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Permalink Reply by Melinda Ellen Guinn on
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Terri Kuta said:Melinda:
Thanks Terri. Two days after she passed, I felt her standing behind me. She rubbed my arms up and down!! I've dreamt about her but can't remember after waking up. But I know she was in my dream just doing everyday things. Tomorrow her husband is picking me up to spend a few days w/them. We're taking the girls to Mt. Charleston to play in the snow. Candace and him did that frequently. Candace loved seeing the girls enjoying themselves. She's a GREAT Mom!
iI think I'll wait awhile to get a psychic, maybe on her one year anniversary. I want to have a celebration of her life at Sunset park in Vegas where she lived. My nephew said he would come to be part of thr entertainment. Thanks for your inpu. MELINDA (I appreciate u lighting a candle for her!)
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Permalink Reply by Cheri Kent on
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I am so very sorry for your lose, but I don't understand what you think a psychic would do for you let alone an inexpensive one? Unfortunately, nothing you do, even with a psychic, would bring your daughter back. Please try and get some counseling from a professional grief counselor. I know losing a love one is so very hard as I lost my husband a year and half ago through a very sudden massive heart attack and he was only 50 years old. I still struggle with the "why did this happen" thing. I do believe our love one's are around us and sometimes we can feel them close. You just got to let it happen naturally though and not force it. It may come as a dream as other's have said or as a special touch. The holidays are tough and I sincerely hope you find what you are looking for. Please surround yourself this holiday season with lots of family and friends. It will definitely help. Sincerely, Cheri
Melinda Ellen Guinn said:
Does anyone know of an inexpensive psychic? I need to contact my daughter, Candace Rae Watson. Se passed April 9th from an accidental overdose. She wouldn't have died except for all the beers she had drunk!! The combination was FATAL! My poor Baby-girl!!!
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Permalink Reply by Dottie's Daughter on
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I posted this comment below on another site a couple of days ago and just found this discussion so felt I should post here also. I'm wondering if anyone else experienced something like this? I have not been able to stop thinking about it since it happened a few days ago! My logical mind tells me this incident was a dream but the feeling persists it was very real. I have always been skeptical of stories such as this but I know what happened to me and its really been bothering me since. I know what I heard..I know I was awake...and now am finding it hard to reconcile the feelings I have of this incident. I still don't know what to think of this....
Around 3:30 in the morning I woke up hearing my Mother calling my name. Her voice actually woke me up...she was calling my name over and over but soft like she didn't want to wake my husband. I sat up in bed and said "what's wrong Mom?" I heard her moan and she said "I fell down." I jumped out of bed and ran down the hallway to the bedroom she had stayed in when she was with us for about a month in between hospital visits. I turned on the lights and looked around the room. Boxes from her apt are stacked in this bedroom as I still haven't been able to go through them all. I turned out the lights and walked around in our dark house and finally went back to her bedrm and looked around again. As I stood there I told myself it had to be a dream but I felt it wasn't a dream as I stood there remembering the sound of her voice while I was rushing down the hallway vividly awake hearing her moaning in pain. I finally wandered back into our bedroom and climbed into bed. My husband who was awake by now asked me what was wrong. I told him what happened and he said you've just had a dream...go back to sleep. I tried to explain to him...her voice really woke me up..you don't understand...I really heard her voice calling out plain as day. It really truly was her voice calling my name over and over again till I woke up. I never did get back to sleep. I could hear the tone of her voice...the inflection...the way she said my name over and over..how softly but persistently she was calling for me...how she sounded..how she wanted me to wake up and come help her. I don't think I will ever forget this morning. I can't stop thinking about it and feel weird even writing about it. I remember thinking at the time I must be dreaming but I was awake saying that to myself to rationalize it. It just sounds so crazy to say it outloud or write it down. I'm not telling any friends or family other than my husband as they will think I'm losing it. My husband insists it was a dream but I know what I heard. By the way my Mother fell the evening of May 6th 2010 and broke her pelvis outside her apt when she took her little dog outside. It was the beginning of the end for her..she passed on Sept 28th 2010. Dottie's Daughter
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Permalink Reply by Barbara Rieger on
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Hi Dottie's Daughter,
I received a notice that there was a reply to the conversation from a couple days go. I had answered Melinda Ellen with a post about what had happen to me. Then there were other people who joined in with their opinions. You may want to go back and read the other posts to see how other individuals feel about what happens when someone they love is no longer physically with us. My name is Barbara and I lost my only child Joe who was 42 was taken because of a drunk driver who had impaired driving skills. I know my experiences were as real to me at the time as it is real that I am typing at this moment. It makes me feel good to type and express my feelings and thoughts to others. And my experiences with dreaming and seeing my son as I have never had any dreams so real before make me happy than it's not hurting anyone. Then when I saw him it was a few seconds and it made me feel good;I felt he came to say goodbye to me. So sweetheart if what experience you had of being woke up from your sleep and hearing your mother's voice and her answering you then I see nothing wrong in it. People are complex, life is complex and so are our minds, bodies and souls.
If your your experience continues to help you feel good than it's all good!
With Love,
Barbara
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Mike,
I am going to qualify what I going to say before I ask you one question. Since I and the others who are posting on this board have lost a loved one most recently I am curious about something about you. Who is it that you lost that brings you to this message board?
With Love,
Barbara
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Oh Devona I wish I had something profound to say that would help you with the date of July 3rd. I'm sure it was wonderful to celebrate your birthday and your dad's birthday on the same day. That is truly a special feeling to share a birthday with someone you love. My dad and my maternal grandfather's birthday is the same date except different year. And I still think of it with happiness knowing they shared this birthday in common. Nonethless, with the loss of your brother on the same day I would imagine that there are many mixed emotions for you and your family. I have lost my brother Richie in fact my only sibling and I have no other child but Joe who I lost this past April 5, 2010.
Life will never be the same but one thing I've known for many years before the passing of my father and my brother is that we can be certain of change in life. A love for a brother is one like no other a love for a father is beyond all words as we hold a father in a high esteem.
How nice that you realize that your brother came by your side to kiss and bid you a special good-bye. He is at peace as I feel everyone is who bids us farewell in a dream or any other way. It gives us peace and a comfort that nothing else now can surpass.
Cling to your husband and four beautiful daughter's at this time they are your future.
May Abundant Blessings Be Bestowed on You and You'rs!"With Love,
Barbara
Jeanne M Croghan said:
Davona, I am so sorry about your brother. However, I am delighted with what you wrote. I have been visited by both my parents and my Aunt many times. I have no doubt the soul goes on. Hugs, Jeanne
Devona Rodricq said:My dad and I have the same birthday, July 3rd, that day, too, was the day my big brother died. It's only been 6 month's and 20 days, since my brother left us. My day's are long and lonely, but I can only get through them because I have my four children and a husband. He was a great loss to our family, and I will always miss him dearly. Two day's after he died, I was sleeping not soundly but enough to know that I felt something. When he was alive and whenever I saw him, before he would leave he would give me a big bear hug and kiss my cheek or my neck and would always tell me he loved me. Well, that night, when I was in between sleep and awake, I felt a warmness, like a kiss on my neck that brought a chill, I sat up, because I was on my side. There was nobody else in our room, and it was'nt my husband because he was sound asleep. I cried to myself because I felt like that was our last contact ever that,that was his way of saying good-bye. At that exact moment, I was overwhelmed with saddness but with reassurence that he still was there. Other family member's do have dreams of him and tell us of them. That helps, too, to know that he is still around spriturally. I love you, brother, and I miss you so much!!!! -
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Oh Devona I wish I had something profound to say that would help you with the date of July 3rd. I'm sure it was wonderful to celebrate your birthday and your dad's birthday on the same day. That is truly a special feeling to share a birthday with someone you love. My dad and my maternal grandfather's birthday is the same date except different year. And I still think of it with happiness knowing they shared this birthday in common. Nonethless, with the loss of your brother on the same day I would imagine that there are many mixed emotions for you and your family. I have lost my brother Richie in fact my only sibling and I have no other child but Joe who I lost this past April 5, 2010.
Life will never be the same but one thing I've known for many years before the passing of my father and my brother is that we can be certain of change in life. A love for a brother is one like no other a love for a father is beyond all words as we hold a father in a high esteem.
How nice that you realize that your brother came by your side to kiss and bid you a special good-bye. He is at peace as I feel everyone is who bids us farewell in a dream or any other way. It gives us peace and a comfort that nothing else now can surpass.
Cling to your husband and four beautiful daughter's at this time they are your future.
May Abundant Blessings Be Bestowed on You and You'rs!"With Love,
Barbara
Jeanne M Croghan said:
Davona, I am so sorry about your brother. However, I am delighted with what you wrote. I have been visited by both my parents and my Aunt many times. I have no doubt the soul goes on. Hugs, Jeanne
Devona Rodricq said:My dad and I have the same birthday, July 3rd, that day, too, was the day my big brother died. It's only been 6 month's and 20 days, since my brother left us. My day's are long and lonely, but I can only get through them because I have my four children and a husband. He was a great loss to our family, and I will always miss him dearly. Two day's after he died, I was sleeping not soundly but enough to know that I felt something. When he was alive and whenever I saw him, before he would leave he would give me a big bear hug and kiss my cheek or my neck and would always tell me he loved me. Well, that night, when I was in between sleep and awake, I felt a warmness, like a kiss on my neck that brought a chill, I sat up, because I was on my side. There was nobody else in our room, and it was'nt my husband because he was sound asleep. I cried to myself because I felt like that was our last contact ever that,that was his way of saying good-bye. At that exact moment, I was overwhelmed with saddness but with reassurence that he still was there. Other family member's do have dreams of him and tell us of them. That helps, too, to know that he is still around spriturally. I love you, brother, and I miss you so much!!!! -
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LindaLove,
I just received a message that you're waiting for my reply. I replied with a email and then noticed I omitted the 1 in the number of your addy. Then I sent it to your correct email address. I don't know what happened but they have both been sent and not kicked back to my mail box. Obviously they went to the wrong person. I can't seem to connect with your name anywhere today and it's getting frustrating. As today is a really painful and tearful day for me after receiving a telephone message. I can't telephone back as I don't like family or friends know how I am really feeling. Some people think I don't cry or feel anything because I was playing my messages to my mother right after the passing of my only child. And she told the widow of my brother (now remarried) that Barbara didn't even cry. I am on stage and behind the curtains with only my husband home with me is when I feel free to express my grief as I continue to mourn the loss of my son Joe. He was 42 but he'll always be my baby!
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Permalink Reply by Lynnette Bryant on
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It is so wonderful when our loved ones send us signs.I feel you need to keep an open mind and you will see lots of signs. Every holiday since my son died there have been mishaps. Small ones that keep me busy so I don't miss him as much. Latest mishap was Christmas afternoon when my bathroom sink, tub and toilet all plugged up. I tried for hours to get them unplugged and went to the gas station for Drano. The sink and tub got better but the toilet didn't budge. I went to bed that night thinking I had to call a plumber the next day. I said that Cullen did this because he figured I would be sad on Christmas and this would help distract me. I told Cullen thank you for helping me through the day and he could unplug the toilet so I would not have to call the plumber. The next morning when I woke up the toilet flushed. I love and miss him so much.Journey On
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Oh I'm rather new on this site so I never saw your messages about your brother. I'm so sorry knowing that it's terrible your brother was involved with the occult. It would terrify me if anyone I loved believed in tarot cards etc. I learned a long time ago and believe that tarot cards, astrology and the weigie board are bad a negative force of evil. I'd be terrified to go near them. However, I do believe we feel the love of someone who has passed. My son was a believer in God and a good person. What I feel and dreamed is from my own imagination, desire and love that will live in my mind, heart, body and soul until I am no longer on this planet.
With Love,
Barbara
Mike Fernandaz said:Yes i've talked about this many times....My brother died toying with ESP, astrology, tarot cards, or any form of the occult may thus be opening the door to other things.... Barbara one common thread running through my mind [who had got involved with the occult] was that many like others had been sucked deeper and deeper into the satanic whirlpool through channels clothed in a thin veneer of respectability. Yes, the occult is nothing more than a stepping-stone to contact with Satan and the demons!
God’s Law to the Israelites therefore prohibited any form of spiritism, saying: “There should not be found in you . . . anyone who employs divination, a practicer of magic or anyone who looks for omens or a sorcerer, or one who binds others with a spell or anyone who consults a spirit medium or a professional foreteller of events or anyone who inquires of the dead
Mike,
I am going to qualify what I going to say before I ask you one question. Since I and the others who are posting on this board have lost a loved one most recently I am curious about something about you. Who is it that you lost that brings you to this message board?
With Love,
Barbara
Mike Fernandaz said:
This is a story i want everyone who believes in the supernatural to pay close attention, about a woman who lived in Brazil most of her life...... During her childhood her parents allowed an elderly woman who practiced spiritism to stay at their home for a couple of days. But after the woman left, “voices” began to talk to the little girl, teaching her spiritist hymns and remedies to cure sicknesses. The girl became frightened. She went to a spiritist center for help but was told that she had a “gift” and should practice it. As a result, her house became a spiritist center where novenas to Saint Cosme and Saint Damião were held.
In the years that followed, she would be acting quite normal when, suddenly, a black figure would appear and she would go into a trance. In this state she would perform healings, prescribe remedies for illnesses and free other individuals who were under attack from supernatural forces. But when she would come out of her trance and learn what had happened, she would find it hard to believe.
One night while fast asleep, this woman was pulled out of bed and, unconscious, was led outside the house toward a nearby sluice where she could have met her death. However, she tripped over a fence and regained consciousness. She was badly shaken by the experience and desperately wanted to break free from the forces that controlled her.
But what were those forces?
It points to wicked intelligent creatures in the spirit realm as being responsible for these things. “We have a wrestling, not against blood and flesh, but against . . . the wicked spirit forces in the heavenly places.” The chief of these wicked spirits, or demons, is Satan the Devil.—Some people, though not able to peer into the invisible realm themselves, scoff at the idea that such persons as the Devil and demons exist.
Today, too, it is possible to get free from bondage to wicked spirits. The woman mentioned above did. How? First of all, she realized that she would need supernatural help to break free from these forces, whatever they were. So she prayed to God and promised that, if he would deliver her, she would never again do anything disagreeable to him.
The following morning there was a knock at her door. Before she could answer it, “voices” commanded her not to open the door. Why? The “voices” told her that ‘the Devil was waiting for her.’ The knock persisted and so did the “voices.” With great effort she finally answered the door.
But the “voices” had lied. It was not the Devil. Instead, there was a young man at the door who had come to encourage her to read the Bible. He offered her an issue of the Watchtower magazine that contained an article on the influence of wicked spirit forces. She wondered how the young man knew that she was in trouble with these forces. Then she remembered her prayer the night before. Could this be the answer to it? If this was an opportunity to get free from harassment by supernatural forces, she did not want to miss it.
She began to study the Bible, and, as she learned God’s will, she made changes in her life. Gradually she became free of demon control.
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Hi Mike,
Oh I'm rather new on this site so I never saw your messages about your brother. I'm so sorry knowing that it's terrible your brother was involved with the occult. It would terrify me if anyone I loved believed in tarot cards etc. I learned a long time ago and believe that tarot cards, astrology and the weigie board are bad a negative force of evil. I'd be terrified to go near them. However, I do believe we feel the love of someone who has passed. My son was a believer in God and a good person. What I feel and dreamed is from my own imagination, desire and love that will live in my mind, heart, body and soul until I am no longer on this planet.
With Love,
Barbara
Mike Fernandaz said:Yes i've talked about this many times....My brother died toying with ESP, astrology, tarot cards, or any form of the occult may thus be opening the door to other things.... Barbara one common thread running through my mind [who had got involved with the occult] was that many like others had been sucked deeper and deeper into the satanic whirlpool through channels clothed in a thin veneer of respectability. Yes, the occult is nothing more than a stepping-stone to contact with Satan and the demons!
God’s Law to the Israelites therefore prohibited any form of spiritism, saying: “There should not be found in you . . . anyone who employs divination, a practicer of magic or anyone who looks for omens or a sorcerer, or one who binds others with a spell or anyone who consults a spirit medium or a professional foreteller of events or anyone who inquires of the dead
Mike,
I am going to qualify what I going to say before I ask you one question. Since I and the others who are posting on this board have lost a loved one most recently I am curious about something about you. Who is it that you lost that brings you to this message board?
With Love,
Barbara
Mike Fernandaz said:
This is a story i want everyone who believes in the supernatural to pay close attention, about a woman who lived in Brazil most of her life...... During her childhood her parents allowed an elderly woman who practiced spiritism to stay at their home for a couple of days. But after the woman left, “voices” began to talk to the little girl, teaching her spiritist hymns and remedies to cure sicknesses. The girl became frightened. She went to a spiritist center for help but was told that she had a “gift” and should practice it. As a result, her house became a spiritist center where novenas to Saint Cosme and Saint Damião were held.
In the years that followed, she would be acting quite normal when, suddenly, a black figure would appear and she would go into a trance. In this state she would perform healings, prescribe remedies for illnesses and free other individuals who were under attack from supernatural forces. But when she would come out of her trance and learn what had happened, she would find it hard to believe.
One night while fast asleep, this woman was pulled out of bed and, unconscious, was led outside the house toward a nearby sluice where she could have met her death. However, she tripped over a fence and regained consciousness. She was badly shaken by the experience and desperately wanted to break free from the forces that controlled her.
But what were those forces?
It points to wicked intelligent creatures in the spirit realm as being responsible for these things. “We have a wrestling, not against blood and flesh, but against . . . the wicked spirit forces in the heavenly places.” The chief of these wicked spirits, or demons, is Satan the Devil.—Some people, though not able to peer into the invisible realm themselves, scoff at the idea that such persons as the Devil and demons exist.
Today, too, it is possible to get free from bondage to wicked spirits. The woman mentioned above did. How? First of all, she realized that she would need supernatural help to break free from these forces, whatever they were. So she prayed to God and promised that, if he would deliver her, she would never again do anything disagreeable to him.
The following morning there was a knock at her door. Before she could answer it, “voices” commanded her not to open the door. Why? The “voices” told her that ‘the Devil was waiting for her.’ The knock persisted and so did the “voices.” With great effort she finally answered the door.
But the “voices” had lied. It was not the Devil. Instead, there was a young man at the door who had come to encourage her to read the Bible. He offered her an issue of the Watchtower magazine that contained an article on the influence of wicked spirit forces. She wondered how the young man knew that she was in trouble with these forces. Then she remembered her prayer the night before. Could this be the answer to it? If this was an opportunity to get free from harassment by supernatural forces, she did not want to miss it.
She began to study the Bible, and, as she learned God’s will, she made changes in her life. Gradually she became free of demon control.
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Permalink Reply by white dove on
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Dear Teresa, I do honestly feel our beloveds do watch over us from above and send us many signs. They know how much we ache.. and my mom continues to contact me. This is purely a Heavenly communication regardless of the non sayers. 2 nights ago my mom was in my dreams and her voice sounded strangely digital but she said: I love you... then nana. I saw her! She knows i need to see her... and also the many other indications she sends down to me for me to know she is watching over us. My mom could also see and feel spirits of our beloveds when she was on this earth. I also need to write these down for comfort for my daughter later:) All we need to be is open and to watch, listen carefully. God's speed in healing for u dear. xxxxxx's!
teresa said:I believe in signs and dreams. There have been so many, too many to list from my son. I know he is out there watching out for me and his dad and friends. I need to write them down somewhere so I don't forget. I miss him so much. It aches and aches and hurts so deeply. I still don't want to believe it's true. -
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