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My dear Bill died early in the morning. Hospice was with us on 24 hour watch and they had been warning me all night that the "death" signs were showing in his skin and he completely lost his voice that last night so it just felt like he drifted away. The hospice people had been turning him to make him comfortable and had just turned him to face the window when he took his last breath. My daughter and I were standing holding his hand looking out the window with him. A dear neighbor man that Bill loved to hunt and fish with, drove past our house (returning from night shift at work) just as Bill took his last breath. We all said he was saying goodbye to Steve and this was such a blessing. So many friends and family knew his signs were close that amazingly people started arriving in that few moments and I suddenly realized I was completely surrounded by love. From that moment til 3 weeks later, no one let me be alone for a moment. The picture on mypage is Bill just 3 weeks before he passed. This is the smiling loving man that I have to let myself see as I go to sleep. He knew his time was short but he has the biggest smile. Unbelievable. He was ready to rest. I have to be content with that tho I know he didn't want to leave me. He feared for my pain more than his own relief. Everyone needs to see the love of their loved ones, not the pain. They didn't want us to suffer. We all know that.. Hugs
Laura, My husband, Jim,passed away 19 days ago. We were on a rollercoaster ride with his illness. He had lung cancer,had one lung removed. Chemo,then it spread to his spine,radiation,more chemo cause it spred to his other lung. Sept. 20th tests showed the cancer was responding to the chemo. Two wks later he caught a bug,was in the hospital. Only the bug was cancer. So we called in hospice,brought him home where he lasted 8 days. The last four days he was pretty much out of it. When he did go, I was hugging him and telling him that I loved him.He left peacefully, as usual, trying to make it easier for me. I, too, don't have much support. My mom is in hospice, my sister lost her husband in June( also from cancer), Jim's dad lives in Texas, and our daughters. Our daughters have tried to help, but they are hurting too, and they have their own lives. So I try not to burden them too much. That's why this site has helped me alot. Hospice said they would check on me for the next 13 months, but I haven't heard from them. So Laura, stay here with us, we help each other as much as we can. Take care, everyone here will be there for you.
Barbara
My husband also died from lung cancer which took him with treatment in about two months I know that it was the prayers that took him; because the lord will either cause a miracle and cure him or stop the suffering and he chose to stop his suffering; but Mike thought he still had a couple of months. We are buring him today at the Willamette National Cemetery in Portland Oregon and because I could not afford to pay for his Obituary they did not even mention that he was an Army Veteran. I feel that should come automatically without saying.
thank you all for letting me vent and listening to me I feel like I am going crazy
Barbara Roth said:Laura, My husband, Jim,passed away 19 days ago. We were on a rollercoaster ride with his illness. He had lung cancer,had one lung removed. Chemo,then it spread to his spine,radiation,more chemo cause it spred to his other lung. Sept. 20th tests showed the cancer was responding to the chemo. Two wks later he caught a bug,was in the hospital. Only the bug was cancer. So we called in hospice,brought him home where he lasted 8 days. The last four days he was pretty much out of it. When he did go, I was hugging him and telling him that I loved him.He left peacefully, as usual, trying to make it easier for me. I, too, don't have much support. My mom is in hospice, my sister lost her husband in June( also from cancer), Jim's dad lives in Texas, and our daughters. Our daughters have tried to help, but they are hurting too, and they have their own lives. So I try not to burden them too much. That's why this site has helped me alot. Hospice said they would check on me for the next 13 months, but I haven't heard from them. So Laura, stay here with us, we help each other as much as we can. Take care, everyone here will be there for you.
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