I don't think it matters what you do as long as you do something.I think we all need to think of what we would like to explore on our own,starting a new normal for ourselves.It has been only 12 weeks fof me,but I know I need to start re-thinking my life without my Husband.Thankfully,I am not alone,in the sense that I have a very supportive network of family and friends,who have been and contnue to be here for me.I teach,and am starting,or,re-starting my own business,and I am the Graphic designer and Public Relations Diresctor for a non-profit theatre company.I need to refocus on all these things,even though I can easily see myself sitting on my couch.watching movies all day.That's the easy way out,and not possitive or life-affirming for ME.I hope others can try step by step to have sanity.It is hard,and there are days of horrrible sadness and lonelyness.We can get through it.It just takes time and we should all take the time we NEED,not the time others tell us we should take.We know ourselves best.We should work on that.
Absolutely! Each of us needs to try to find a new normal and also not be too hard on ourselves if we try things that don't work now that used to. I feel like I am building a new person and some of the old parts don't fit the way I would like. I miss my mind. I often feel like my brain is only working about half speed or less and am having to make sure I write myself notes as terribly forgetful. Please keep trying to make a new life for yourself at your speed!
Nine weeks yesterday for me. Still very raw. Some things that have helped just a little is making plans and doing things that I remember I used to like to do. I took a drawing class, not terribly successful as my ability to focus and concentrate are not what they need to be but did get me out of the house one night a week. I had paid for the class and so was able to make myself gather supplies and go each week. Also went to a hockey game with my son and two symphony concerts with friends and those breaks in the loneliness have helped a great deal. I am trying to rebuild myself into a complete human being. We were married for almost 29 years and I am having a hard time being alone after being half of a couple for so long. As others have said, baby steps.... I found out the local veterans home needed donations so took many of my husbands nicer things and that made me feel a little better.