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Permalink Reply by Barbara Rieger on
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Sonya Morgan said:I just don't know how to go on.
The pain is so bad, and everybody I speak to who has lost a child even if it was 20 yrs ago they say the same thing the pain never goes away.
So how do you learn to go on?
How do you go on living?
JoAnn Brozowski said:Hi Sonya - I have almost exactly the same story. My son Tyler was 24 when I found him this past January. I found him in work unresponsive. His birthday was Sept 19th. The pain is unbearable. One of the only things that help is knowing people like yourself are going through the same thing. -
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Permalink Reply by Melinda Ellen Guinn on
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I'm trying to be happy for Candace. She's in a better place w/o all this Earthly b.s. dragging her down and enticing her. I can't wait to be w/her. I tell myself she's happy and time passes quickly up there. Or maybe she's in a different dimension right next to me. I felt her standing behind me and she rubbed my arms. I was so freaked out, shocked, I didn't even talk to her. But I know it was Candace! Try to not be sad. They're happy. I just don't know how she deals w/not being w/her 3 little girls! It's very hard to look at her pictures I blew up and put in frames on my bedroom walls. I know she wouldn't want me to be sad, but on the other hand, wouldn't it pain her that I'm not?
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Permalink Reply by Irene Kendig on
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In the national award-winning book, Conversations with Jerry and Other People I Thought Were Dead,there's a poignant passage from a young man by the name of Jared who transitioned when he was thirty years old. (The conversations are between the author and seven loved ones on the other side.)
When asked, "Is there anything you miss?" Jared responds,"I don't miss anything. I'm content. Everything I could possibly want is available here and now. I would like my family and friends on the physical plane to acknowledge my presence, although not because I miss it; I'd like it more for them than for me. I know I'm very much alive, but they don't. Because people can't experience me with their five senses, they think I don't exist anymore . . . so they mistakenly assume they have no place to put their love for me. Loneliness is people falsely believing that no one is there to receive their love. It's our natural instinct to express love, and when we think we can't, it creates sadness."
While you may not be able to physically touch your loved one, I recommend staying in touch with and celebrating the love you shared. . . and continue to share . . . which is forever present and always and forever connects you. The way we get through grieving is to cry all of our tears. It is a cleansing and a healing process. However, if you have regrets or guilt about the relationship, work to clear these, as they cause unnecessary suffering.
Our children want one and only one thing for us: they want us to live joyously, which is our true essence.
I hope this is helpful.
Irene -
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Permalink Reply by amaryllis on
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Hi, Sonia Morgan, reading your comment and relating so much with your words - how can we go on with our life after the loss of a child, a part of us.
Yes, the pain in itself is forever - we must go on, we have to cope with this though.
Please, read the reply by Irene Kendig - it will bring light on this painful subject. She is special as she knows what to say to a mother who is going through the pain of grief.
Wish you well and I send to you my prayer thoughts.
xxxxxx amaryllis -
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Hi, Kathy, the same happens to me - these glitches, these disconnections from the internet! From the other side they communicate with us. We miss them so badly, isn't right? We must keep going and always talking to them our loved ones who went back to the other side. They get our messages.
xxxx amaryllis
Kathy Marie Luersen said:Yes to the girl with the story about crying. When I am too long on the computer, he would say get off the computer! Come visit me! now that he is not physically here, the computer gets so glitchy1 or gets disconnected from the internet! -
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Hi, Irene Kendig, you are a blessing, thank you for your words. People like you are Angels sent by God to help those who are grieving and you know how to say the write words for us.
You have a Divine mission as I always say. God bless you. Much love, amaryllis
Irene Kendig said:In the national award-winning book, Conversations with Jerry and Other People I Thought Were Dead,there's a poignant passage from a young man by the name of Jared who transitioned when he was thirty years old. (The conversations are between the author and seven loved ones on the other side.)
When asked, "Is there anything you miss?" Jared responds,"I don't miss anything. I'm content. Everything I could possibly want is available here and now. I would like my family and friends on the physical plane to acknowledge my presence, although not because I miss it; I'd like it more for them than for me. I know I'm very much alive, but they don't. Because people can't experience me with their five senses, they think I don't exist anymore . . . so they mistakenly assume they have no place to put their love for me. Loneliness is people falsely believing that no one is there to receive their love. It's our natural instinct to express love, and when we think we can't, it creates sadness."
While you may not be able to physically touch your loved one, I recommend staying in touch with and celebrating the love you shared. . . and continue to share . . . which is forever present and always and forever connects you. The way we get through grieving is to cry all of our tears. It is a cleansing and a healing process. However, if you have regrets or guilt about the relationship, work to clear these, as they cause unnecessary suffering.
Our children want one and only one thing for us: they want us to live joyously, which is our true essence.
I hope this is helpful.
Irene -
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My Dearest Amaryllis,
You are so very kind.
Blessings for the highest good.
Irene -
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Permalink Reply by Sonya Morgan on
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I like the this just have to try to remember this and do it, its easier said then done but will try
Irene Kendig said:In the national award-winning book, Conversations with Jerry and Other People I Thought Were Dead,there's a poignant passage from a young man by the name of Jared who transitioned when he was thirty years old. (The conversations are between the author and seven loved ones on the other side.)
When asked, "Is there anything you miss?" Jared responds,"I don't miss anything. I'm content. Everything I could possibly want is available here and now. I would like my family and friends on the physical plane to acknowledge my presence, although not because I miss it; I'd like it more for them than for me. I know I'm very much alive, but they don't. Because people can't experience me with their five senses, they think I don't exist anymore . . . so they mistakenly assume they have no place to put their love for me. Loneliness is people falsely believing that no one is there to receive their love. It's our natural instinct to express love, and when we think we can't, it creates sadness."
While you may not be able to physically touch your loved one, I recommend staying in touch with and celebrating the love you shared. . . and continue to share . . . which is forever present and always and forever connects you. The way we get through grieving is to cry all of our tears. It is a cleansing and a healing process. However, if you have regrets or guilt about the relationship, work to clear these, as they cause unnecessary suffering.
Our children want one and only one thing for us: they want us to live joyously, which is our true essence.
I hope this is helpful.
Irene -
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< Dear Sonya, I would like so much to get a sign from my son as you got from yours. We know the soul is eternal, the universe is eternal, we know we have to wait for our moment to go too however in this meantime it is hard to bear the pain of the absence. Just the parents who lost a child are able to know about this kind of pain. The books I have read, all them from this site, were of a a great help for me immediately after his death at the moment i was about to loose my mind and as you say without knowing the best thing to do. For a while it seemed to me I had to go, too. Then I came to my senses and realized it would be of a greater help to stand up, to take the road again, to keep going through my own journey. I am very thankful for all the help I got and for the orientation I am following up to this day in order to cope with the hard reality. Alone, totally alone I don't know how such a thing is possible. The internet is such a source of information! My prayers thoughts go to you. xxxxx, amaryllis
Sonya Morgan said:I just don't know how to go on.
The pain is so bad, and everybody I speak to who has lost a child even if it was 20 yrs ago they say the same thing the pain never goes away.
So how do you learn to go on?
How do you go on living?
JoAnn Brozowski said:Hi Sonya - I have almost exactly the same story. My son Tyler was 24 when I found him this past January. I found him in work unresponsive. His birthday was Sept 19th. The pain is unbearable. One of the only things that help is knowing people like yourself are going through the same thing. -
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Sonya Morgan****Who is the Author of that book "Conversation with Jerry and Other People" so I can get a copy of it? And, why doesn't anyone reply to me when I ask a question?
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To know who is the arthor of the book - just ask to Irene Kendig as she was the one to talk about a passage about Jared on that book. Yes, Sonya Morgan, we sent replies, hope you got them by nowl
xxxxx amaryllis
Melinda Ellen Guinn said:Sonya Morgan****Who is the Author of that book "Conversation with Jerry and Other People" so I can get a copy of it? And, why doesn't anyone reply to me when I ask a question? -
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Hey, Sonya, did you already receive the replies we from this site have sent to you?!
Hope you did.
xxxx
Melinda Ellen Guinn said:Sonya Morgan****Who is the Author of that book "Conversation with Jerry and Other People" so I can get a copy of it? And, why doesn't anyone reply to me when I ask a question? -
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