Dear John sorry to hear about the loss of your son Brandon. It's not about being smarter, but knowing where to look for the answers to your questions. Many have found comfort in God's Word the Bible. The Bible really teaches that all who die are not suffering. (Ecclesiastes chapter 9 verses 5 and 10) The Bible compares death to a deep sleep. Just like when we are asleep, we are unware of anything. Anyone who has died is in God's memory. (John chapter 5 veres 28 and 29) I hope this helps.
John Taylor said:
My biggest question to GOD is wether or not my son Brandon is OK, if he's been allowed into heaven after committing suicide in May 2008. Being raised a Catholic during my youth, we were taught that suicide is a mortal sin and those who end their life in such a manner, are destand to Purgatude(sic) until the end of time. You have to understand I was six when I was taught these teachings so I've probally mis-intrepted the majority of those teaching, if not misunderstood same. Can someone smarter than me explain GOD's true explanations for suicide?
Hi Dee Litz, I'm so sorry for your loss. Your words made me think you are an avid reader of the Bible. Which is commendable since most people could care less. Like you, I also learned that those who obey God will have life in a New World. With an in depth study of the scriptures, I did learn, though, that the book of Revelation mentions two groups of people, not just one. The first is a specific number that will live in heaven (Revelation 14:1) and the second, a "great crowd" that will live on earth. (Revelation 7:9; Ps 37:10,11).
As you mentioned, Jesus told the "good thief" at Luke 23:43, “And Jesus said unto him, Verily I say unto thee, Today shalt thou be with me in paradise”. Humankind has that same hope, a paradise on earth. That hope and others have helped me when I lost my grandmother. Please visit jw.org to find out about what is in store for the future according to the Bible. It is my hope that these promises comforts you also. You and your family are in my prayers during this difficult time.
Dee Litz said:
Since God is the Eternal Spirit of Love, Who breathed His Eternal Breath of Life in to all of His creation, (particularly referring here about mankind), then the soul lives eternally. It can not die. It is the body that "sleeps" in the grave until the Final Judgement, when the soul will then be joined to the body perfected by God...for the New World.
Since Jesus Christ arose from the dead, and since He promised the "good thief" that he would be with Him today in Paradise, and since Jesus also told His apostles that He is going to prepare a place for them (in Heaven), then I believe there is an afterlife. And at the moment of physical death...when the soul leaves the body...the soul goes before God for judgement.
With the unfathomable realm of Spirituality, I believe the soul remembers everything and everyone on earth, ESPECIALLY LOVED ONES... but understands all differently in the afterlife. And since God is Love most intensely, I believe thru the power of God, our loved ones love us with a GREATER LOVE than ever possible on earth. However, they know of none of our grief, sadness, pain, or any trials.
I VERY MUCH look forward to seeing my husband in Heaven. And I would say to him our little joke from the night we met: "Oh, you made it!" I would tell him I love him...and then (somewhat) comparing our beautiful, perfect, most loving wedding day by saying: "Now we will have that day forever!"
Liz and Rita: (Liz, well said!!!!! WOW! I so agree, since God is love and the Bible says “nothing can seperate us from the love of God” and the love we feel for our lovedone is the love of God, then we are always connected to them!!
And Liz, I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved mother, last July. I lost my beloved companion, boyfriend of 11 years last April 2012. And it has been a painful year; he was only 64 and was to retire from being a college professor this year : ( and what’s so sad is he lived his life for other and yet he was never able to enjoy his own life...that part hurts me a lot. But I also have been trying REALLY HARD to focus on his positives: He fulfilled his dreams and he felt loved by me. I still cry a lot too. I am still in disbelief a lot too. I walk to help my endorphins and to cope with it. I stil am in almost total denial and Think that the denial part is nature’s way of protecting me from the pain of the truth. Yet part of me knows it logically but my heart doesnt know it. I LOVE those who have lost a lovedone, I feel a kinship with you all. And my heart is tender towards you all. I want to hug you
I try to keep busy too.
Remember: GOD IS LOVE and nothing can seperate us from the Love of GOD (ROMANS: KJB). meditate on God’s promises and His love...
blessings, Vee, Colorado, age 50
It sounds like you had a really wonderful bond with your mother. My mother died in October 2002 , complications from a stroke and life long health problems. I was one of seven of her children and not terribly close to her but did get very sad and upset when she was so ill and when she passed. She moved to California when I was a teen and I seldom ever saw or spoke with her. I lived in NY. It all seems like a foggy distant memory.
I know it is so hard when it is so near the time that it happened. I feel like there probably somewhat in adequate in expressing my condolences. I just know that I am haunted most by the death of my daughter who passed in November 2010. I think about her numerous times throughout the day and am haunted by the tragic way she died. I miss her terribly.
I know each death is different and each life relationship is. One thing I know for certain as you mourn the loss of her body, her spirit lives on and as my daughter who passed told me months before she passed on.." Mom, our hearts are connected." I believe the spirit bond that lives in your heart transcends time and space as the particulate matter of her body deteriorates and dies the spirit just goes on into the other realm. This realm I have amnesia of or can't put my finger on. I just know the veil is as they say, very thin.
It does get easier as time goes on but I guess what I took away from all this grief is that we need to try to cherish each day. Each sunset and know with certainty one day as you say you will "see" your mom again. I know that the spirit lives on. One day at a time is all we can do.
My deepest condolences,
I cannot wait to cross to the other side. I will be able to get a hug from my son, and my dad. It will be a joyous reunion. No words needed, "I love you, I missed you". To never be parted again.
I too will be anxious to cross to the other side to get see my loved ones again, especially my husband who I just lost this past may to liver cancer. He had only about 2 years of enjoying our retirement together when he became ill so quickly and passed in three months of his diagnosis. There is not a moment in my day that I don't wish this was all a dream and he would be coming home after a wonderful day of golf. We had so many plans ahead that we did not get to fulfill. I get through the days by believing in God's will and plan for me. I have been reading enough books that make me convinced that I will be together with my beloved husband one day in heaven. But I also believe strongly in the Lord's plan for me which I don't know what that plan will be but those hopes make my days a little less painful as each day goes by. My thoughts and prayers to all who are suffering the loss of a loved one. Ellyn Robinson
This is a question I ask myself often since I lost my husband almost a month ago now. I have never been baptized, my husband had numerous times as a child (his mom had many religions). My husband and I had never been really religious, but I think we both believed, just not sure what we believed in. If that makes any sense. I want to believe I will see him again someday because I miss him terribly, and I would do anything to touch him and tell him how much I love him again. But I worry there may be no afterlife.....if that's the case then he is not "here" with me now. It is rather unbearable to think that way right now. I need some part of him here with me.
A lot a people wonder about the after life. I am no expert but I can tell you what God's word says about the future. And this is a promise from Him. Its found in his word the bible. Its recorded in the book of Psalms 37:10,11 and it says "Just a little while longer, and the wicked will be no more; You will look at where they were, and they will not be there. But the meek will possess the earth, and they will find exquisite delight in the abundance of peace." So I am so glad that wick will be no more. And I am looking forward to seeing the earth having an abundance of peace. I really didn't know my Great grandmother as well, she died when I was maybe 9 years old. I remember I painted a picture of her baking cookies. My art teacher loved it so much. But I look forward to having a meaningful relationship with my Great Grandmother here on earth, and she teaching me about her past and me teaching her some things about the present things happening now that she missed. So this brings me down to the question I will ask her when I see her. Did you have a good nights rest:)
I am sorry to hear about your lost Mrs. Jaclyn If you believe in the bible you might find this verse comforting Its found at Revelations 21:4 and it says "And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. the former things have passed away." How encouraging to know that death will be done away with and even mourning over death will be gone.
Jaclyn Z said:
i worry abot gona 2 hell cpz of thngs i did but mre so coz of loss or multi loss i no iys not a grt exscus its not
dad died thn loss non stop u cud say i wnt on self destuck i did its if s1 presset a butten on a rmte contle thy did
i did not do any thng bad 2 any 1 but slf dstruckt i did i scream at god why do u h a t e me so mush i do coz he/she must enjoy 2 sea me suffer i ask sorry if iv upset any 1 on hear