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Permalink Reply by Sharon Ankrum on November 14, 2010 at 8:26pm

thank you so much for sharing this. I've printed it out and put it above my computer.

Permalink Reply by Christy on November 15, 2010 at 9:12am

Thank you Kim. This occurred to me last week as I was overcome with grief: God gave him to me for a season for a reason. I do not know why, only that I am thankful. I have managed to survive two days with only a brief outpouring of tears each day. I can see my perspective is changing. I am beginning to realize that he will always be a part of me, and a part of all of us who had the pleasure to know him. He was a blessing. We cannot help but smile at the thought of him. A change is beginning in me. I am learning to heal. I am learning to accept help from others. Perhaps one day I will live and forgive as freely as he did, with the joy of a child and the confidence of a child of God. That is my hope.

Permalink Reply by Renee Semo on November 18, 2010 at 10:31pm

Christy, I am happy you are starting to find peace. I hope one day to feel the same. I believe Frank will always be with me and I know we will be together one day again. I have had a hard time going to church since he died and I went to a All Souls Day Mass at the cemetery a couple of weeks ago and the priest in his homily said something that really touched me "Grief is temporary, Love is forvever". I look at my children and see so much of Frank in them. I know the life we built together is part of who I am. I sit and think that when my kids grow up and go out on their own I will be left alone and I hate that, then I think if I would ever find love again and I know I cant. I wish I knew why god takes the good and evil people walk the streets. If only I could have one more day...just so I can say everything I want to say to him. I dont know why we find someone to love so completely and then have them ripped from your arms. I dont get it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Christy said:

Thank you Kim. This occurred to me last week as I was overcome with grief: God gave him to me for a season for a reason. I do not know why, only that I am thankful. I have managed to survive two days with only a brief outpouring of tears each day. I can see my perspective is changing. I am beginning to realize that he will always be a part of me, and a part of all of us who had the pleasure to know him. He was a blessing. We cannot help but smile at the thought of him. A change is beginning in me. I am learning to heal. I am learning to accept help from others. Perhaps one day I will live and forgive as freely as he did, with the joy of a child and the confidence of a child of God. That is my hope.

Permalink Reply by Christy on November 22, 2010 at 7:46am

Hello Renee, I just got your messg.. You are blessed to have children w/ you now. It will be hard when they grow up & leave but you will be more prepared by then. As for me, mine began to leave the very day my husband died. His son lived w/ us & I called his mother to get him from school & well, she now has custody of him. My adult children have lived w/ us for the most part & both of them are preparing to leave. It is so hard. Larry & I never really had time alone to ourselves & now I am all alone! I can't believe this is the way it really is! I just re-read my 1st messg. to you & was alittle surprised to realize I sounded so "together" because I feel as if I'm falling apart in every way: emotionally, mentally & physically. I guess it's true that we will have good days & bad. I don't think my heart will ever heal. I do not want to be with another man ever- I pray God will have mercy on me & take me soon. My children freak out hearing that & I hate to say it but that's how I feel. I agree w/ you- I don't understand why so many wicked people roam the earth & all the good ones seem to be leaving us...Someone recently told me God doesn't take people from us, He's just there to carry them home when their time comes. God help us survive this life as best we can, relying on Him so we can join our loved ones one fine day. My sincere love & prayers to you & yours HUGS

Renee Semo said:

Christy, I am happy you are starting to find peace. I hope one day to feel the same. I believe Frank will always be with me and I know we will be together one day again. I have had a hard time going to church since he died and I went to a All Souls Day Mass at the cemetery a couple of weeks ago and the priest in his homily said something that really touched me "Grief is temporary, Love is forvever". I look at my children and see so much of Frank in them. I know the life we built together is part of who I am. I sit and think that when my kids grow up and go out on their own I will be left alone and I hate that, then I think if I would ever find love again and I know I cant. I wish I knew why god takes the good and evil people walk the streets. If only I could have one more day...just so I can say everything I want to say to him. I dont know why we find someone to love so completely and then have them ripped from your arms. I dont get it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Christy said:

Thank you Kim. This occurred to me last week as I was overcome with grief: God gave him to me for a season for a reason. I do not know why, only that I am thankful. I have managed to survive two days with only a brief outpouring of tears each day. I can see my perspective is changing. I am beginning to realize that he will always be a part of me, and a part of all of us who had the pleasure to know him. He was a blessing. We cannot help but smile at the thought of him. A change is beginning in me. I am learning to heal. I am learning to accept help from others. Perhaps one day I will live and forgive as freely as he did, with the joy of a child and the confidence of a child of God. That is my hope.