How to make it through the night

Grief support: When you're grieving, sleeping can be difficult. What do you do to make the nights easier?

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Permalink Reply by Georgia Fuentes on June 25, 2011 at 2:00pm

I have about 9 pillows that I put around me. It's like I'm immerged in pillows. But, I also take Baclofen 10 MG it helps me relax and Lorazepam 0.5 MG, I only take them at night at bed time. It's been 4 yrs and 19 days for my husband and 3 yrs and 3 Mo's and 3 Days for my daughter who was murdered. I guess it just becomes a way of life and there is nothing else but to deal with it.

Permalink Reply by Katherine on January 21, 2013 at 8:22am

My brother just recently died from a car accident in September and its still hard for me to sleep. It's gotten so much easier but I still do have problems sleeping at times. What helps me is to think about the happy memories and good times I've had with him. And that puts me to sleep. Sometimes I cry myself to sleep but its. Kemal to cry when you're grieving, and if that's the way I have to handle it then that's my way. Everyone has their own way. Another way I'm able to sleep is by reflecting on the beautiful promise that our loving Creator, Jehovah God, has made for us. Revelation 21:4 says "and he will wipe out every tear from our eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away." Knowing that I will see my brother again gives me hope for the future and allows me to sleep.

Permalink Reply by Bera on March 8, 2013 at 6:22pm

Georgia Fuentes said:

I have about 9 pillows that I put around me. It's like I'm immerged in pillows. But, I also take Baclofen 10 MG it helps me relax and Lorazepam 0.5 MG, I only take them at night at bed time. It's been 4 yrs and 19 days for my husband and 3 yrs and 3 Mo's and 3 Days for my daughter who was murdered. I guess it just becomes a way of life and there is nothing else but to deal with it.

Permalink Reply by Bera on March 8, 2013 at 6:23pm

Berna said: My son was shot..we don't know who..we know he would not take his beautiful life.

Georgia Fuentes said:

I have about 9 pillows that I put around me. It's like I'm immerged in pillows. But, I also take Baclofen 10 MG it helps me relax and Lorazepam 0.5 MG, I only take them at night at bed time. It's been 4 yrs and 19 days for my husband and 3 yrs and 3 Mo's and 3 Days for my daughter who was murdered. I guess it just becomes a way of life and there is nothing else but to deal with it.

Permalink Reply by Staci Smith on April 5, 2013 at 2:12pm

its been 6 months yesterday that my husband died and i still cant sleep at night if a get a second of sleep it on for an hr or 2

Permalink Reply by David, BERNIE's dad on April 5, 2013 at 3:27pm

I lost my live-in son nineteen months ago, and he was my only family for 3,500 miles. I miss him.

May these words give strength to someone (if you click on the pic you should be able to read them):

Permalink Reply by Jennifer Wilkins on November 15, 2013 at 12:18pm

Georgia, I am so sorry to hear about your tragic loss. Death is an enemy to us all.
I learned about a promise in the Bible in which death will be no more. Jehovah God promises that our loved one will live again and we have the prospect to see them again. Not in this world which is full of suffering, in which something tragic can happen again, but on a paradise earth. Please look at the link below for more information.

http://www.jw.org/en/publications/books/dead-live-again-tract/dead-...

My deepest sympathies, and I hope this provides you with some comfort,
Jennifer

Permalink Reply by Cynthia Murphy on January 5, 2014 at 1:13am

I dread going to sleep since my husband died on thanksgiving morning. When I do lay down, I pray for strength to get through the night and next day. I talk to David and cry until I feel a wave of calmness come over me. I am still waking up almost every hour and exhausted when I get up. Trying to do things to tire me out.

Permalink Reply by T.C. Goodwin on January 25, 2014 at 7:40am

At times, I would experience "sleepless nights." I knew this was related to stress. So, I knew I needed to be in a peaceful mood to go to sleep. Reading God's word about future promises helps. I try not to get addicted to insomnia medication and try to avoid caffeine/stimulants prior to bedtime.

Permalink Reply by Janelle on January 30, 2014 at 9:26pm

It's at night when I miss her most, mom and I were so very close. Now it seems my only friend,is that sleeping pill called Ambien. Hopefully in just a few weeks, I'll fall asleep just counting sheep.

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Permalink Reply by Jason R on April 30, 2014 at 2:49pm

(Psalm 119:28) "I have been sleepless from grief..."

The individual who wrote these words understood very well what it's like to lose sleep because of grief. Losing a loved one is so unnatural that it interrupts normal human systems that allow us to function and thrive. However, the writer of the above, goes on to says this: "Strengthen me according to your word." He made this request of God because he understood that God's word, unlike anything else, has strength or power; Power that can help us in times of distress and grief.

Here is an example of this:

It is said that what a person does not have the power to change, he must endure. The Bible links endurance with hope. (1 Thessalonians 1:3) That is to say that one can endure something because of having a firm hope that the situation will improve or that there will be complete relief from the cause of the distress. That's powerful because the bible offers such hope regarding death.

Consider the following verses.

(1 Corinthians 15:26) . . .. And the last enemy, death, is to be brought to nothing.

(Revelation 21:4) . . .And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.”

(Isaiah 25:8) He will swallow up death forever, And the Sovereign Lord Jehovah will wipe away the tears from all faces.. . .

(John 5:28, 29) . . .Do not be amazed at this, for the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice ²⁹ and come out. . .

(John 11:43, 44) When he had said these things, he cried out with a loud voice: “Laz′a·rus, come out!” 44 The man who had been dead came out with his feet and hands bound with wrappings, and his face was wrapped with a cloth. Jesus said to them: “Free him and let him go.”

This hope has sustained many who have lost loved ones and are currently battling grief.

To learn more about this hope visit JW.ORG. Also, If you would like someone to come and visit your home and personally share the bible's hope with you, free of charge, CLICK HERE.