Grief support: When a soldier or police officer or firefighter dies in the line of duty, those left behind face unique challenges as they grieve. Tell your story, offer support, and learn from those with similar experiences.

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My brother Terrell Gilmore (Mookie)was killed March 30,2008 in Iraq, with only 3 months left of 20 yrs. I was raised in church & know, never to question GOD but over & over I ask him why
what could he possiable have for my brother to do, that he had to take him from us,
mad at GOD because he had the power to stop this & he just took him. Mad at Mookie -for the promise to be back in 3 months and didn't hold on for us- mad at me for not spending more time w\him those 2 weeks. Feeling helpless that there is nothing I can do to just ease the pain-touch him one last time-tell him how very much I love him. WHY GOD, WHY MOOKIE ????????
MY LITTLE BROTHER TERRELL GILMORE
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I just wanted to say how sorry I am for your lost. Losing a loved one is never easy; I know that from personal experience. About 8 years ago my grandmother died. That was the worst pain I have ever felt in my life. It was really hard to deal with because I never, up to that point, lost anyone close to me. You're used to having someone in your life and then there just gone. That's a horrible feeling! In March of this year, my great grandmother died right before my eyes. Even as I write this, I'm trying to hold back the tears.

When I read your reply, my heart felt so much for you that I just had to reply. I think many people ask, "Why God?" It's okay to ask. In the Bible, one prophet asked God, "How long... must I cry for help, and you do not hear?... Why is it that you make me see what is hurtful, and you keep looking upon mere trouble?"
God didn't get angry with him, but he saw that he was distressed and listened to him and assured him that he will set things straight.

The reason why I was able to cope was because of the promises in the Bible where God says: "He will actually swallow up death forever, and... will certainly wipe the tears from all faces." (Israel 25:8) But he also promises a bringing back to life those who have died, a time when we can enjoy life together forever. This is the hope that helps me to cope with times like these and keeps me going. I hope it brings you comfort as it has for me.


Kay Gilmore said:
MY LITTLE BROTHER TERRELL GILMORE

Kay, I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother. It's normal to be upset when a loved one dies, especially someone so close to you. Even Jesus was troubled and gave way to tears when his friend Lazarus died. (John 11:3335)

What gives me comfort is God's promise that we will see our loved ones again at John 5:28, 29: “Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out.”

You can read more about this hope here: http://www.jw.org/en/publications/books/what-hope-for-dead-loved-on...

Kay Gilmore said:

My brother Terrell Gilmore (Mookie)was killed March 30,2008 in Iraq, with only 3 months left of 20 yrs. I was raised in church & know, never to question GOD but over & over I ask him why
what could he possiable have for my brother to do, that he had to take him from us,
mad at GOD because he had the power to stop this & he just took him. Mad at Mookie -for the promise to be back in 3 months and didn't hold on for us- mad at me for not spending more time w\him those 2 weeks. Feeling helpless that there is nothing I can do to just ease the pain-touch him one last time-tell him how very much I love him. WHY GOD, WHY MOOKIE ????????

I'm so sorry for the loss of Terrell.  I am exceptionally close to my brother and the thought of losing him brings me to tears.  Take each day at a time and have faith that even though we don't understand, God doesn't give us more than what we can handle.

To all those family and friends who have lost loved ones in the line of duty; may I offer my sincere belated condolences to you. It would be presumptuousness on my part to say I know exactly what you are feeling. But please know that others, like myself, understand to a degree your pain. Your loved one who offered themselves in a line of work that protected the public and upheld the secular laws of the air, land, and sea are truly amazing and remarkable persons. And their services were truly appreciated. They put themselves out for their fellow man. Your loved one, he or she died believing in what they felt from the heart was a noble cause....no doubt he or she was serving or fighting for a better world. They gave their all and their lives fearlessly knowing that tough challenges and times were ahead. These men and women in uniform, be it local, national or international officers, military, firefihgters, coast guards, etc....courageously stood their groud and died heros in the eyes of many people. May your hearts, like mine, find comfort and reassurance in God's Word where it He states: "Your dead ones will live. A corpse of mine, they will rise up. Awake and cry out joyfully, you residents in the dust! For your dew is as dew of mallows, and the earth will let those even impotent in death drop in birth" (Isaiah 26:19). May your loved ones awaken in a world where there will be no more crime and no more war (Psalms 37: verses 10,11, and 29; Psalms 46:9). And all those who died in the line of duty who fought for and believed that a better world is possible will awaken from death and see that Jehovah God has accomplished all that they hoped for and more. Mankind at that coming time will then be able to live on this earth as God originally intended, in true peace, free from sickness and yes, free from death! (Revelation 21:4,5). Please accept my deepest sympathy for all those who have given and lost their lives in the line of duty. For more information concerning the wonderful hope for those who have fallen asleep in death please go to this web site at: http://www.jw.org/en/publications/books/what-hope-for-dead-loved-ones

 

Jackie

They claim my husband didn't die in the line of duty. He nearly died from CO poisoning in a fire in Sept, 2000. I don't know how he survived, but I'm grateful to God he did. He died as he ran in the park in October, 2011 from the same CO poisoning. They call it the party element. It pretends to be part of wherever it sets itself, doing damage, and striking to kill at will. He had just been for a heart checkup two weeks prior. He had a clean bill of health, running 10 miles just 3 days prior to his death. He was the best husband. Selfless in all he did. A great dad, and a great firefighter. Full of love, and always ready with a smile. Ron was 52 years old. And there is no life for me without him.

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