Messages from the other side

Do you believe in the supernatural? Do you think that anyone has ever tried to contact you or send you signs from the other side?

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Permalink Reply by Janet - Todd's Mom on May 13, 2011 at 2:51pm

Sonya Morgan said:

Sorry I haven't responding lately my email has been messed up and seems I haven't been getting notice when somebody replies.

How is everyone holding up?

Permalink Reply by Janet - Todd's Mom on May 13, 2011 at 2:54pm

Hi Sonya,

I've missed talking with you and just now saw the post about your email being messed up and not getting notices when people reply. Hopefully it's been fixed? Wishing you a peaceful day, at least as much as possible. I've been missing my son so much lately I don't know how long I can go on this way. He was my favorite person in the world and the joy of my life. He and I thought so much alike, it was uncanny. Hope you are feeling better than me.

Hugs,

Janet

Permalink Reply by Susan - Donny's Mom on May 14, 2011 at 11:24am

To Shiela,

One great book selection is, "I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye" by Brook Noel / Pamela Blair

I read you lost a husband, most of us here have lost children but the book is about "sudden death" which for sure you have suffered. It really helped me when I lost my son, he had sudden unexpected death in 2009. So try that one....hope it gives you some comfort in your loss.

Susan Donny's Mom Forever

Permalink Reply by Sherilyn on May 17, 2011 at 6:02pm

@ Beverly.....could you give the name and number of how to contact her?

Permalink Reply by Sheila Horvath on May 23, 2011 at 8:20am

To....Susan Donny's Mom Forever:

Thank you for the advice on the book. I haven't been on here...trying to deal with things. I have not been doing to good with it. I miss him more every single day and I feel so lost and numb now. I know I need to learn to handle this, but i'm just not there right now...Thank you again! Im sorry for your loss.

Permalink Reply by Janet - Todd's Mom on May 29, 2011 at 10:07am

To Sheila,

What you are going through now is the very thing that I feared most since I fell in love with my husband (then boyfriend) so many years ago. I knew he was my soul mate...he makes me laugh, or tries to now, but it's so difficult. You see, we had a son, born in 1971, who became a wonderful kind, intelligent, funny, gentle young man, who treated all living things with love and respect. If he heard us having a "difference of opinion" he would say something that would make us both laugh and everything seemed better. On May 29th, 2009 he had a very bad cough & cold and sought the help of his doctor at 8am, before work, so he wouldn't miss a day. She told him he wasn't that sick & didn't have the flu or pneumonia and to come back on Monday if he wasn't feeling better. She dismissed him rudely (as he told us after work), only prescribing cough medicine and an inhaler, although he didn't have asthma. He returned early Monday AM, saw another doctor in the same practice, who diagnosed him with pneumonia. Tuesday AM June 2nd, he was rushed to the hospital with Acute Respiratory Distress Syndrome. His organs began to fail and he developed sepsis. He passed away on June 8, 2009. We were and are in shock. He was so healthy before this. The pain is overwhelming.

The reason I'm writing is to say that, as he grew up, he became my soul mate and best friend. Even my husband says so, and he loved Todd as much as I did. It was just something you couldn't help but notice...we were always "on the same page", laughed at the same things, loved new ideas, and were very spontaneous people. He always kept us up-to-date with the newest things coming out. We miss him so much and how I've survived, I don't really know. He was young for his age and a complete joy to us, excelling in his chosen field of computer technology. After a childhood filled with many kids who did not quite understand him, because he was very slightly autistic (not being diagnosed till he was 28), he made many close friends in college and later, all of whom were at the hospital with him and us day and night.

I don't have any "words of wisdom", but I'm sending hugs to you today..

Sadly,

Janet

Sheila Horvath said:

I lost my fiance last week. We were so close. He was 44 and had a massive heart attack. He was doing good then he got the septic infection and passed away. Everyone tells me he is with me in spirit. I dont even know what that means. I dont feel him...I want to so bad. Every day I cry. I have never hurt so much. Him and I were soul mates. We were the fairy tale that everyone wishes they had. I just want to lay in my bed all day long and just cry. I dont know what to do with myself or how to deal with this. Do their souls leave and you never get any kind of a sign? Or do they look out for you? I dont understand any of this. All I know is now Im alone and I have never felt so numb or empty. Someone please help me? Thank you in advance

Permalink Reply by Joanne Bonnette on May 29, 2011 at 11:45am

My brother just passed away a week ago and I am waiting for some kind of a sign, i actually did a meditation a while back and visioned him sitting in a chair

Permalink Reply by Melinda Ellen Guinn on May 29, 2011 at 8:36pm

That must've been your sign!

Permalink Reply by Barbara Rieger on May 30, 2011 at 9:30pm

Melinda Ellen Guinn said:

That must've been your sign!

I agree.

Permalink Reply by Barbara Rieger on May 30, 2011 at 10:28pm

Janet - Todd's Mom said:

To Sheila,

What you are going through now is the very thing that I feared most since I fell in love with my husband (then boyfriend) so many years ago. I knew he was my soul mate...he makes me laugh, or tries to now, but it's so difficult. You see, we had a son, born in 1971, who became a wonderful kind, intelligent, funny, gentle young man, who treated all living things with love and respect. If he heard us having a "difference of opinion" he would say something that would make us both laugh and everything seemed better. On May 29th, 2009 he had a very bad cough & cold and sought the help of his doctor at 8am, before work, so he wouldn't miss a day. She told him he wasn't that sick & didn't have the flu or pneumonia and to come back on Monday if he wasn't feeling better. She dismissed him rudely (as he told us after work), only prescribing cough medicine and an inhaler, although he didn't have asthma. He returned early Monday AM, saw another doctor in the same practice, who diagnosed him with pneumonia. Tuesday AM June 2nd, he was rushed to the hospital with Acute Respiratory Distress Syndrome. His organs began to fail and he developed sepsis. He passed away on June 8, 2009. We were and are in shock. He was so healthy before this. The pain is overwhelming.

The reason I'm writing is to say that, as he grew up, he became my soul mate and best friend. Even my husband says so, and he loved Todd as much as I did. It was just something you couldn't help but notice...we were always "on the same page", laughed at the same things, loved new ideas, and were very spontaneous people. He always kept us up-to-date with the newest things coming out. We miss him so much and how I've survived, I don't really know. He was young for his age and a complete joy to us, excelling in his chosen field of computer technology. After a childhood filled with many kids who did not quite understand him, because he was very slightly autistic (not being diagnosed till he was 28), he made many close friends in college and later, all of whom were at the hospital with him and us day and night.

I don't have any "words of wisdom", but I'm sending hugs to you today..

Sadly,

Janet

Sheila Horvath said:

I lost my fiance last week. We were so close. He was 44 and had a massive heart attack. He was doing good then he got the septic infection and passed away. Everyone tells me he is with me in spirit. I dont even know what that means. I dont feel him...I want to so bad. Every day I cry. I have never hurt so much. Him and I were soul mates. We were the fairy tale that everyone wishes they had. I just want to lay in my bed all day long and just cry. I dont know what to do with myself or how to deal with this. Do their souls leave and you never get any kind of a sign? Or do they look out for you? I dont understand any of this. All I know is now Im alone and I have never felt so numb or empty. Someone please help me? Thank you in advance

Sheila,

My name is Barbara and I was reading the message about your fiance' who was 44 years old that just touched my heart. My son Joe was born in Aug. 1967 and this year will mark 44 years ago that the world began to know this wonderful human being. I say this because one of his college room-mates sent me an e-mail and thanked me for bringing such a wonderful human being into the world. I'm certain that your finance was a wonderful human being because he had accomplished one of the greatest things in life. It was something I heard in the movie Moulin Rouge. "The greatest thing is life is to love and be loved." He loves you and you love him. No one can ever take away the love whether it be time or anything else. The one thing that your fiance and my son took with them when they left this planet is the LOVE!!!

It's very normal for you to cry everyday and feel as you do. It's healthy but there are other things that can contribute to being healthy. Live each day and continue to do what you were doing before your fiance' left this planet.

It's difficult to comprehend even a year later that my son will never again ride into our drive-way on his motorcycle. A drunk driver took him away from many people

after he left our home last Easter and he left us after midnight. On Joe's facebook wall he wrote as one of his favortie quotes: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Christ and then he said, this holds true 2,000 years later.

I had gone to my garden club 3 days after family and friends bid farewell. It wasn't easy but I went in spite of how I felt. It just so happen that I had placed his photo in the newspaper with his "Victory Garden" that was the focus of the newspaper article I placed as publicist for my garden club.

It's over a year and I was on facebook reading about his friends meeting in June at a favorite hangout that he would have been a part of. I started to cry thinking that he would have had such a good time going to meet up with his HS friends. Then I went to spam as I was looking for a confirmation from a site and came upon this grief support that I somehow disposed of.

Your fiance' is in your heart, he's in your soul he is a part of your life. When I had been at a bereavement group and mentioned what was written on Joe's wall "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." The grief counselor said my son was still teaching me. I had said that I would have wanted him to continue living his life if I were the one to have left the planet. After reading the quote I realized it's okay for me to enjoy my life and be free of any guilt. When someone loves you they want the best for you.

There are signs from them but try to relax or you will miss that opportunity and not be a part of life as you are meant to be. One example is that this year I put it out there that I would be willing to be on the Senior Citizen Advisory Board. We were invited to have our meeting and lunch at an assisted living and incredible place. After being shown around I expressed an interest in being a volunteer with the toddlers who were there each day while their mom's worked. When the door was open a little boy came over to me and put his arm out toward me holding a purple block. That was my son Joe's favorite color when he was young.

Then one day while driving to my hometown to visit my 95 year old mother I spotted a vehicle up on top of a transporting truck. The license plate read "Moose." That was one of my son's nicknames when he played baseball as a kid and some of his friends lovingly refer to him on face-book with this name. I wrote a message to Joe on his wall and some of his friends that visited came over and liked it. The other day I went to get some beer at the liquor store. The young fella carried the case out for me and I thanked him and asked his name. It was Joe and it lifted me up because I felt it was a sign from my son. This young fella was so warm and nice I wished I had given him more than just a dollar when I shook his hand. Next time he'll get three dollars. I felt so good after and can't wait till my husband finishes the case of beer. I can hear my Joe laughing now. He had such a great laugh, he was so good just like your fiance'. They were taken too soon from not only us but so many other people who loved them.

I was told by D. in my garden club that it will take another year and I'd be over it. I told her I'd never get over it but I will get through it. I asked if she gave me her opinion based on her experience of losing her parents some years ago. She said yes.

No one can tell anyone how to handle their loss. Everyone is different and everyone handles things in a different way. But one thing that an uncle of mine who told my mother many years said was that "Life is for the living." This is important for you, me and everyone else who experiences the loss of a loved one. Joe was my only child and I think of the future as I depended on him for my future. I think of many things as does everyone that are unique to each person.

It's normal to cry and scream inside the walls of your own home, that's what I have done. I didn't cry in front of anyone and I astounded everyone. It's private and it made me feel that my son is proud of his mother to be this way. I didn't want any of the attention on me. My son was to be celebrated and still is as I am proud of him and speak about him. You too can be proud of your fiance' and speak of him proudly for the wonderful human being that he was.

One day you might dream about him. I had dreamed of Joe two times. And then one day I saw him standing at the foot of the two steps down in the foyer from the living room. It was either my vivid imagination and my eyes seeing him for a matter of seconds but long enought to see what he was wearing which was the last thing he had on at our house on Easter 2010. I believe that he was saying good-bye to me and found peace. It gives me some kind of serenity to feel this way. And I do hope that you get to dream of your loved one letting you know that he is okay and maybe one day you will be blessed to see him with your two eyes too!

A woman that I came to know told me to just say "I love you baby." And it helps to say that. She had lost her husband and 5 year old son to a drunk driver 35 years ago.

I realize I've written a long message and I'm grasping for the right thing to say to you. I hope that I may have been able to say at least something that can help you either today or tomorrow.

I just thought of something that I need to tell you that I do. I watching sitcoms on TV Land and other channels. I like Cheers, The Adventures of Old Christine, Seinfeld, Becker, Sanford and Son. These will make anyone laugh. It's the opposite of crying. Maybe as time goes by you will be ready to watch these shows. Just remember to eat good food and continue taking care of yourself as this is important.

God Bless You!

Warm Regards,

Barbara

Permalink Reply by Alicia Rodriguez on May 31, 2011 at 12:15am

Hello my name is Alicia im new to this website i lost my belved son jesse on 7/12/09 i miss him every day im sorry for your loss of your son joe i to have a son joe he is 20 .i was reading what you wrote about your sonhe was a good son and so was my jesse he helped anyone he could. My older son his older brother died before jesse was born in 6/27/1979 and i still have 4 boys n 2 girls but every one is deffernt i love them all.and i miss jesse everyday. Thank you for writin about your joe it hit my heart.but in a good way THANK YOUMY EMAIL IS aliciasuarez54@gmail.com would really love to hear from you again your in my Prayers.

Permalink Reply by Melinda Ellen Guinn on May 31, 2011 at 3:18am

Today, Memorial Day, is Candace and Mike's anniversary. They never got married. They have been together for 15 years. They have 3 daughters. Their oldest is 10 yrs old. I am beyond sad.