father was so sweet...he made alot a sacrifices so that my sisters & I had not only everything we needed but pretty much everything we wanted, too. He had Alzheimers but he always remembered the family and a few friends who visited him frequently. Even though we knew the end was coming it was still devasting to lose him. I think about him every single day. My life will never be the same!

Permalink Reply by Will T. on June 16, 2010 at 5:48pm

I was employed at a job where I spent 60-70 hours weekly so I was always busy; however, my father and I spoke at least every other day. I would ask his advice for just about everything. While hospitalized for a minor issue, he got into an altercation with another patient and fell and broke his arm. I was very concerned, but my mother kept me abreast of everything and informed me that daddy was okay. Within weeks, my mother informed me that my father had an infection (colitis) and would need to have surgery to have his colon removed. At that point I immediately scheduled a flight to go see him on May 19th 2007, but my daddy died on May 18th. My heart was and still is so broken because I didn't see him for the last six months of his life and he always told me to bring the family up to Ohio and spend some time with him. It's so hard at times, but I just try to remember the good times and how he loved his family so much. I miss my daddy so much and this will be the 4th Father's Day since he passed. My 5 year old daughter talks about her grandpa all the time and how much she misses him although she only met him a few times. Only God can get me through these times of sadness. Please remember, jobs are important, but most important is God first and then family.

Permalink Reply by janet e. thompson on June 17, 2010 at 1:03pm

Darla Vaudreuil said:

Ya know, i've listened and watched my family grieve. I know everyone grieves in there own way, but i dont feel like i've really grieved??? When my dad passed i grieved and on occasion ill cry but i have not had any kind of break down or melt down?? is that to come? am i in denial? i have not had days of crying or sleepless nights and yes i loved my dad, we were really close-??
confused in Wellington

Permalink Reply by janet e. thompson on June 17, 2010 at 1:05pm

janet e. thompson said:

Darla Vaudreuil said:
Ya know, i've listened and watched my family grieve. I know everyone grieves in there own way, but i dont feel like i've really grieved??? When my dad passed i grieved and on occasion ill cry but i have not had any kind of break down or melt down?? is that to come? am i in denial? i have not had days of crying or sleepless nights and yes i loved my dad, we were really close-??
confused in Wellington

i'm moved by your seemingly unmoved greiving. lots of time we think we're unaffected by our loss but believe me such is not the case. i don't think everyone grieves in the same manner, but i do think everyone goes through the same sequence of grief not necessarily in the same order. my heart goes out to you. i lost my dad in 1990. he was the greatest dad anyone could have had. it seems like yesterday. my dad was 89. he was wise beyond his years. may you work through living without your dad. however he is in your heart. my dad is with me at all times. i get that warm fuzzy feeling when i concentrate on him. it is a pleasure to recall many fond memories of my dad. likewise i'm sure for you. don't become unecessarily concerned about the big cry , breakdown or melt down. you're doing just fine.

Permalink Reply by JOYCE MASHER, 4 Amy 5158791808 on June 18, 2010 at 4:10pm

Just want to post to my father in law and my husbands father, Ray, that we wish him a Happy Father's day in Heaven with our daughter. Amy.
we love you so.
joyce and ed

Permalink Reply by ali on June 18, 2010 at 9:45pm

As Fathers Day Approaches: Roses grow in Heaven, Lord, pick a bunch for me ~ Place them in my daddy's arms & tell him they're from me~Tell him that I love & miss him & when he turns to smile ~place a kiss upon his cheek & hold him for a while ~ Because remembering him is easy ~I do it everyday ~ There...'s an ache within my heart that will never go away.

A friend of mine sent this to me. This will be my 3rd Father's day without my daddy. He had a massive stroke in September 2007. I never got to say goodbye. :(
I lost my mom to cancer 6 months ago. They were amazing parents and Mother's day and Father's day are hard. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you though this tough time.