Thank you Ann for reaching out to me. I miss my husband so much. I've never felt anything as remotely painful as this. But it's such a blessing to know that others care. Thank you again, Terri
Dear Terri, I lost my husband in June and life has not gotten better or easier. I already lost a brother and sister who lived nearby and two other siblings who live out of state do not keep in touch. I have my daughter and her family (my beautiful grandchildren) but everybody has obligations. My son lives out of state and we talk on the phone occasionally. My stepchildren do not call. Jim was my whole life; we did everything together and had no close friends because the ones we thought were friends were only good weather friends. We moved to a neighborhood where the neighbors keep to themselves. We did not know that when we moved there 5 years ago. I cannot even go to church because we did that together also. Jim was on oxygen for the last 6 years and people seem to shy away from people with disabilities. We found that out last year when we went to Florida and stayed in the same community where people he played golf with lived. They never came to see him. How sad it made him. Even his own family did not visit or help him even though they knew he was ailing. However, he pushed himself to do things with me and for me and strangers admired him for that. He should never have died so soon, but between the doctors and hospital you do not have a chance. I feel abandoned and nothing goes right. You are not alone. Sincerely. Helen p.s. He loved to play lottery but unfortunately did not win the big one. He wanted to help his family. He is so good. Why do the good people die and the uncaring, selfish, inconsiderate ones live their lives and enjoying it.