If there is an afterlife, who are you most looking forward to seeing again? Is it a friend or relative? What would be the first thing that you'd say to them?

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Death is the reality of our life. After death any person don't come again in this world. God give us life and death. When we dead, we meet in the heaven.
Thank you Linda. It is a soul thing. We all are a product of our experience and our family history. I have hope and I trust and I choice to allow myself to believe that all things are possible. I feel sad for those that "don't get it". I wish everyone could have "the peace that passes all understanding" and they can if they choice but it is their decision. We can only express what we know to be a fact and they have to open their heart and receive. God gave us choice, it is hard to understand why someone would not accept that simple gift but I didn't for 32 years.
Thank you for your friendship. I am so blessed by this sight. It helped me to understand what others are going through and mostly that what I am going through is the normal process of grieving. If there is a normal, I should say normal for me. I am an eternal optimist and even for me losing Tom so suddenly and so final, almost killed me but I still am alive and I know now I will survive this. He is always with me and I know as time goes on he will move further away because he can and I will need his presence less. I think that is just how it works. I was so blessed to be so loved and to have been able to love him as I did. I miss that love and support but he is with me because he is still so much the best part of me. That can never die.
I have his three grand daughters with me for a few weeks. 13, 16,18.(just graduated). They are waiting for this house to get finished and Mom and them will move in then. Mom is staying with her fianca. I figure it is practice for foster care. I am enjoying them and all their laughing and teasing and just routine drama. They have always been very close to us and they loved their Pappaw so much. The older one put in her high school memory book that Pappaw, she called him by name, was her real father and the standard that she set for any man in her future. Wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!! See, he lives. Fondly, Suep
Hi Sue. I'm sorry to take so long to reply to you. I've been getting ready for a vacation, kind of. My husband and I are going to Austin, Tx to see my oldest son, and from there to Louisiana to see my parents. It will be a sort of mini reunion, my sisters and my brother will be there too. It will be a long drive from Orange County CA, but it's long over due.
I'm sorry for the loss of your husband. I know we all grieve differently, in different ways. Grieving the loss of a parent, a spouse, a sibling, a child....it's all different, but it's loss and it's grieving, and it hurts. You have a great attitude about it. I miss my son so much. Some days are better than others. Sometimes, it just comes at me from "I don't no where", and I realize the gravity of it all. Aaron's not here...he chose to do this, and it just really hurts. I know where he is, and God's Heaven is so much better, no more pain, and no more sorrow. It will always hurt, until I see him again.
Seeing the grandkids is always a good thing, but those teen years can be a challenge :) I love it that the oldest one said that her Pappaw (your husband) is the standard for any man in her future...that's an awesome statement to make about a person.
I hope all is well your way and thank you for your friendship also,
Linda A.

sue said:
Thank you Linda. It is a soul thing. We all are a product of our experience and our family history. I have hope and I trust and I choice to allow myself to believe that all things are possible. I feel sad for those that "don't get it". I wish everyone could have "the peace that passes all understanding" and they can if they choice but it is their decision. We can only express what we know to be a fact and they have to open their heart and receive. God gave us choice, it is hard to understand why someone would not accept that simple gift but I didn't for 32 years.
Thank you for your friendship. I am so blessed by this sight. It helped me to understand what others are going through and mostly that what I am going through is the normal process of grieving. If there is a normal, I should say normal for me. I am an eternal optimist and even for me losing Tom so suddenly and so final, almost killed me but I still am alive and I know now I will survive this. He is always with me and I know as time goes on he will move further away because he can and I will need his presence less. I think that is just how it works. I was so blessed to be so loved and to have been able to love him as I did. I miss that love and support but he is with me because he is still so much the best part of me. That can never die.
I have his three grand daughters with me for a few weeks. 13, 16,18.(just graduated). They are waiting for this house to get finished and Mom and them will move in then. Mom is staying with her fianca. I figure it is practice for foster care. I am enjoying them and all their laughing and teasing and just routine drama. They have always been very close to us and they loved their Pappaw so much. The older one put in her high school memory book that Pappaw, she called him by name, was her real father and the standard that she set for any man in her future. Wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!! See, he lives. Fondly, Suep
Linda, in some ways, I honestly feel a son would be worse. I have a son and he is so special to me. I just can't imagine. He had open heart surgery to correct a birth defect, went home and had some problems yesterday and had to be kept in the hospital overnight, it scared me but he is okay. I think losing a child would feel like cutting a big hunk out of yourself. That wound would never heal. I think the age affects things also. My sis was 38 when her ex-husband shot her and I think, she would be 68 now and wonder who she would be and if she would be the same fun great person. I know she would be, but it hurts so bad not getting to grow older with her and Tom too, but a child, that has to be worse. So many things to remember in that unfinished life and the why would always remain. I am working with the group, My friend campaign. It is a suicide awareness group. I am learning and we are spreading the word. I do however interact with so many that have lost their children, husbands, others. My heart just aches for them. We did a fund raiser a couple weeks ago and I talked with a mother that had lost her son to suicide. So hard on those left behind to understand. There are at times warnings but sometimes not!
Have a great vacation and my prayers will be with you.
Yes the grands are a challenge but fun too. I know I was never that silly at that age, Smiles!!!! Bless you friend. Suep
i would want to see my mom and dad. then i would hug them and tell them i love them and how much i missed them.
Actually, according to 1 Thessalonians 4:16-17

For the Lord himself will come down from heaven, with a loud command, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet call of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first. After that, we who are still alive and are left will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And so we will be with the Lord forever.

As of today even more than in the past, I await this day and pray for its quick coming. I have my parents, grandparents, uncles and aunts and now my wife waiting my arrival. I so want to see how God will make all of this happen. I have seen healing over the years, bodies & spirits meeting will be even better.
Steve she will be getting her new body then, she is still alive spiritually I think.
I think also if you are open you will feel her presence around you. I know my Tom is here at times, I feel his presence and know he watches over me. My pastor said that when we die physically, the only thing that dies is our body. " Out of body in God's hands." When the man on the cross next to Jesus accepted him he said, "for today you will be with me in heaven". Do you think that was for him only, no it was also for us. suep
Yes, there is a heaven. The bible says, "To be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord". The body and the soul are together in the phyiscal sense, but not the spiritual. The body will return to ashes but the soul goes to Jesus, if you believe in him. While my grandfather was in the hospital, before passing away, he raised his hands to heaven and said, "Bethann don't you see them?". I questioned what he was seeing and he replied, "The angels Bethann, they are surrounding us, they are in this room". So yes he is in heaven waiting on me and I too will one day join him. There is a heaven to gain, and a hell to shun.
Amen, Bethann, absolutely! That is why I can't wait, even though I know that God will not allow us to rush His plan. I am trying very hard right now to not have the escapist philosophy of some who want to have this planet and all we know end just to get the New Heaven and New Earth that John talks about in Revelations. I must always remember He is my hope and my strong tower and continue to run to him. I pray that you have a good church home and family to keep you going. I know mine is helping me a lot through this. My pastor stayed with me at the hospital that night until 2 AM even though he had to meet his wife in St. Louis and drive to Arkansas for a convention. They then proceeded to come back for the visitation and officiate the funeral and then went back down and they return Wednesday. I will pray for you as I am doing for everyone I talk to on here.

bethann said:
Yes, there is a heaven. The bible says, "To be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord". The body and the soul are together in the phyiscal sense, but not the spiritual. The body will return to ashes but the soul goes to Jesus, if you believe in him. While my grandfather was in the hospital, before passing away, he raised his hands to heaven and said, "Bethann don't you see them?". I questioned what he was seeing and he replied, "The angels Bethann, they are surrounding us, they are in this room". So yes he is in heaven waiting on me and I too will one day join him. There is a heaven to gain, and a hell to shun.
When my dad was passing he said something about "mom" which he sometimes called our mother after almost 55 years and my sis said, "dad, mom will be right back etc, he then said, "no, not your mom, my mom, don't you see her right there?" "She is calling William". My dad always went by Bill and his mom and oldest sis were the only ones who called him William. He was also praying and talking in the spirit to Jesus even though he was unable to speak while he was awake! I think while we are passing we are allowed to see glimpses of the other side. Hospice has some really interesting information in their books in regards to this.
I envy those of you that were there when your loved one passed. You may not realize it but that was a gift even though it was hard. I would love to have had those last few moments with Tom. Knowing he died alone physically, hurts. I know the Lord didn't leave him alone and maybe it was easier for him that way but I will always wonder, "did he know, did he realize he was leaving me?" Did he suffer. The coroner said he didn't but I will always wonder. suep
i know there has got to be more than this life. There is another dimension and i believe our loved ones come and escort us to the other side all that is left there is the healing love that we experience from each of our friends and family. I have lost many beloved family members and each loss builds on the other one. I cant think of a certain one that i would like to see...all of them grandpa joe,grandma agnes, grandma margie, grandpa alvin, rastus, vicky, daryl, pat, suzie, spud, mamie...they will all be waiting there for me. god rest all of your souls.
I believe I will see some of my love ones friends and family members who tried to obey the commandments as set forth in the Bible. I look forward to seeing my Dad again as noted in Revelation 21:3,4. - a little while longer and death will be no more, neither will mourning, nor pain be anymore - the former things have passed away.

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