Reminders of our loved ones can be everywhere - in a song on the radio, a familiar scent, a special spot or a favorite food. What are the things that remind you of your loved one? Do you avoid them or seek them out?
My friend Ben died four months ago. And my good friend Everett died a month ago. I think about them every day. Not a day passes by that they don't cross my mind, or that I don't think of the words at John 5: 28,29 which says: "“28 Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice 29 and come out, those who did good things to a resurrection of life, those who practiced vile things to a resurrection of judgment." (NWT) I miss Ben's smile, and the way he threw his head back when he laughed. I miss Everett's loud, booming voice and the way he lit up a room when he walked in. There will be only be memories from this point out. But with those memories, as well as drawing closer to Jehovah is what I know will get me through every day until I see them again.
The will to live and never die is ingrained on us all, that is why when someone we love dies or if we are confronted or facing death it is very difficult or hard to accept. Living to "time indefinite" has been put into the hearts of mankind by their Creator, Jehovah God (Ecclesiastes 3:11). Also, we were created not to die, but to live on endlessly with pristine, glowing mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health under peaceful, secure, and paradisaic conditions. Unfortunately, because of sin caused by Adam and Eve we suffer illness and sicknesses of all sorts, we suffer the afflictions of old age and eventually we die of natural or unnatural causes and return back to the elements of the earth, we return to the dust from which we were created or taken from. Thankfully, God has made it possible for the many that have fallen asleep in death to live again. These scriptural truths have carried me through those dark hours and days. Jehovah has given me and many others a peace and calmness of mind and heart to wait on that beautiful day when we will see and hold our loved ones who have died once again (John 11:1-44)
I lost both my brother and uncle within 3 months of each other, my brother in September and my uncle last month. It helps to think of the good memories of them so I can smile or laugh when their names are mentioned. There are times I would see someone in the street that looks like my brother and I start tearing up, because I would get reminded of him. But it helps to always think about his smile and his laugh, so that I can smile and laugh. John 5:28,29 says "Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out." This promise keeps me moving day by day. I have no choice but to take it a day at a time.