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Permalink Reply by Melinda CANDACE Guinn on December 19, 2013 at 11:11am

I'm so sorry. This time of year makes it very difficult. Be with family and share his memory about things he did that made you laugh.

Permalink Reply by cyndi on December 28, 2013 at 10:07pm

I am also very sorry my Father passed in April and he should be here also.  I don't understand either why he left so fast within two months it still is a blurrrr.  I am angry and sad.

Permalink Reply by Amanda Louise Hudson on December 28, 2013 at 10:31pm

I completely understand how you feel about it all being like a blurr. I just got an e-mail today saying his tribute is going to expire. I really would like to keep it turned on forever... It closes January 2. :( All of it is just so much to take in.
 
cyndi said:

I am also very sorry my Father passed in April and he should be here also.  I don't understand either why he left so fast within two months it still is a blurrrr.  I am angry and sad.

Permalink Reply by brenda on December 29, 2013 at 11:22am

My dad would be here also if not for an incompetent surgeon and the 4 infections at the same time he was hospitalized. No attorney will take his case because of his age. He rode his motorcycle the day before. I can't go a day without tears. A grief counselor has been suggested but I don't know what they do. I thought I was close to my dad but he was private and hid his pain and what the doctors were saying. His last year was awful and he just gave up.  Thank you for allowing me to share because no one else understands.  Sending out prayers for those in need also. My aunt said for me to remember the streets of gold.

Permalink Reply by Amanda Louise Hudson on December 29, 2013 at 2:04pm

I can definitely relate to what you are saying! I think I could benefit from a grief counselor too. Their job is to comfort, educate us, and help us let go of some of the negative feelings we have in response to our loss. My daddy was a big motorcycle fan too! He was so strong. My dad was somewhat private but I think he was just trying to protect me from worry. He talked to his mom about stuff a little. My dad didn't give up. Medications he was on caused him to seem that way. Could it be the same for yours? What is going on with the body greatly affects the mind and process of thought. I do understand! Your Aunt is a wonderful and intelligent woman! <3
 
brenda said:

My dad would be here also if not for an incompetent surgeon and the 4 infections at the same time he was hospitalized. No attorney will take his case because of his age. He rode his motorcycle the day before. I can't go a day without tears. A grief counselor has been suggested but I don't know what they do. I thought I was close to my dad but he was private and hid his pain and what the doctors were saying. His last year was awful and he just gave up.  Thank you for allowing me to share because no one else understands.  Sending out prayers for those in need also. My aunt said for me to remember the streets of gold.

Permalink Reply by Melinda CANDACE Guinn on December 29, 2013 at 4:03pm

Brenda, Your Dad went to "the green, green grass of Home". I've read it's so unbelievably beautiful and peaceful there. Loved ones and friends were there to take him Home. Be HAPPY for him. It's us, left here, that need to try and live our lives better so we can be w/them. Be kind and helpful to others.

Permalink Reply by Warren Washington on January 1, 2014 at 1:48pm

Hello my name is Warren and though I am not a member of this particular group I was moved enough to respond to this post. I see many people post things about what they believe happens to us when we die in an efforts to offer some comfort or come off as knowledgeable but, in reality there views don't harmonize with what God's word the Bible says. So if I may I would like to post direct quotes from the Bible so that anyone earnestly seeking comfort and the truth about the dead they can find it. Not in the writings or in the philosophies and traditions of imperfect humans but, in God.

Victory Over Death

• “He will swallow up death forever, and the Sovereign Lord Jehovah will wipe away the tears from all faces.”—Isaiah 25:8.

• “This is the will of my Father, that everyone who recognizes the Son and exercises faith in him should have everlasting life.”—John 6:40.

• “The last enemy, death, is to be brought to nothing.”—1 Corinthians 15:26.

• “[We have the] hope of the everlasting life that God, who cannot lie, promised long ago.”—Titus 1:2.

• “He will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more.”—Revelation 21:4.

  

Permalink Reply by Judith Lorraine Harvey on January 1, 2014 at 2:33pm

 Amanda,

I understand what you're saying. Everything becomes a trigger. You receive mail. You go to the shops. you hear a song, you see something you would buy for them. My mother passed away on the 2/2/2013 of breast cancer and kidney failure. I lost myself when I lost her. You will never get over the loss of a parent. People drive me mental when they say time heals. It dulls, it doesn't heal. I feel like it was yesterday that my mother passed away. I get angry that she had to endure what she did. Be happy he has gone to the "GREEN GREEN GRASS OF HOME." You can't be happy, you want your parent back.There is absolutely no comfort in those words. Meaningless words from ignorant people. Amanda, I eventually went to see a Grief Counsellor. I have only been twice, but to be able to vent, and be open with someone who is not involved eventually, I hope in time will help. Find someone who you can connect with. You will know after one session.

Permalink Reply by Amanda Louise Hudson on January 21, 2014 at 5:21pm

Some days I think I have gone overboard in my mind. I can't stand the crying everyday that comes with the hopelessness and regret. I just want to wake up from the nightmare of loosing my Daddy.

Permalink Reply by katie on February 15, 2014 at 5:20pm

You poor thing.  What a terrible situation.  I would be very angry too.  Anger is a normal reaction to the death of a loved one, especially when his death could have been prevented.  But please, don't let this consume you.  Grieve as long as you must, in whatever way you must.  But then try to come to terms with this and move on.  The only thing parents want for their children is for them to be truly happy.  That is probably what you father would say to you-I just want you & my grandchildren to be happy.  Remember too that "time and unforeseen occurrence" befalls all of us, and unfortunately there is nothing we can do about it. (Ecclesiastes 9:11)  We also have the hope of a resurrection.  The apostle Paul wrote at 1 Corinthians 15:26 that, "death is to be brought to nothing."  How could he be so sure of this?  Because he had been taught by one who had been raised from the dead, Jesus Christ.  We have the opportunity of seeing our dead loved ones again, healthy and happy.  In the meantime remember that, "God is near to those broken at heart and those who are crushed in spirit he saves."-Psalm 34:18.  If I could, I would give you a big hug.   

Permalink Reply by Amanda Louise Hudson on February 15, 2014 at 5:57pm

Thank you Katie

Permalink Reply by T.C. Goodwin on February 16, 2014 at 5:49pm

 I had grandparents (maternal and paternal) die at an early age. I feel that they would still be here if they were empowered about their medical care. I encourage everyone to ask questions when it comes to you and your family care.

(ask me 3 is a great website) Proverbs 3:21-22