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Permalink Reply by Beverly Strain on
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Thank you Gaynell for sharing that information and offering your support to all here on the site that may need you.I know the immense pain I feel from losing my son but I can not even think of the pain of losing 2 sons and your parents.After reading your note,I feel stronger as I feel with all you have lost,here you are sharing and offering help.I just want to have some peace with it but can not seem to find it.I have to be strong for others as I have many that count on me to be strong.I found this out when I was falling apart and noticed that instead of receiving support from people I thought,I had to be the one that was comforting them.What would be the best advice that you could give to me as well as others that could give us strength and comfort.I as well as many others are dreading the holidays.It is very hard some days to even pull myself out of bed to even face the day.I have 2 other sons that I thought would be more supportive.At first I was very hurt with them but I soon realized that they were in such extreme pain they could not give me what I so desparately sought.I know I will never get over this,I am trying my best to get thru it.I am just so full of anxiety and pain when I even think of living my life without my son Tim.He was so very special and so deeply missed by so many people.It amazed me that over 700 people from all over the world attended his candlelight memorial in the park.It has been a year and 1/2 now.It still seems like yesterday he was here.His friends keep his memory alive by doing wonderful things in his name.I know there are no majic words to take the pain away but if you could,please share with me some advice to be stronger in dealing with this.This is a parents worst nightmare and on top of all,we know have to sit thru a trial and relive and hear every detail of his last hours
Gaynell Leath said:I have lost both of my sons and my parents.I find pennies which I call pennies from heaven.My sons and I always talked about penniesand how they were from heaven.Like an angel left itfor us.I also find stereos going off.Lights going off and many other things that happen.There is no doubt that I feel they are with me at all times.I listen to them with my heart.When I am sad it always happens a penny from heaven.God Bless you all on your journey.I am here for any of you for I have been through so many losses.Stay strong,give yourself a hug.May peace and the light shine upon you always.
Always here,
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Permalink Reply by Diane on
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Sonya - Keep that belief that your son IS trying to send you a message. My Ryan has sent me several messages and I believe without doubt it was / IS him. Right after Ryan passed I told him I was not afraid if he wanted to contact me. I told him I needed to know he was still with me. It took several months but then the signs appeared and they have not stopped. You are only a few weeks from his death and my heart goes out to you. The worse nightmare has invaded your life. Be kind to yourself, let the tears flow and believe your son is there with you because he is!! God bless. I will add you as a friend if you wish to contact me directly.
Diane, Ryan's mom forever.
Sonya Morgan said:Friday night or early Saturday am we heard this loud sound, the dogs all started barking.
My brother in law is staying with us for a bit so I thought maybe he dropped something or had issues getting off the futon .
Well when I got up Saturday am the TV in the living room and the cable was all out, and the light in kitchen all which is on the same fuse in fuse box well switch.
I had to reset the fuse switch , something made the fuse kick off.
Now the TV that went out ,my son bought this TV , he loved that TV. Flat screen, HD, etc.
WE have lived in this house over 10 yrs and that fuse switch has NEVER went out b4.
We had the one on other side of kitchen go out, this is an older house so you can't put too much on one fuse line thingy if you do it will throw the fuse.
I just know that was my son who threw that fuse just trying to figure out if he was just trying to tell me mom I am here.
Cause I keep telling him please send me a sign that you are ok , that you are still with me.
The same TV has went out for a minute or two since my son passed away on Oct 4th, 2010.
And it was not the electric it was just the TV because if it was the electric you would have to wait for the DISH to set back up etc.
My husband said the TV did that to him once or twice too the TV would just flash off and come back on. -
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Permalink Reply by Gaynell Leath on
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I do love to watch John Edwards myself.It is a comfort to know they are still with us.Thank you for your post.I have opened myself to signs and do see and feel them often.I hope and pray you and all others know you are thought of in this time we all need.Steven and Jasons mom Gaynell Leath always here
Devona Rodricq said:I never watched "Cross country with John Edwards" until my brother passed. It's such a comfort to know that your loved ones are still very much with you. What he says is that you need to be open with the signs, whether it be a lightbulb blinking to a song you identify with them, it's their way of trying to communicate with you. I totally believe that, just be open and don't always look for it. You know what I mean? I, too, as much as anyone would love to know how my loved one is. I believe in a Higherpower, such as the Lord, and I know my loved ones who have passed on are doing so much more better than we are and they are the ones who are praying for us now. Knowing where my brother is that if I were to ask him,"Would you want to come back?" I know his response would be NO!! Just for the simple fact, that Heaven is where I would want to be, too. I LOVE YOU, LEVI, FROM YOUR BABY SIS!!!!!!!!!!! -
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Permalink Reply by Lynnette Bryant on
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I have lost two sons to cancer. One at 11 and the other at age 7. The most recent is my 7 year old in 2008. I think they send me messages and come to me in my dreams. My oldest got to come home for the weekend in my dream after he died. He was said to go and wanted to make sure I would be ok. I dream lots of my 7 year old but I have never seen his face or had a conversation with him. I am not sure what that means but they are both proud of what I am doing in my dream to help others cope with their loss. I have started a online grief support social network to try and help people with their loss. My oldest boy came to me in a dream right after we went live with the site. He didn't say anything but has a wonderfully proud smile on his face. I feel they are looking down and smiling on what I am trying to do in their memory. I feel they have nudged me in this direction for a long time now.
I believe in everything and think if we just open our eyes and hearts we can see the supernatural.
Lynnette
Online grief support social network
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Lynnette Bryant said:I have lost two sons to cancer. One at 11 and the other at age 7. The most recent is my 7 year old in 2008. I think they send me messages and come to me in my dreams. My oldest got to come home for the weekend in my dream after he died. He was said to go and wanted to make sure I would be ok. I dream lots of my 7 year old but I have never seen his face or had a conversation with him. I am not sure what that means but they are both proud of what I am doing in my dream to help others cope with their loss. I have started a online grief support social network to try and help people with their loss. My oldest boy came to me in a dream right after we went live with the site. He didn't say anything but has a wonderfully proud smile on his face. I feel they are looking down and smiling on what I am trying to do in their memory. I feel they have nudged me in this direction for a long time now.
I believe in everything and think if we just open our eyes and hearts we can see the supernatural.
Lynnette
Online grief support social network
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Permalink Reply by Melinda Ellen Guinn on
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Does anyone know of an inexpensive psychic? I need to contact my daughter, Candace Rae Watson. Se passed April 9th from an accidental overdose. She wouldn't have died except for all the beers she had drunk!! The combination was FATAL! My poor Baby-girl!!!
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Permalink Reply by Barbara Rieger on
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Hi Melinda, I'm sorry but I don't know of any inexpensive psychic. But if you wait she will contact you in a dream, you can feel her presence by touching things that belong to her. My 42 year old son was killed by a drunk driver as he rode his BMW motorcycle on April 5, 2010. I had 2 dreams of him and in one he answered me when I asked him if he ever thinks of me and said yeah.I saw him for a few seconds as he stood at the bottom of 2 steps from our living room. He was wearing a black shirt with the NYYankees inscription and a dungaree jacket. It was only a matter of seconds. I wish I could see him again but there have been other things I felt were from him. Even when I looked in the sky I felt a closeness to him once and called him by name Joe!
Do you feel that a psychic would have more of a connection with your daughter than you would?
Good Luck and God Bless You!
With Love,
Barbara
Melinda Ellen Guinn said:Does anyone know of an inexpensive psychic? I need to contact my daughter, Candace Rae Watson. Se passed April 9th from an accidental overdose. She wouldn't have died except for all the beers she had drunk!! The combination was FATAL! My poor Baby-girl!!!
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Hi Melinda, I'm sorry but I don't know of any inexpensive psychic. But if you wait she will contact you in a dream, you can feel her presence by touching things that belong to her. My 42 year old son was killed by a drunk driver as he rode his BMW motorcycle on April 5, 2010. I had 2 dreams of him and in one he answered me when I asked him if he ever thinks of me and said yeah. Then one time I saw him for a few seconds as he stood at the bottom of 2 steps from our living room. He was wearing a black shirt with the NYYankees inscription and a dungaree jacket. It was only a matter of seconds. I wish I could see him again but there have been other things I felt were from him. Even when I looked in the sky and saw a star I felt a closeness to him once and called him by name Joe! I didn't feel that way when I looked at others stars. Somethings can make us feel close to them and as if they are acknowledging our presence. Melinda, do you feel that a psychic would have more of a connection with your daughter than you would?
Good Luck and God Bless You!
With Love,
Barbara
Melinda Ellen Guinn said:Does anyone know of an inexpensive psychic? I need to contact my daughter, Candace Rae Watson. Se passed April 9th from an accidental overdose. She wouldn't have died except for all the beers she had drunk!! The combination was FATAL! My poor Baby-girl!!!
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Hi JoAnn,
I had one child name Joe he was 42 years old when an impaired drunk driver struck my son as he rode on his BMW motorcycle. God can help with prayer for many things like healing a pain or giving us the strength and confidence to do things that will benefit ourselves as well as other people's lives.
I just live each day as I always have. I like to clean my house, cook and bake. But I don't need all that cake. I belong to a garden club in which I'm active, I go to lunch with friends. I type letters to friends and go on a soapnet site. Also go to the senior center and have fun indulging in activites, also attend all the parties offered. Although I don't attend all the activites as I did before but little by little I've been back doing some activities, seeing my friends and socializing.
When I think of how can I go on I find it becomes too dramatic for me. So what I do is just keep on keeping on and that's how we can go on. I feel it's not a good idea to think about what other people say such as even if it's 20 years from now. For me the pain comes and goes just like physical pain I've had in my body. It comes in waves. But I describe it like being on one of those carnival shelves and I'm the cat that someone is hitting with a baseball. I get hit down then I bounce back and then it happens again and it's repetitious. That's how I describe what happens to me. But in between of getting hit down I bounce back and go on with my life. We are here to live life as best we can.
God Bless You!
With Love,
Barbara
JoAnn Brozowski said:
Hi Janet - I, too, have no plan. Sadly, I have no other children to live for. I couldn't hurt my husband, but I do pray to God everyday to either ease the pain or take me now. So far He hasn't been listening. -
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Oh wow Melinda! That's fantastic it's a connection from your daughter that no psychic can give you. Candace is letting you know she is with you because when someone touches another person it's a sign of affection. I feel that Candace is conveying to you that she loves you. Melinda you don't need a psychic because your daughter is reaching out to you and she is with you. Just tell her "I love you Baby!" I promise you that you will feel so good.
With Love,
Barbara
Melinda Ellen Guinn said:I did feel Candace a couple days after she passed. I felt her standing behind me and she rubbed my arms up and doown.
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No Mike I don't know about many people who have experienced the supernatural. Personally, I can say that I have not experienced the supernatural either.
I had a couple of dreams and they were pleasant but I am aware that the dreams I had came from my own mind, heart and imagination because I wanted to see my son and feel a closeness. It was far from being supernatural. And when I saw him for a matter of seconds it was the way he looked the last time I saw him. It was a strong desire to see him and my own imagination and love is what brought his presence about. I feel my son Joe's presence because he is within my heart, body and soul. I personally believe a mother has a strong bond with her child unlike that of a man. Simply because she carried him in her body and delivered a miracle that is from God in Heaven. Definitely a blessing and something a man will never be able to experience.
As far as the individual Marein who heard her grandmother calling her in the night that's another story. I feel that she was not a mentally strong individual. She was unable to separate fact from her strong feelings of love and desire for a connection to her grandmother. She was unable to handle what she wanted and therefore had a mental breakdown. Personally, I feel that her sanity was not intact to begin with and that she couldn't face the reality of the facts. I know the reality but feel there is nothing that can stop me from desire and it has nothing to do with demons. The reality is that it was all manufactured within my own mind because I love my son and always have and always will love him more than anyone or anything in this entire earthly world.
I have a strong and healthy mental outlook on life!!! Obviously Marein did not!
May God Bless You!
With Love,
Barbara
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Permalink Reply by Terri Kuta on
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Melinda:
don't relie on a psychic most are out just for your money, have you asked your daughter for a sign that she is alright? My son died nov 19th and he gives us signs all the time you just have to look for it, maybe it her favorite song on the radio but when you change stations another favorite song will play back to back this happened to my husband the day he bought his new truck since our son was killed in his, I was following him and noticed that the expiration date of the tags was 02-09-2011 that would have been my son's 18th birthday, this was the same time the songs came on that showed my husband that our son approved of this choice, he kept asking do you think jonathan would want me to gt this truck. my daugher was having a real hard time 2 days ago and went to talk to her brother that same day she was going thru my purse looking for my credit card and found a ring she lost in highschool she graduated in 2008 and it doesn't even fit her anymore I never saw this ring befoe a guy we didn't approve of gave it to her so she always hid it from us but i only got this purse this past mothers day so there was no way she could have hid it in there, you just have to look and be open something will be so small and other things you will have no doubt. I wil light a candle for your daughter by my sons tonight and ask him to find her in heaven and make sure she sends you something of a sign you can recognize, he was a truly loving boy and if he can i promise you he will reach her for you
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