Remembering Dad

Grief support: No matter what your age, losing your dad can be difficult. Share your grief and talk with others who are coping with the death of their fathers.

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Permalink Reply by Suzie on October 10, 2011 at 10:18pm

I seen my father for the last time, on Father's Day. The next weekend he was gone....I'm forever greatfull the last thing I said to him was "I love you daddy"

Permalink Reply by katlin on October 13, 2011 at 11:12am

Suzie,

It is a comforting memory to have our last words to a parent to have been so good. I look forward to the time when I will say those words when I see my loved ones in the resurrection. Jesus said, "...the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out..." John 5:28. This is the future hope that I keep close in mind. Perhaps this will encourage you too.

Suzie said:

I seen my father for the last time, on Father's Day. The next weekend he was gone....I'm forever greatfull the last thing I said to him was "I love you daddy"

Permalink Reply by Kim Hopkins on October 30, 2011 at 2:09am

I miss you daddy.....simply, you were the best.

Permalink Reply by Diamond on November 16, 2011 at 8:50am

Hello Cindy,

You are so correct - our parents are like "gems" - they are to be cherished. (Ephesians 6:1,2) It is one of the first commandments. Yes, while they are here - we should enjoy their many words of wisdom. I often think of the many conversations I had with my Dad - the way he laughed, the way he walked and how he gave me words of wisdom. This should not be taken for granted. I miss my Dad so much - just to hear his voice and to be able to converse with him and just to enjoy the very simple things in life. I do miss him.

Cindy Eddings said:

My dad was the greatest!!! He raised 4 girls by his self, my mother passed away when i was very young. Losing him was very painful for me. He had cancer but they found it to late. once the doctors told him he had cancer he lived for 2 weeks. He always there for me and my sisters and of course his grandchildren. He never forgot a birthday or any occasion there was he was there. This was 3 years ago and it still feels like yesterday. Those who still have there parents please cherish them like nothing else. One day there here and the next there not. I was grateful that i got to tell my father (Gene Shaw) that i loved him. Happy fathers Dad

Love your daughter
Cindy

Permalink Reply by Diamond on November 24, 2011 at 9:32pm

Hello Mary,

I understand how you feel - my Dad also only had an 8th grade education - however, he made a lot of sense - life experience will take you further. I am looking forward to seeing my Dad again as promised in the Bible (Revelation 21:3,4). My Dad was full of so much wisdom. He gave his children a strong Biblical background and went out of his way to protect his children also from the many cruel and disheartening realities of a confused and restless world. He taught us to put our complete faith in God. (Proverbs 3:5,6) His real-life experience is what enable him to teach us the many practicalities of life.

He was full of so much love for my mother and just a brief conversation with him enabled one to see how his eyes would just bounce around like llittle stars at the mention of my mother. So, what I have to hold onto is the many cherished and treasured moments I shared with my Dad. Those memories will always be with me and I do replay them as often as I need or want to. I reflect on the many laughs we shared and the most serious side of his personalities. So - take the time and reflect of the many beautiful moments you shared with your Dad and enjoy them because they will always be with you!!

Mary Eliza Beth said:

My Dad was a very wise and kind man. He treasured the children God had entrusted to his care. he went out his way to protect his children from a cruel world. I often think of my Day, the discussions we would have. Although Dad had only an 8th grade education, to speak with him was like you spoke to a very scholarly man. I miss talking with him. I talk to the Lord about my relationship with my Dad now. I laugh a lot and I always thank God He entrusted me to such a fine human being, my Dad. I live with confident I shall one day be reunited with Dad, in heaven. Happy Father's Day Dad! Happy Father's Day My Heavenly Father.. Thank you Father God for such a kind and loving earthly father! Love my fathers!
Daddy's Girl

Permalink Reply by mary ann hensley on January 30, 2012 at 6:17pm

my dad died on jan 18th, 2012..still having issues with it i thought i could be stronger than this...but im not..i miss him so much..i feel so lost so alone...

Permalink Reply by Maureen Kay McFee on January 30, 2012 at 8:50pm

Dear Mary Ann,

I lost my father last January 22, 2011. My father was very ill and we brought him home on hospice at his request. This has been an incrediably difficult year but also very enlightening. We knew my father was not going to make it and I said to myself to rejoice and celebrate the times and the memories that no one can EVER take from me. I was a daddy's girl. Everyone grieves differently. You will go through a rath of emotions but you must feel them, go through them and know that your dad is watching you. I am a very spiritual person and I have felt on several occasions my father was with me. It has only been 11 days. I just got through my year of firsts as of Jan 28th when we buried him. If you can find a local grief support I suggest that. Don't ever let anyone you should not feel the way you do. They aren't in your shoes. I went from sad, to anger, to wishing I had him for one more day but the thing I found comfort in most of all is to know my father is in Heaven; living his eternal life with his loved ones that passed before him and no longer in pain. I still can't say to anyone that my dad "died" so I say my father passed on. For some reason that helped me.

I wish you well but it is going to take a great deal of time but believe it when I say (because I didn't believe it when people to me this) it DOES get better with time. Open your heart and let yourself feel what you need to feel so you can begin to heal. Know that your father is with you now and forever.

Did he go suddenly or had he been ill for awhile? My prayers and thoughts are with you Mary Ann.

My deepest sympathy,

Kay

Permalink Reply by Diamond on January 31, 2012 at 6:39pm

Hello Maureen,

I find your words so comforting to those who are going through what we have already experienced. I love the way you state "the beautiful memories no one can take" - yes, those are the thoughts that I hold onto..the thoughts of the many pleasant and beautiful conversation we had. I am spiritual and I see my Dad as in a deep sleep; totally unaware of all of the chaos that are taking place here on earth.

My spirituality leave me with peaceful thoughts in knowing that one day I will see my Dad again. - Acts 24:15. I believe what I read and the Bible and it is those though soothing words found in the Bible that gives me hope and that keep me looking forward to another day.

Yes, we all need to heal in our own way and within the time that we need. So, I know many will benefit from your kind words - do enjoy the week!

Maureen Kay McFee said:

Dear Mary Ann,

I lost my father last January 22, 2011. My father was very ill and we brought him home on hospice at his request. This has been an incrediably difficult year but also very enlightening. We knew my father was not going to make it and I said to myself to rejoice and celebrate the times and the memories that no one can EVER take from me. I was a daddy's girl. Everyone grieves differently. You will go through a rath of emotions but you must feel them, go through them and know that your dad is watching you. I am a very spiritual person and I have felt on several occasions my father was with me. It has only been 11 days. I just got through my year of firsts as of Jan 28th when we buried him. If you can find a local grief support I suggest that. Don't ever let anyone you should not feel the way you do. They aren't in your shoes. I went from sad, to anger, to wishing I had him for one more day but the thing I found comfort in most of all is to know my father is in Heaven; living his eternal life with his loved ones that passed before him and no longer in pain. I still can't say to anyone that my dad "died" so I say my father passed on. For some reason that helped me.

I wish you well but it is going to take a great deal of time but believe it when I say (because I didn't believe it when people to me this) it DOES get better with time. Open your heart and let yourself feel what you need to feel so you can begin to heal. Know that your father is with you now and forever.

Did he go suddenly or had he been ill for awhile? My prayers and thoughts are with you Mary Ann.

My deepest sympathy,

Kay

Permalink Reply by Julie on March 19, 2012 at 2:45pm

My dad had a quiet wiseness about him. With all girls in the family, he knew how easy it was for an argument to arise. He would never play into it but rather ignore it. My father passed away a little over a year ago. I was with him when he passed. I miss him very much. We always think that our parents will be with us forever. For those of you who read this and who still have your parents...give them a call today. Chat a few minutes on the phone with them. Let them know how you appreciate the fact that they gave you life and raised you. I wish my parents were still here to do that. I never thought I would be alone, as I am now.

Permalink Reply by Julie on March 19, 2012 at 2:48pm

You are still very early on in the grieving process. My heartfelt sympathy goes out to you. My father passed a little over a year ago. The pain never goes away but the ability to live your life becomes more accepting. I still talk to my father and my mother. I believe in some way that they can hear me.

mary ann hensley said:

my dad died on jan 18th, 2012..still having issues with it i thought i could be stronger than this...but im not..i miss him so much..i feel so lost so alone...

Permalink Reply by Bee Fleming on May 27, 2012 at 11:30am

I just lost my father May 10,2012, the darkest day of my life.Wwe were very close we talked everyday sometimes 4-5 times a day. The people that surround me dont feel the same pain as I do. It has been very difficult to go to the house and stay any length of time. My mother has demitia and dont fully understand, so I want to be there for her but I just haven't gotten pass my dad not being there when I go over. My dad was greatest man I've ever know and the only man that truly loved me. This was a very heart breaker. He not only gave his life to his family but others to neighbors the community,church he will be greatly missed. I cant stop crying every time I think about him.

Permalink Reply by Kim on July 2, 2012 at 9:42pm

Bee it has been almost 8 months now since I lost my father, and it was the darkest day of my life as well. He and I were very close. The pain at times is almost unbearable. But I wanted to encourage you. In the moments, I feel the weakest, I remember his strength. Sometimes, I will visit his grave and just sit and talk and if I am quiet and listen....I hear him. I know the advice he is giving me or the words of comfort he is speaking. His body may be there, but his spirit is very much alive. One day I will see him again. It is that hope that helps me each day. I pray for peace and comfort for the journey ahead of you.