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Permalink Reply by BoLynn on November 21, 2009 at 1:49am

That is so beautiful. I believe he is everywhere, but not close enough to hold........just one more time.

Linda, I know this is your post, but may I share a poem also? It helped me and I hope it helps others.

May the wings of faith uphold you
                When your cross is hard to bear,
                As temptations surround you,
                And no one seems to care.
                May the wings of faith surround you
                And shield you from the pain
                When sorrows overcome you
                And teardrops fall like rain.
                May you know that God is with you
                In times of deep despair.
                May the spirit, who's within you,
                Confirm that He is there!
                May the valley of the shadow
                Provide angels unaware...
                May the wings of faith uphold you
                When your cross is hard to bear.
                                           Poet, Clay Harrison

Permalink Reply by linda woodbridge on November 21, 2009 at 7:58pm

Linda said:

That is so beautiful. I believe he is everywhere, but not close enough to hold........just one more time.

Linda, I know this is your post, but may I share a poem also? It helped me and I hope it helps others.

May the wings of faith uphold you
                When your cross is hard to bear,
                As temptations surround you,
                And no one seems to care.
                May the wings of faith surround you
                And shield you from the pain
                When sorrows overcome you
                And teardrops fall like rain.
                May you know that God is with you
                In times of deep despair.
                May the spirit, who's within you,
                Confirm that He is there!
                May the valley of the shadow
                Provide angels unaware...
                May the wings of faith uphold you
                When your cross is hard to bear.
                                           Poet, Clay Harrison

Permalink Reply by linda woodbridge on November 21, 2009 at 8:05pm

THANK YOU FOR ADDING THIS WONDERFUL POEM, ANYONE CAN ADD IS YOU WANT TO, I AM JUST TRYING TO HELP. I TO WISH I COULD HOLD BOB JUST ONE MORE TIME, BUT I WOULD WANT MORE. TODAY IS ONE YEAR THAT I LOST MY BOB. I AM HAVING SUCH A ROUGH TIME RIGHT NOW. SO IF ANYONE WANTS TO WRITE IN HERE I WOULD LIKE THAT. I AM SO ALONE. DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO NEXT. I HAVE A NICE APT.FOOD, MONEY. BUT IT IS NOTHING WITH OUT BOB. NO ONE TO SHARE WITH. NO ONE TO COOK AND BAKE FOR.OR TO LAUGH WITH. WE LOVED CAMPING AND FISHING.I FEEL SO EMPTY AND CHEATED.I HATE THE WORD CANCER!! LIKE I SAID..IN THE BLINK OF AN EYE MY LIFE HAS CHANGED FOREVER.GOD HELP ME PLEASE. I HOPE I DO NOT DO SOMETHING STUPID, LIKE KILL MYSELF. YES I HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT THIS TO. GOD BLESS YOU ALL. LINDA

Permalink Reply by BoLynn on November 22, 2009 at 12:24am

Linda W.

How ironic that we should be here when we need each other the most. I'm going through my "firsts" right now. First birthday, first Thanksgiving and first Christmas without him. I pray that when I have my "first" year without him, I will be in a better place mentally. Right now, I cry every day. I wonder why I have to get up every day to face the world with out him by my side. I promised him that I would be strong and I would be alright. I'm trying so hard to honor that promise, but right now all I do is cry. Linda, in my religion it says that those that commit suicide will not go to heaven. This is the only thing that has stopped me from doing so. I want to see him again. I have pictures of him so sick in the hospital and in hospice. When I wish he was with me again, I look at those pictures and thank God that he is in a place with no pain and suffering. This is what the bible says about when a person goes to heaven.......
God will wipe away every tear from their eyes;
there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor
crying. There shall be no more pain, for the
former things have passed away."
                                    ( Revelation 21:4 )

That doesn't help those of us left behind, but we know they are in a better place, if you believe. I'm here everyday. Please feel free to vent, scream and cry. We all cry with you.

With Warm Aloha, Linda B.

Permalink Reply by Ruth Richards on November 23, 2009 at 8:41am

For me it's been 19 months, which is nothing compared to being together 50yrs. I lost not only a husband but also my best friend. Since he was retired we were together 24/7. I know he's in heaven, I just have trouble understanding why God doesn't want me yet. I'm ready to go, but guess I still have stuff I'm supposed to do here. I try to keep busy, but the lonelyness never goes away. I can be with lots of people, but I still feel alone. Half of me is gone, I don't know how to be whole.
God has been very good to us, we had 38 days to say goodbye, but of course I wanted more - I really wanted us to go together.
I wrote a story about my Two Great Loves. The First was God the Father and the second was Bud, my husband. One went to be with the Father, but I still have my first love, but it's still very hard!
The second year is still hard, but I'm slowly learning to cope. I don't like it, but I try to put a smile on, cry when I need to and go out and help others as much as I can.
Suicide is not in my picture as I know I'd never get to see my loves it I did that. My goal in life is to join them when it's my time. I WISH GOD WOULD HURRY1!! But He's God and I'm not.

Thanks for listening, Ruth