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I lost my sister and brother with in 3 months time of each other. I just can't get passed any of it. The lose is with me every min. of the day. I cry all the time for them, we were so close and had so much fun when we were together. I'm the youngest. I still have my Mom she up in age. It's very hard time. Thank you.
Hank, I am glad to hear that you are thinking of going back to counseling. Addiction is such a hard thing to figure out. In regards to your other post about everyone grieving differently, you are absolutely right. I am a cryer and don't let go of things so easily but my older sister seems to keep things in and deal with it in a way that I don't understand. Seems to me that she is in denial sometimes. I guess it's just her way. My prayers go out to you and to all who are going through a loss at this time.

Hank said:
Yes Jean i have in the past had therapy as i've had double addiction (mother-recovered alcohalic and brother-drugs). I am close to returning due to the complexity issues such as are they to blame? is it the drugs? ahhh the agony continues. Thank you Jean.

And Jean i'm so sorry for your sister's situation. The difficulty of that must be hard to describe.

My thought and prayers are with you.

Hank
Oh my gosh! I cant even begin to imagine what you are feeling! I can barely hang on with the loss of my brother, let alone another sibling within three mo. of one another! I am so sorry for your loss! Just when I think I am at the worst of the worst, I hear someone elses story & think how much worse it could really be! Please know I am here praying for comfort for you and am grieving with you! This thing called life can really suck! We know we are all going to go someday, and that we dont get to pick when or how, but we are the ones left behind being selfish not wanting them to go. I wonder what my brother would feel like if I would have went first? He would probably be in the same boat as I am in. I miss him soo much, every minute of everyday, but I know he is in an awesome place, hiking, going to Norway whenever he wants, fishing in the most beautiful places you've ever seen, and getting a place all ready for me & the rest of our clan when we get up there to be with him. He has no more addictions, no more stress, no more pain. I belive that with all my heart! But for now, we have to sit here, suffer, and miss them horribly! Aint life just grand? Nobody prepared me for this part! God bless you, I hope you find some peace soon.

m.marsh said:
I lost my sister and brother with in 3 months time of each other. I just can't get passed any of it. The lose is with me every min. of the day. I cry all the time for them, we were so close and had so much fun when we were together. I'm the youngest. I still have my Mom she up in age. It's very hard time. Thank you.
Jean said:
Hank, I am glad to hear that you are thinking of going back to counseling. Addiction is such a hard thing to figure out. In regards to your other post about everyone grieving differently, you are absolutely right. I am a cryer and don't let go of things so easily but my older sister seems to keep things in and deal with it in a way that I don't understand. Seems to me that she is in denial sometimes. I guess it's just her way. My prayers go out to you and to all who are going through a loss at this time.

Hank said:
Yes Jean i have in the past had therapy as i've had double addiction (mother-recovered alcohalic and brother-drugs). I am close to returning due to the complexity issues such as are they to blame? is it the drugs? ahhh the agony continues. Thank you Jean.

And Jean i'm so sorry for your sister's situation. The difficulty of that must be hard to describe.

My thought and prayers are with you.

Hank
On January 17, 2007, my sister Peggy age 51 loss her battle to Squamous Cell Cancer. When I got the news she was in the hodpital then went to visit her I had a panic attack which ended up me having an asthma attack. I was shocked. Sis went in just to have a doctors appointment so I was told. This is just hard for me to speak about. I never thought it be so hard loosing a sibling. I feel guilty because I always wonder if she knew I loved her, when we were young I said some awful things, feel guilty that I did not visit her more often. I am still grifing but it is getting better. June 15 is my sister's Peg's birthday, so I made her Memorial site in the memory of my sister. I sure do miss my sister Peggy there is not a day that I do not think of sis. I have her pictures of my desk, in my living roon and even on my refrigator. I look at her photo's talk to her. My life has not been the same since she gone.
Peggy I lost a sister and it cuts deep. She was killed by her ex husband of 30 days. The shock was probably the worst but I think of her still almost everyday and her death caused a life changing experience in my own life and I made major changes after that because I just knew things had to change. This was over 25 years ago but it still hurts at times when I think of how much fun we always had together. She had such an infectious laugh and beautiful face. That twinkle in her eye. She was very special. Darkness hates light and that is why he killed her. He lost control.
It seems that no matter how someone dies we always wonder did we love enough? Did they know how much they were loved and appreciated? I like to think that they know all now! Sisters fight, are sometimes mean to each other especially as children. That in my opinion is part of the sisterhood. I have seven. I still always count her because she is still part of me and always will be. We celebrated her 50th birthday some years back just like everyone else's. We invited her children and celebrated her life. We shared letters and pictures with each other and about 5 of them decorated her grave together. We are still sisters and you are with your sis. She knows you love her and I think she did even then. I am so sorry about your sister. When I can't help but miss her I ask God to give her a hug for me and tell her I miss her. Suep
Dorothy, I am so sorry, I called you Peggy. For some reason my system won't let me edit? Sorry, suep
I lost my son 1 year ago today, Angelo. Still not doing well, ready to retire from my job and get with people who just don't know what I went thru.
Mel DE
I am deeply sorry for all the losses we have suffered. I'm just so tired today. Like a dull agony. Who would have guessed that life ended up being like this?? Wow what a life changing experience true loss really is.


Hank
I m so sorry to hear about your sister. I also lost my loving sister last year. I feel very lonely without my sister.
after two good days i'm teetering on feeling bad, but i block it out. I don't like this. Its as if i cant allow myself more pain because its too much. Man this will take 10 years 20 years even. To lose a brother in my late 30's is too much i think.
It has now been 4 months since my brothers passing. My son just graduated from high school my whole family was here and it was a wonderful celebration. THEN it hit the sorrow, the loss the pain all over again. only when I was sitting on my couch feeling NOTHING my husband asked me if I was ok and I said yes and why? he said that I looked distant and withdrawn, at the time I didnt' know what he was talking about then.. I get back on this sight and read of everyone's feelings and struggles and realized here it is again the lost feeling the hollowness all over again. Not so much the knife hurting pain but a loss none the less the just here feeling.... I hate it. I just have the feeling to run and run... kindof like Forest Gump and then it hits I am done running. I hear these kindof feelings last a life time. YUCK. Hugs to everyone out there from Scottsbluff NE

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