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Permalink Reply by Barbara Rieger on
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Michelle, it's so very recent that your husband left. Maybe when you relax you will get a sign from your husband that he is OK. Was he the quiet type? That may be one of the reasons it's taking so long for you to have a sign. Keep your eyes and ears open. You were both blessed to have been married to each other for 20 years. In that movie "Moulin Rouge" I will always remember something so beautiful that was said: "The greatest thing you'll ever learn is to love and be loved." I believe that when we die immediately our spiritual body goes into another dimension with God Our Higher Power. You can be certain that your husband is alright even that you didn't hear from him up to now. I give you credit for coming on this site within a short span of time. And I extend to you a cyber hug. "Blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted."
With Love,
Barbara
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Permalink Reply by Marsha H on
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Michelle ... I am so glad you came to this site as we each have our own stories. I am so sorry you had to go through such trauma along with your husband. My husband was ignored repeadedly in our British Columbia Health Care until I bullied them at ER. The head nurse there said it was a good thing I brought him in or he would not have survived the night. To make matters worse it was simply 'Celiac' that caused the horrific weight loss and once on a diet he gained weight very quickly. Then it seemed to be one nightmare after the other for the next 4 years with a non cancerous cyst under his tongue and on and on it went. To make a long story short he ended up in hospital for pancreatic cancer and 'whipple surgery' was to be done on him He passed away April 27, 2011. I now know from my own doctor that the pathology reports do not add up and I have written (with info in tact) to B.C. Physicians & Surgeons to form a complaint. I watched my husband fade before my eyes; turn yellow and by the time I got him to a hospice (his specialist had previously refused to send him there) it was too late and he died the next morning. I was upset I was not there when he passed away. Not one scientific study can prove whether we can see our loved ones in spirit form. I too have many strange dreams or even nightmares and my husband is always cheating on me (which he never did in the 38 years we were married) and sometimes I fear going to sleep. I stopped looking for signs from him, but did have one on my 70th b/d. I was out with friends and I came home and heard a noise in the den where my husband spent many of his evenings watching sports. Just before he went into hospital he used the new TV set I got him once and it had never been on after he had used it and it is at the far side of the den and the TV control is sitting on the stand and it was on and I live alone! It was as if he was letting me know he was there although I couldn't see him and I felt a sense of peace come over me. It was the best gift I could have ever asked for on my special birthday. For those professionals who study the spirit it is said that the spirit needs to build up energy in order to let a loved one know they are there so be patient and it may happen to you. Some people never see anything while others do. I agree with Barbara that your husband is in another dimension right now and with God. Our loved ones that we have lost are not in pain and are at peace. It is all of us that remain behind that have to have faith and strength to move forward in life. Take little baby steps and surround yourself with those that love you and, in time the hole in your heart will heal, but you will never forget your husband.
A big hug and God Bless
Marcy
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Permalink Reply by judy mcadams on
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I feel your pain my son was killed july 4th 2009 in a car accident he was the passenger in the car, his friend was taking him to the fire work stand to get fire works for his son (my grandson) and a car driving about 60 miles an hour on a side street near a school ran the stop sign and killed my son instantly the driver was hurt, of the car my son was riding in had only minor injuries. The car that ran the stop sign fled the scene cause he was illegal and his passenger also they took off to mexico and have not heard or seen them since. That was one day that will never be the same again every july 4th is one I wish never happened, I am thankful for one thing is that my grandson didn't go with his dad cause he would not be here today. Fourth of July to my son and grandson was like Christmas to them. I miss him so much he was my only son and I just cant stop thinking of him and hoping and still praying that he didnt suffer I have pics of him everywhere cause it is so hard to let go of him and not being able to say goodbye. And me his Mom had to go and identify his body and that I cant get out of my mind And it will be 3yrs this july that he has been gone, he was only 29yrs old when he was taken from us. I keeping hoping and praying that he will send me something to let me know he is around me. Love You so much My Son (MIKEY) Mommy
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It is so nice to know that I am not alone in this process. My friends and family do not understand what I am going through. I was fired from my job this week, they could not fire me for calling out because I had FML so they said I was not doing my job, when I asked what did not get done (as I had been doing work from the hospital without pay) they said they were not required to tell me. I cannot believe they are so heartless to fire someone who is grieving and trying to now be a single mom. Oh well, at least I had life insurance so I do not have to stress right now. I am told everything happens for a reason even if it does not feel like it now. I know everything always works out, it just hurts so much. My prayers are with all of you
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judy mcadams said:I feel your pain my son was killed july 4th 2009 in a car accident he was the passenger in the car, his friend was taking him to the fire work stand to get fire works for his son (my grandson) and a car driving about 60 miles an hour on a side street near a school ran the stop sign and killed my son instantly the driver was hurt, of the car my son was riding in had only minor injuries. The car that ran the stop sign fled the scene cause he was illegal and his passenger also they took off to mexico and have not heard or seen them since. That was one day that will never be the same again every july 4th is one I wish never happened, I am thankful for one thing is that my grandson didn't go with his dad cause he would not be here today. Fourth of July to my son and grandson was like Christmas to them. I miss him so much he was my only son and I just cant stop thinking of him and hoping and still praying that he didnt suffer I have pics of him everywhere cause it is so hard to let go of him and not being able to say goodbye. And me his Mom had to go and identify his body and that I cant get out of my mind And it will be 3yrs this july that he has been gone, he was only 29yrs old when he was taken from us. I keeping hoping and praying that he will send me something to let me know he is around me. Love You so much My Son (MIKEY) Mommy
I am so very sorry you lost your son and even though losing a spouse is such a trauma (I do not have children) that losing a child is far worse. One of my favorite movies that keeps sticking in my mind is 'Steel Magnolia' where Shelby (played by Julia Roberts) passes away from diabetes and, at the gravesite her mother (Sally Fields) screams out that she was suppose to go first ... she didn't understand why God took her daughter. All of us ask that same question 'why?' Most of us try to keep our faith in God, but it's OK to be angry at Him because our loved one is gone. One day you will receive a sign from your son when you least expect it. He is there even though you can't see him. He may come to you in a dream or in other ways. We need to go on in their memory no matter how long we were blessed to have them. At times I still get angry at God and ask 'why?' Quips such as 'there is a reason God took our loved one' is not enough at times. It is time though that heals the heart.
Bless you and your Mikey.
Marcy
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Michelle Hess said:It is so nice to know that I am not alone in this process. My friends and family do not understand what I am going through. I was fired from my job this week, they could not fire me for calling out because I had FML so they said I was not doing my job, when I asked what did not get done (as I had been doing work from the hospital without pay) they said they were not required to tell me. I cannot believe they are so heartless to fire someone who is grieving and trying to now be a single mom. Oh well, at least I had life insurance so I do not have to stress right now. I am told everything happens for a reason even if it does not feel like it now. I know everything always works out, it just hurts so much. My prayers are with all of you
Michelle ... You can report your boss for firing you with what they have done to you, yet, there is a reason why this has happened at this time ... time for grieving and once you have gotten to a point in your life where you are not grieving so much there will be a better job for you. When a cold hearted boss fires someone from a job because they are grieving over either their spouse or losing a child they are heartless and once your mind is clear you will realize you do not want to work for someone such as this. I know things feel piled upon you; you feel over-whelmed and out of sorts. It has been 9 months since my husband passed away and I can still feel slightly over-whelmed, but now know their are good neighbors; family and friends that I can ask for help so I feel a little more secure. Things will get better for you.
Hang on dear ... we're here for you and you'll make it.
God Bless
Marcy
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Judy,
When I saw the photo of your son and grandson it just got to me. My only child Joe was taken due to a drunk driver. He had no children but many friends. I know it's up to me to make myself feel better and I continue doing what I was doing before Joe left. Oh how I wish I would have been telephoned when he was brought to the hospital so he could have known I was there for him. But I know he will always know he has always been my heart. I feel your pain and wish I had a magic wand to bring both our boys back to us.
With Love,
Barbara
judy mcadams said:I feel your pain my son was killed july 4th 2009 in a car accident he was the passenger in the car, his friend was taking him to the fire work stand to get fire works for his son (my grandson) and a car driving about 60 miles an hour on a side street near a school ran the stop sign and killed my son instantly the driver was hurt, of the car my son was riding in had only minor injuries. The car that ran the stop sign fled the scene cause he was illegal and his passenger also they took off to mexico and have not heard or seen them since. That was one day that will never be the same again every july 4th is one I wish never happened, I am thankful for one thing is that my grandson didn't go with his dad cause he would not be here today. Fourth of July to my son and grandson was like Christmas to them. I miss him so much he was my only son and I just cant stop thinking of him and hoping and still praying that he didnt suffer I have pics of him everywhere cause it is so hard to let go of him and not being able to say goodbye. And me his Mom had to go and identify his body and that I cant get out of my mind And it will be 3yrs this july that he has been gone, he was only 29yrs old when he was taken from us. I keeping hoping and praying that he will send me something to let me know he is around me. Love You so much My Son (MIKEY) Mommy
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Hi Melvin, Yes I accept what you are saying as truth. It is in the bible and the bible is written to make us feel better.
I so hate when someone makes reference to someone has passed saying, "Oh I can't do this because what will he think of me etc. etc. " Or "He rolling in his grave." I feel that both things that people say are just terrible. The reason the words "Rest in Peace" are important is because they are resting until the day of the resurrection as promised all of us who die written in the bible.
However, I have a couple dreams of my son Joe but they were from my thoughts in my mind. It was a comfort. And then one day I saw him with my eyes. Joe was standing at the bottom of the two steps that go up into the living room. He was wearing the last thing when he came home for dinner on Easter Sunday 2010. Joe had on a black jersey tee shirt with the New York Yankees initials. Also wore a denim jacket. I saw him with my eyes for a matter of seconds. I don't know how many seconds but it was ever so quick. I realize it wasn't from the supernatural. It's most likely that it was from my memory and my good imagination to see what I wanted to be able to feel that he came to say good-bye to his mother. It gave me a feeling of peace and satisfaction.
Barbara
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I don't know if this is something from the other side, but if it's not, it's an amazing bloody coincidence.
A month ago, the woman I loved "from afar" (through my own stupid choices) died. I didn't even find out she was dead until two weeks later, when I stumbled across her obituary. I started asking for a sign, anything, to tell me she was on the other side.
That night, I ran across an article which talked about how Salvador Dali used to walk his pet lobster. A random piece of information, sure.
The next morning, I ran across another article, which talked about how Jean-Paul Sartre believed in later years that he was being stalked by a lobster. An interesting coincidence with the above, right?
That very same day, I found a pewter lobster pin lying on the ground by my work. That's one hell of a three-peat, in my books.
Here's the clincher, at least to me: her pet name for me was "Love Bug". The first three letters of Lobster are the first two letters of "Love" and the first letter of "bug". If all of this is a coincidence, it's pretty darn massive! I try to keep this in mind, when I'm missing her (which is often).
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Permalink Reply by jennifer sutton on
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Hi George! My name is Jennifer! I believe, and it is whether or not, and or what one chooses to accept when loved one's family member or significant other passes!..... They say that when we are open,and accepting, that departed loved one's do send messages from the other side! I don't think it is coincidence at all!...... Your Lady friend, of whom you shared feelings for, wanted you to know, that it is indeed her, and sent this lobster pin with letters in a form of recognition, that only you would know!
George Bragg said:I don't know if this is something from the other side, but if it's not, it's an amazing bloody icoincidence.
A month ago, the woman I loved "from afar" (through my own stupid choices) died. I didn't even find out she was dead until two weeks later, when I stumbled across her obituary. I started asking for a sign, anything, to tell me she was on the other side.
That night, I ran across an article which talked about how Salvador Dali used to walk his pet lobster. A random piece of information, sure.
The next morning, I ran across another article, which talked about how Jean-Paul Sartre believed in later years that he was being stalked by a lobster. An interesting coincidence with the above, right?
That very same day, I found a pewter lobster pin lying on the ground by my work. That's one hell of a three-peat, in my books.
Here's the clincher, at least to me: her pet name for me was "Love Bug". The first three letters of Lobster are the first two letters of "Love" and the first letter of "bug". If all of this is a coincidence, it's pretty darn massive! I try to keep this in mind, when I'm missing her (which is often).
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Permalink Reply by Jane Linda Roberts-Feeney on
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Hi George,
I also have been in a position like yourself, there are no such things as coincidence, people or things are placed in your path at certain times for you to acknowledge or dismiss, as you choose. The Spirit world have an amazing intelligence and work to help you through difficult times and times of great loss, your loved ones do not enjoy seeing your pain or feeling your despair so they try to attract your attention, to give you subtle signs. This of course if you are open to believing that the Spirit continues to live in another dimension, a beautiful and loving place, the place you were before being 'born' into a human body. So many people feel as though they are 'drowning' in their grief, this causes the aura to become thick and foggy blocking feelings and your Spirit - the real you - becomes dulled by the grief. It takes time for this to adjust again and as time goes on the pain does become easier to live with and the Spirit does shine again, and the fog clears from the aura - it is then that your loved one see the opportunity to try and impress upon you a sense or feeling or even knowing that they are around, never doubt that they are, love never dies, it is eternal. I can say this with confidence and knowledge as I am a Spiritual Medium and work with many people bring them evidence of their loved ones survival in the Spirit world, bringing them undeniable proof that their loved ones and friends survive the death of the physical body. That on passing to the Spirit world, they take with them all the memories and experiences they had in this life - back to the world from where they chose to begin their journey into the physical.
jennifer sutton said:Hi George! My name is Jennifer! I believe, and it is whether or not, and or what one chooses to accept when loved one's family member or significant other passes!..... They say that when we are open,and accepting, that departed loved one's do send messages from the other side! I don't think it is coincidence at all!...... Your Lady friend, of whom you shared feelings for, wanted you to know, that it is indeed her, and sent this lobster pin with letters in a form of recognition, that only you would know!
George Bragg said:I don't know if this is something from the other side, but if it's not, it's an amazing bloody icoincidence.
A month ago, the woman I loved "from afar" (through my own stupid choices) died. I didn't even find out she was dead until two weeks later, when I stumbled across her obituary. I started asking for a sign, anything, to tell me she was on the other side.
That night, I ran across an article which talked about how Salvador Dali used to walk his pet lobster. A random piece of information, sure.
The next morning, I ran across another article, which talked about how Jean-Paul Sartre believed in later years that he was being stalked by a lobster. An interesting coincidence with the above, right?
That very same day, I found a pewter lobster pin lying on the ground by my work. That's one hell of a three-peat, in my books.
Here's the clincher, at least to me: her pet name for me was "Love Bug". The first three letters of Lobster are the first two letters of "Love" and the first letter of "bug". If all of this is a coincidence, it's pretty darn massive! I try to keep this in mind, when I'm missing her (which is often).
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Hi jane, I wish that I could understand life and death as you do. My youngest daughter when she was five got cancer, didnt know kids got cancer that young they had to remove her left kidney and half her pancreas. we fought that battle for 6yrs. she survived. Now here is my problem my son, their brother was killed july 4th 2009, it is still so hard to relive that day one that I will never forget, the worst night mare of my life!!!! My grandson was going to go with his dad and friend but they told him to wait and they would be right back well he never did come back he was killed by a illegal alien running a stop sign.. Who ran from the scene instead of helping them, my son died instantly. grandson is waiting for his dad to return and keeps calling him no answer so I took him to a couple of firework stands looking for him, as I was driving I seen the accident and knew deep in my heart it was my only SON!!! never told the grandson what I felt so we look and did not find him, we returned back to my house and shortly I got a phone call my his dad and my husband that he was killed!!!! My husband and his Dad was in south dakota doing a firework show ( That was my son and grandson favorite holiday) My nightmare just begun... His dad was 6 hrs away and I had to go and identify his body by myself to this day I am still in a black out from that day, the driver of the car that hit and killed my son fled to mexico no justice there, have not seen my grandson since his dad died. This all so wrong, my husband his dad is dying of heart diease, his sister who had cancer has now relapsed, and his other sister with two kids our grandkids now live with us she is sick and has no insurance I am at my witts end please if possible can you tell me that he is ok??? I miss him so much words can't say.. Thank you for letting me vent.. Judy
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