I lost my dear Mom on May 2, 2010 and am really having an extremely difficult time coping! I can't help falling apart each day and my job is suffering for it, but I don't know how to handle the pain. Myself and 6 other siblings are all going through the same thing. My Mom was an extraordinary lady, well liked in our community, and was truly loved by all! She held the family together after my father passed away in 2000. The holidays were always so special to her and Christmas Eve was a time for all her grandchildren to gather around the Christmas tree as she watched those little faces light up when they opened their gifts from her! In her eyes, Christmas was for the children as we all agreed and that is what made it so special. This year will be very difficult without her and no one has yet to discuss any plans for Christmas Eve. I am sure they all feel as I do; who can find the strength to celebrate without her??!! I am slowly losing my way to hang on and can't seem to function without her!! I need help..please!!
Dear Elisa, I just read what you shared and my heart goes out to you . I know what Sisters mean to ones life for my Sister who was also my best friend just passed away . It is not easy not matter how much time passes as may want to tell you especially when it comes to such a special time when you would love for her to be right by your side as your wedding . I thinking if maybe you lit a candle and had in there with you in the church or where ever you will have your wedding . Not that this will stop you from feeling and thinking about her just bring extra Kleenex . After maybe all could then lite a taper candle as a symbol of caring on her light and spirit in this life time . We did this for our Father when he passed just recently and all that attended could lite a candle from his so to carry on his light . Or even a mention of her name that day is itself . I only can imagine that all that come to your wedding to share that day with you had the same love you have for her so they all are crying with you then maybe all you may need is Kleenex for everyone . Her love and her light is already caring on just in you words that you have shared . I sure what ever you do she will be right there beside you especially in your heart . Out all this pain and sadness I have found that the only one thing that I know is that my Sister will forever and always stay in my heart no matter where I am , or where I go . Wishing you all the best and may comfort come to you.
Elisa M. said:
I lost my sister almost years ago...I am getting married in about a year and a half...Im not sure how I am going to handle that day..I know its okay to cry and be upset...but I want to remember her on my wedding day and celebrate with her in spirt..but Im not sure how to do that without getting upset and then inturn upsetting everyone else...any suggestions?