Boy I think we all who have been here for a time would love to give you those words, but we have'nt found them ourself. I can tell you this it does not get "better" or "easier" the only thing is there will come a day that you don't cry as much as you do now. Then you will cry for not crying thinking that maybe you did'nt love him enough. I know cause I go through that now almost 8 months since I lost my bestfriend and soul mate to lung cancer. My Bruno was the best. I feel guilty when I have a "good" day and don't cry. At the same time I think this is what our "normal" has turned into. Our "normal" is not knowing when we wake up in the morning how our day is going to go or if it will be a good day or a bad day. We get use to it (He** of a thing to have to get use to) but we do. The words that I have for you are these. Don't let anyone stand in your way of your grief it is yours do it we are suppose to. Don't let anyone tell you that you have grieved long enough or not long enough. You NEVER stop grieving you just learn to cope with it. When people ask you how are you doing I learned the best thing to say to them is "I am as well as can be expected" I got really really good at saying that and I still do 7 1/2 months later. Girl we are all walking this journey with you and we will walk with you as long as you let us. We all are here to listen even if you just want to ramble we all do it.
My thoughts and prayers
I hope maybe this helps a tiny bit
Lisa, you are a lady of great wisdom and I really like the way you speak your mind. Robert spoke His mind and never changed, even after His stroke. He was an amazing individual and I Love Him Forever. I miss Him and Love Him more than life itself. Annalise, the way you feel is how I have been for over two years and I don't have anything positive either. Thank you both for your words. It's good to be able to express myself or just ramble and to even get a response because my siblings and Robert's family decided that they want to keep their distance by just not communicating with me. So, all I have is me. I'm not ashamed to admit that I've cried every single day since I lost Him and I still cry every day for Robert - I'm crying as I type right now, but I will do what I need to do as I always have. Thank you. Barry
I lost teh greatest thign that ever happened to me on march 24th,2009-My Wife of over 52 years. Not one day or one night passes without me crying. I often wodner it coudl not have been me instead of her. She was nto only my Wife but my best friend, my lover and all that goes with it. I met her in July 1956 and we were married on Nov 16th,1956 and each day we were married became happier and happier for us both. Am not sure how much longer I can last without her here with me. it is becoming more and more lonely with each passing day.Can anyone tell me hwo I might can overcome some of this loneliness? I go to bed cryign and wake up crying and tehn soemtiems durign teh day I think of what she meant to me and cry again. its Lonely!!!Very Lonely!!!!