Grief support: No matter what your age, losing your dad can be difficult. Share your grief and talk with others who are coping with the death of their fathers.

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I lost my dad last year Thursday July 17,2008, it has been really tough, he was my person i talk to when i needed to talk to someone.I miss him when he and i went places. I miss his smile, but people have told me it's the memories that you remember and pictures that you have collected trough the years of you and family.
I lost my father-in-law in January of 2007. It was a shocker, he died from a heart attack, which is what he always said was the way he wanted to go. (Fast) I still remember the call from my mother-in-law, she told me she knew he was gone, but I guess I didn't want to believe it. I told her that the paramedics will help him. I called my husband to get to their house. My mom just work down the street from them, bless her heart she left work to be with my mother-in-law, so she wasn't alone. My mom called me when she got there, and told me that he was gone. I rushed to the hosspital.. I believe that was the hardest day of my life... Still to this day I will catch myself doing something and get teared up, over a song, a saying, picture, or just a thought. Its very hard.. He was a great man, always there for you. He meant the world to my husband my self and our kids.. We talk about him often, some times cry or a good laugh.. That is our memories of George.... I am sending my Fathers day wish to George who lives in heaven now.. till we met again.. Happy Fathers Day George , we do miss ya and love ya very much!

Love your favorite daughter-in-law,
( he always told me that I was his favorite daughter in law, I'd laugh,he'd smile, I am his only daughter -in law)
I lost my dad on November 20, 1998. Daddy suddenly passed away with no warning and my sister and I never got to say goodbye to him, but we know that it is okay and that he loves us and he knew we loved him. For many years after that, especially after the birth of my daughter in 2001, I would sometimes smell his cigar smoke; not actual smoke but the odor of the smoke. It was comforting to me to know that he was around watching over me and my family. I still miss him terribly, and after all this time I was so afraid that I would forget the sound of his voice. Then my husband realized that we have his old answering machine with the taped message and we will keep it forever. My niece also has a teddy bear with a taped message from her grandpa telling her that he loves her. Another keepsake from a gentle man who was very much loved and very much missed by his family.
My husband died unexpectedly March 16th, after spending 11 days in the hospital (we thought healing) from a snowmobile accident. Our children are having a very difficult time with Father's Day coming up. Especially, our oldest, even though she is 24. She wants to boycott the whole weekend and just hide away from the world. She has a hard time seeing any father with his children and if people start talking about their dad's she just cannot handle it. Our 13 yr old isn't talking much about how he feels and our 22 yr is handling things the best..she seems the most at peace with this new "normal". Does anyone have any suggestions as to how to get our oldest daughter to be able to handle what she is going to have to deal with for the rest of her life. There are always going to be dad's and kids where ever she turns. I need her to get used to the idea without wanting to hide from the world and be angry all the time. Also, any suggestions on how to get our 13 yr old to discuss his feelings...I don't want to pressure him. I bring little things up to see how he is feeling and mostly I get the shrug of the shoulders. I just don't want to be neglecting their feelings. I want them to be able to grow up and move forward without hanging onto all the sadness and anger.
Thanks,
Marlena (and Tom) Always and Forever
i miss my daddy so much. he wasn't the same after my mom died. the old house, my sister bought and it isnt the same. it hurts so very much. i wish dadddy and mom was around but, i know they are not hurting anymore. but, i sure do miss them!
Well I lost my Dad Friday October 24,1997 i was seventeen and my little brother was eleven, it was hard and difficult but we made it through with a lot of pray and support from friends and family. One thing i can tell you is for your daughter she will need to pray and ask God to help her through this and for your son also and just remeber the good times they had together with there father, thats what me and my brother do from time to time and remeber God does all things well we might understand but God knows our heart and we can call on him anytime we need to.
This year seems really difficult at Father's Day. I'm not sure quite why- I miss him more than ever. He was an amazing man. He never gave up! Well, almost never! He fought as hard and as long as he could. Whenever I feel that I can't do something, I just think of my dad and how hard he fought to stay alive. He will be my forever hero! Happy Father's Day Daddy :-)
I miss my Dad so much. He was my best friend and never missed a beat. He was always there to give advise, attend a party, or take you to lunch just because. He never judged anyoneand he was always there to lend a hand or a tool or anything anyone ever needed. He was such a great man, a leader a king. My mother committed suicide 25 years ago and he stepped it up. He never missed sending a card or a flower. He hosted parties and attended all of his grandchildrens school functions. He was a school photographer and he loved his work and did it with great passion. He was a bass player and you would find him in his house jammin along with the radio or cd just thumping like there was no tommorow, oh how he loved that old bass. My sister now has it diplayed in her home it looks great. He has his toy, his red corvette that was his baby and now my sister is driving that around so proudly. I really get a bit sadder as time goes on because I am still greiving but I really miss my best friend my daddy Jack.
Thank you for the advice. Hopefully, my children can come to an understanding and acceptance...as hard as that is going to be.
Marlena (and Tom) Always and Forever

Rhoda Jackson said:
Well I lost my Dad Friday October 24,1997 i was seventeen and my little brother was eleven, it was hard and difficult but we made it through with a lot of pray and support from friends and family. One thing i can tell you is for your daughter she will need to pray and ask God to help her through this and for your son also and just remeber the good times they had together with there father, thats what me and my brother do from time to time and remeber God does all things well we might understand but God knows our heart and we can call on him anytime we need to.
my daddy was a hard man,but i loved him very much.he drink alot almost till the end.i tried to be invisible when he did this. he never told me i did anything he approved of.his biggest dream his whole life was to have a son .it never came true.my frist child was a boy i named him richard after my daddy.he didn't come to the hosiptal to see us,but when he was two weeks old he and my mother came and asked for him to go home with them to spent the night.my daddy passed away april 24 1999.i had to remind myself all the time no matter how long he lived he would of always been the same to me.well on dec.3 2008 my 35 yr.old son died.so even thou things never changed for me and my dad.you now have with you the only thing that i did right for you.so happy fathers day and know i miss you both.
lynn, your note made me so sad. Please know that this was something in your father and not in you. So many men especially in generations past can't see the value in women. My dad was somewhat that way but because there were so many girls he was just outnumbered and learned a few things. I am so sorry your dad never was able to show you how much he valued you but I know in my heart he did. Sorry about your precious son. Bless you lynn. suep
Almost twenty years ago I lost my dad to an aggressive brain tumor, at the age of 59 (6 months after his retirement). Doctors concluded there was nothing they could do, so after he was discharged from the hospital, and we nursed him at home 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, until the day he died. Nursing him was the most rewarding thing I could think of, and it has helped me tremendously that I was there every step of the way, in his final hours. Every day that goes by where I think of him, somethimes a split second where his face comes to my mind, sometimes a memory, sometimes more.... It definitely felt like one of my "pillars" was pulled away from under me, and it took years to refind my balance.

I now appreciate spending time with my own children so much more, because I realize that one day, when I least expect it, it's my turn to say goodbye to them.

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