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Permalink Reply by Melinda Ellen Guinn on June 4, 2011 at 9:52pm

Thanks Alicia. I love your name. I can't wait to talk to him tomorrow! Ever since I found out I'm gonna be able to talk to her I feel so much better! At times the sadness is stil profound, but I feel so much better that she's talking to me thru the medium! I can't wait to die and have her take me Home w/her!!! I'll be sure and post here so you know how it went. David Baker is calling me at 1:00 p.m.  You can look him up on the internet. He's a medium, not a psychic. (i don't really know the difference)

Permalink Reply by Maria van Olphen on June 5, 2011 at 12:35am

Her is the eulogy I wrote for my dad..  there is no loss here.. he has always been found..

 

My dad lived a good 82 yrs of his life on earth. I find it hard to write his eulogy because I feel like he hasn’t left the building.

Every time my brothers and sisters get together with my mom for comfort, strength and support, we wind up laughing and talking about dad and his goofy and unique ways.

Surely we cry in sadness because we miss him already. We know that it might take some time for us to see him again. We cry because we have a strong physical connection with him, and now, we can no longer hear his voice, hold him, smell his scent, do barbe ques with him, take him on vacation, have a few beers with him, and all the fun stuff we are accustomed to doing with him.
It seems like where ever I go, he is always there. You can’t help but smile or laugh when you think of Daddy. He was easy to please and quick to comply. My younger sister refers to him as the rice brigade. Whenever we have dinners, we never get low on rice. He is just on top of it.

He has his ways of annoyingly aggravating you for little things.. and only to remind you that life is meant to be fun, and not taken so seriously.

You never hear him complain about anything. He loves to read the papers, listen to news, and repeats what he just heard as we watch the same program with him.

Dad was a loving husband in his own little ways. He is quick to forgive and slow to anger. My mom recalled a story that happened a long time ago in the earlier years of marriage. In their fight, mom asked him why he even married her. Expecting an antagonizing response, Dad, without batting an eye, said, because “I love you”.

He may not be the kind of romantic who sends flowers and cards, or remember anniversaries and birthdays all the time. He showed it by cutting up fruits for her, sharing the last piece of donut, reminiscing their younger days, or going shopping with her.

Dad is generous and unselfish. He would consistently find money on the ground, win small lottery, win casino bets, and he would be so eager and happy to share his loot .

I miss his war stories and tales of when he was a young boy – how he gathered classified information from the Japanese, and warned the American soldiers of the ambush, how, as a young handsome man, managed to escape from a desperate woman who hogtied him because she wanted to marry him.

There are so many things I would like to share about my dad. I was his personal barber. When I was out of town, he would wait for me. This was our special bonding time to talk about anything and everything about nothing. And when I first saw him in the hospital, the first thing he asked is if mom knew I was here. And then gestured for me to give him a haircut.

When my sister from Australia told him that she had to leave sooner because she needs to find a job, he said in gasping breaths “ I’ll pray for you”

Our dad was an amazing and wonderful father. He loved us unconditionally. We have been blessed to have shared the last few months with him in his bedside, and be able to say our goodbyes.

Dad uttered some sound before he passed on. Mom and I could not make anything out of it, so we asked him to write it down. We could not make it out either. It started with an F A R…

It troubled me at first that I could not make anything out of it. Until one day, while I was driving, it came to me.. he was bidding FAREWELL . Not goodbye, bye, or see you later… He went formal on us.. He went with grace and style. We went in peace.

They say that losing a loved one is one of the most difficu lt things we can go through in life. I disagree. First of all, we didn’t lose him. We know where he is. We just cannot touch him, here his voice, and smell his scent from where we are.

But that’s okay. His legacy is within us. He is our inspiration. We are proud to be his children, and husband to mom. His love is here to stay.

With dad’s name like Teodulo, which means “gift from God” or “God-servant”, It think it is safe to say that he lived up to his name.

Until we meet again, Daddy.

Alicia Rodriguez said:

MARIA IM SORRY FOR YOU'RE LOSS. IT IS VERY SAD MY SON PASSED ON 7/12/00 AND I MISS HIM EVERY DAY. IT IS SO HARD NOT TO CRY WHEN EVER I THINK OF HIM. OR SEE ONE OF HIS FRIENDS. I STILL HAVE 4 SONS N 2 DAUGHTER S
BUT STILL MISS JESSE THEY ALL HAVE A PLACE IN MY HEART THANK YOU FOR YOU FOR YOU'RE KIND WORDS GOD BLESS @YOU

Permalink Reply by Alicia Rodriguez on June 5, 2011 at 3:37am

Thank you ill do that and try and get some sleep. And wait to here from you tomorrow. God bless you.goodnight hope your reasted for your readin tomorrow good luckill pray you have a a good day and reading .Alicia

Permalink Reply by Melinda Ellen Guinn on June 5, 2011 at 10:03pm

Thanks Alicia. It went well. She WAS standing behind me & rubbed my arms up and down, just like I thought! He said Candace said to tell her husband she's fine. She only remembers the good times she had down here. She sees the girls often. I asked if there was a program or something she wanted me to put them in, she said no. 

Permalink Reply by juli on June 30, 2011 at 12:23am

I'm so sorry for your loss of your Grandma.  I think it's comforting to know that you are recieving signs that your Grandmother is ok and that she is making sure that she stays close to watch over you and loves you so much that she will come in spirit and also in the form of the Blue Heron on several occurances to let you know she is near.  I believe that she is now your guardian angel---how wonderful! I hope that she will continue to show you that she is there with you.  I have had a similar experience...My Grandmother died in 2008 during Thanksgiving and it such a horrible sadness......I loved her dearly.  Then 2 mths later...my precious Newfie Dog (Buddy) died......huge sadness again...he was an Angel.  I could barely handle my sweet Grandmother passing away and then my big sweet dog-----wellll, the night my dog Buddy passed away I was outside in the front yard crying, I heard something hit above the roof of the porch..I looked up and on the center point of the house above the porch was a Grey Night Heron just sitting there. I was startled, but my crying had stopped and I suddenly felt calm.  For almost 2 month that same Grey heron came every night and sat at the same place until I got tired of standing there (severa hours) and went in to go to bed....and the strange thing about it was that we don't live by the bay or any marsh areas.....he was completly out of his element and also the only one that I've ever seen around here and have never seen one in person.  He even walked up to me almost touching my hand, but I moved and it turned around and ran off.  Wow! so I know that our loved ones show us signs and that they come when you need them to make sure that you are alright and that they are safe and free of any pain.  Now they are our guardian angels...nice, right?

Permalink Reply by Sheryl McCormick on July 30, 2011 at 7:10am

I apologize Sheila - I didn't see this post until this morning.  I work as a medical office manager and we moved our medical clinic in June to a 50,000 square foot building so I had to work many, many hours in May and June due to that.  We are all moved in now (moved June 25th) and things are settleling down a little so I can have part of my life back again.  In answer to your question, yes, I have had signs from my husband.  I had many right away - light bulbs burning out almost simultaneously, a cd starting playing on its own in the computer (beautiful music) and woke me up early one morning, one night I couldn't sleep and felt so much anxiety - I prayed for God to help me - I felt so alone and needed to know He would hold me through all of this and all of a sudden I felt this really tight embrase that actually lifted me up.  I thought oh my goodness how will I ever tell anyone about this?  They will think I am crazy but my grief counselor has told me she has heard things like this happening to many people.  I also have a picture of my husband on my desktop computer and it is a picture of him on a pontoon boat - sometimes the picture changes and has sunrays shining down it doesn't stay that way though - I had my son take a picture of it for me.  Last night I woke up to this sound that Dave used to make when we were sleeping - I called it "flicking his toes" I thought it might be the dog but he was sound asleep.  I really think God allows them to reach out to us to comfort us.  Many times I will be thinking about him and let him know in my thoughts how much I miss him and I sense him sending comforting thoughts my way letting me know he is still with me and loves me.  Until someone experiences a loss like this - they cannot understand. I know I never thought it was possible and I have a strong Christian faith so I don't believe in seeking out mediums, etc. but I am convinced that God does allow our loved ones to reach out to us to comfort us - just wish I could hug him one more time, see his smile one more time, hear his laugh again, etc. 

 

As far as books I recommend "Heaven is 4 Real" it is a story about a 4 year old boy that had a death experience and shares about Heaven.  I found it very comforting.  I also read "90 minutes in Heaven" and I have a few books written for widows that I am reading too. 

Have you checked out the group started by Steve Cain for those who have lost spouses?  You may find this group helpful especially since you lost your fiance.  I belong to that group and have found comfort talking to others who have lost a mate, fiance, etc.

Hang in there - write anytime,

Sheryl

 

God bless you.


Sheila Horvath said:

Sheryl...I am also sorry for your loss...It is so hard to cope. I read a lot of things on here, not sure what kind of book to actually go get. Have you had signs from your husband? Can you feel him near? I wish I could Jeff. I just feel abanded. I try to talk to my friends...but some tell me I need to pick up and just move on. How do you do that? I am trying to continue life..but it's all changed now. God Bless you to...you are in my thoughts. BTW thank you so much for writing me! HUGS

Permalink Reply by Dorcas Cummings on August 13, 2011 at 10:07pm

Since my husband died two years ago. I believe that me and my children have experienced something supernatural. One day I was in the kitchen cooking dinner and I felt a hand touch my back. I knew there was no object behind me. It felt like someone had touched me as I was cooking dinner. There was another instance my son said he slept with his glasses on in the bed. He woke up the next morning and said his eyeglasses were sitting neatly on the dresser like someone took the glasses off his eyes. We even misplaced an item in the house and all of a sudden it appeared. I've always heard strange things are not suppose to happen, but I believe that is a sign of your loved one comforting you through your grief whether through your dream or other manifestations. No one can truly explain whats on the other side.

Permalink Reply by Marsha H on August 15, 2011 at 5:06am

Hi Dorcus ...

My sympathies to you and your family on the loss of your beloved husband.

Many discussions on the Internet say that a person is grieving so badly they hallucinate hearing the voice of their loved one; seeing them or feeling a touch from them, but there is no scientific study stating that this comment is true and no one knows what happens after a loved one dies.  I believe you had a touch from your husband and you experienced it.  My husband passed away April 27, 2011 from pancreatic cancer and I was dreading two days before having to go through the day on what would have been our 39th wedding anniversary.  I bought an anniversary card for my husband and put it on top of the box with his ashes in it and kissed the box wishing my husband a happy anniversary.  I was amazed at how calm I was all day.  In the evening my sister-in-law was coming over for a visit and I was sitting sideways on the sofa looking out the window waiting for her and suddenly I felt two hands on my shoulders with fingers massaging me and my husband use to do that all the time.  I was not surprised, but suddenly just felt a calmness come over me and peace.  Professionals can try to say what they want about some of these experiences, but without proof anything is possible and many people have experienced dreams; a touch; odd things happening around the house.  Enjoy the fact that it is entirely possible that your husband is watching over you and your family. 

Permalink Reply by Suzie on September 10, 2011 at 12:04am

 

My father always had a fasination with life on the other side, and even had a near death experience where he seen the light and could see his body floating above him.

We'd always joke (and be quite serious too) and say that who ever died first would send the other person a *sign*

He was a very sick man, especially in the last two years, when we almost lost him a good half a dozen times. We'd sit and talk about his up coming death, his fears, and of course the sign.

 

It's been just over 2 months now and I'm still waiting. It breaks my heart I haven't seen anything. People point out little things - but too me, but those can just be explained too easy. I want something very obvious and he knew that.

 

The last day I spent at my parents before coming home, I even took a adivan and slept on his side of the bed where he died.......still nothing :((

Permalink Reply by Karen Campbell on September 26, 2011 at 1:31pm

My first 'sign' was when my Grandson Robert died in 2008 at the age of 14.  The town where he lived and played baseball, dedicated a field to him.  As one of the many friends was singing "the wind beneath my wings" an eagle flew out of nowhere and circled the field for the duration of the song.  At the end of the song, the eagle flew into a small puffy cloud that had never been there.  Then when we all released balloons in his honor, the eagle reappeared and followed the 4 that my daughter and her husband at the time released.  The eagle followed those balloons over the mountain and out of site.  Then this past summer when I was in Virginia Beach with my younger daughter, we were in the pool late evening and all of a sudden these 2 cylindrical "lights" came bouncing across the sky.  They lasted for a few minutes and then they were gone.  a couple of hours later, we were sitting on her back patio and those 2 "lights" appeared again and bounced along for a while.  Then she was going to Cape May on the ferry a month ago and she called me at 9:30 pm and said "those 2 bouncing lights are in front of the ferry".  We know it is Marlene and Robert letting us know they are together and are ok.  The first sign that Marlene had from Robert was a lone blossom on a cactus that was my mother's that had never blossomed before.  That was easter after Roberts death.  I have a shamrock plant that was in a boquet from the funeral of Marlene and about a week after I had it, it had 2 flowers on it.  They died off and nothing more until about 3 weeks after that and until now, it is full of blossoms.  And i do not hve a green thumb.  I just know it is Marlene and Robert telling me they are with God. 

Permalink Reply by Judy Kaan on October 9, 2011 at 11:07pm

So sorry Melissa ---- for me - my Justin was in the hospital for over 2 months - and he was supposed to be going into a rehab.  I saw him on Sunday and didn't say goodbye to him - since they were doing something to him in the room and my brotherinlaw kindly always took me to the hospital.   

 

He died on Monday at 6:40 pm - at 5:40 pm they told me he would be going to rehab.  I will always

regret not being there with him on Monday.  We were true soul mates and 5 years were ripped away from us.  

Waiting for a sign from my sweet Justin - although the 2nd day I felt someone touch my shoulder early

in the morning - and it had to be him.  God I miss him soo much......

Melissa said:

Anne, Bill had Protein C and Protein S deficiencies. It is a hereditary clotting disorder which causes the blood to thicken and clot faster than normal. Bill had twisted his ankle at work on December 13th. He threw a blood clot to his lungs at 1:00 AM on Christmas Eve. I know, medically and professionally, that he died from a Pulmonary embolus (bllod clot to the lungs) but I requested a copy of his autopsy report so I can see it in writing. Just my thing, I have to see it in writing so when I get to the stage when I get past my demons I will know.

Permalink Reply by Leslie Lloyd on October 9, 2011 at 11:52pm

Judy Kaan said:

So sorry Melissa ---- for me - my Justin was in the hospital for over 2 months - and he was supposed to be going into a rehab.  I saw him on Sunday and didn't say goodbye to him - since they were doing something to him in the room and my brotherinlaw kindly always took me to the hospital.   

 

He died on Monday at 6:40 pm - at 5:40 pm they told me he would be going to rehab.  I will always

regret not being there with him on Monday.  We were true soul mates and 5 years were ripped away from us.  

Waiting for a sign from my sweet Justin - although the 2nd day I felt someone touch my shoulder early

in the morning - and it had to be him.  God I miss him soo much......

Melissa said:

Anne, Bill had Protein C and Protein S deficiencies. It is a hereditary clotting disorder which causes the blood to thicken and clot faster than normal. Bill had twisted his ankle at work on December 13th. He threw a blood clot to his lungs at 1:00 AM on Christmas Eve. I know, medically and professionally, that he died from a Pulmonary embolus (bllod clot to the lungs) but I requested a copy of his autopsy report so I can see it in writing. Just my thing, I have to see it in writing so when I get to the stage when I get past my demons I will know.

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