I Need Him in my Dreams...

I see on here that alot of you have dreams about your loved one. Brad has been gone 1 year and 15 days and only once I had a dream where I saw Brad so briefly, it was like he was driving by and he had a smile on his face and waved at me. It was so short, I woke up right away and cried, wishing it would have been longer, that I could have seen him more and that he would have said something. That was the only time he was in my dreams. My daughters have had dreams about him, but not me. Does anyone have any ideas why?? I have smelled his scent a couple of times in the garage where we spent alot of time working together on cars. When that happens I just sit there and take deep breaths to take it all in. I really need to see him in my dreams, I miss him so and if I could only he would come to me in my dreams, it would give me some peace.

Thanks to everyone for your support. I'm trying to be positive but if the dreams would come it sure would make me feel better.

Hugs to all of you, my friends

Barb

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Permalink Reply by Joan on September 1, 2010 at 5:49pm

After reading what Kathleen said about going to the cemetery and telling her husband it was his time to come see her, I tried that. I have been having dreams about the bed jiggling and wake up and no one is there. Well, that night after I'd been to the cemetery, I felt the bed jiggle. I turned over and I could see him sleeping there and could feel his breath on my face. I reached out and touched his arm and it was so real!! I could feel his arm for days. I wish the dream had lasted longer, the first I saw him he was smiling at me and that didn't last long either. But each of these dreams are so precious and I pray I get to see him again. I can't ever write on this site without crying the whole time. Does anyone else do that?

Permalink Reply by CINDY POWELL on September 1, 2010 at 8:03pm

yes, joan everytime i post anything i feel the tears start flowing. i am posting at work because i dont even have a computer at home.

Joan said:

After reading what Kathleen said about going to the cemetery and telling her husband it was his time to come see her, I tried that. I have been having dreams about the bed jiggling and wake up and no one is there. Well, that night after I'd been to the cemetery, I felt the bed jiggle. I turned over and I could see him sleeping there and could feel his breath on my face. I reached out and touched his arm and it was so real!! I could feel his arm for days. I wish the dream had lasted longer, the first I saw him he was smiling at me and that didn't last long either. But each of these dreams are so precious and I pray I get to see him again. I can't ever write on this site without crying the whole time. Does anyone else do that?

Permalink Reply by b mohlere on September 2, 2010 at 7:12pm

I printed this out and have it on my nightstand. I read it before I go to bed each night.

Tell him, O gracious Lord, if it may be, how much I love him and miss him, and long to see him again; and, it there may be ways in which he may come, vouchsafe him to me as a guide and guard, and grant me a sense of his nearness as Thy laws permit.

I have occasional dreams of him. Some are meaningful with what I perceive as a message but other are just dreams about our normal times together. Those mean so much to me.

B

Permalink Reply by bc on September 2, 2010 at 9:48pm

How wonderful for you Marlena! Thanks for sharing this with me, I know it was Tom telling you he is okay and wants you to be okay too. Keep up with the star thing. It brings me alot of comfort, of course tonight we had storms and I couldn't go outside and see the stars. But I feel him here with me, I've been having quick little glimpses of him in my dreams lately. Is he teasing me?? I need THE DREAM!
Take care and keep dreaming, it does help. Hugs to you

Marlena said:

Barb,

I had to share my dream with you. Every night before I go to sleep I ask Tom to come to me in a dream. Like I said before I am still wishing for that perfect dream...it still hasn't happened.

But last night of course I went through my ritual asking him to come to me and I did the wish upon a star thing, too... I'm willing to try anything. I did dream, of course Tom wasn't in the dream, but in my dream I was walking on the old road I grew up on and every house had balloons in their yard. They were heart shaped balloons just like I had for Tom at the funeral (I had 25 heart shaped I love you balloons to represent our 25 years married). Anyway in my dream I kept thinking how sweet all these people were for decorating their lawns with these balloons for their loved one, it must be valentine's day...
When I woke up I realized the balloons were meant for me...it was Tom's way of letting me know how much he loves me and even if he can't come into my dreams at least he could still show me. That made me start today with a little extra bounce in my step.

Okay, so maybe I will do anything to rationalize my dream and make it fit to what I wish for...but I'll take it any way I can!

Just had to share....I still hope you are able to get your good dream.

Hugs coming your way!

Permalink Reply by bc on September 2, 2010 at 9:50pm

You are so lucky to have had that! I shouldn't say lucky, I should say fortunate. I would give anything for Brad's touch again!

kathleen caylor said:

Recently,after a trip to the cemetery.My parting words were"O.K.Ern,it's your turn to come see me!"And he did!!Then one morning whenI wasn't fully awake,I felt the warmth of his hand on the small of my back,Very comforting.My daughter had a dream on my birthday,She said her dad came to her and said"I hate to see you so sad.Please don't be,even though you don't see me,I'm always watching over you."She tried to go back to sleep to recapture that moment but couldn't.I think when we least expect it they are there for us.Good luck,I hope it happens soon for you.

Permalink Reply by bc on September 2, 2010 at 9:52pm

Joan, that was wonderful! I just ask to see Brad's smile and hear him tell me he loves me one more time. I ask him always, it doesn't happen but I do have a peaceful feeling whenever I see his picture through my tears. Maybe that's his way of telling me it will be okay, I just don't know.

Joan said:

After reading what Kathleen said about going to the cemetery and telling her husband it was his time to come see her, I tried that. I have been having dreams about the bed jiggling and wake up and no one is there. Well, that night after I'd been to the cemetery, I felt the bed jiggle. I turned over and I could see him sleeping there and could feel his breath on my face. I reached out and touched his arm and it was so real!! I could feel his arm for days. I wish the dream had lasted longer, the first I saw him he was smiling at me and that didn't last long either. But each of these dreams are so precious and I pray I get to see him again. I can't ever write on this site without crying the whole time. Does anyone else do that?

Permalink Reply by bc on September 2, 2010 at 9:53pm

Of course Joan, we all do, its normal and its good to get it out. Crying is my only release except sometimes I get so angry at nothing in particular and then meltdown. I am here for you always!

Joan said:

After reading what Kathleen said about going to the cemetery and telling her husband it was his time to come see her, I tried that. I have been having dreams about the bed jiggling and wake up and no one is there. Well, that night after I'd been to the cemetery, I felt the bed jiggle. I turned over and I could see him sleeping there and could feel his breath on my face. I reached out and touched his arm and it was so real!! I could feel his arm for days. I wish the dream had lasted longer, the first I saw him he was smiling at me and that didn't last long either. But each of these dreams are so precious and I pray I get to see him again. I can't ever write on this site without crying the whole time. Does anyone else do that?

Permalink Reply by Joan on September 2, 2010 at 10:39pm

Thanks Barb. That really means a lot. I will pray that you get to see your Brad soon. I think we all deserve just that little bit! I don't understand my dreams or why I have had two and others haven't had any. That doesn't seem quite fair but I wouldn't trade those two dreams for anything. He didn't talk to me in either one and I also would like to hear one more time that he loves me. We didn't get the chance to say good-bye so that would mean a lot. Jim will be gone 5 months on Sept. 8th. I swear it feels like 5 years. Hope everyone on this site has a good weekend and gets the chance to spend it with friends or family.

Permalink Reply by Connie on September 2, 2010 at 11:39pm

Hi Barb, I got back from Florida this afternoon. Had a great time. About the dream, I have had one dream about Phil. It involved our dogs and they had gotten out of the yard on me and I had hundreds of dogs, all kinds, colors, sizes. I was angry with him because he always told me that they would never go anywhere if they did get out and now I had all these dogs around. Phil came from around the house and said to me "Look, Hon, I can walk and it doesn't hurt." At that time, all the dogs were gone and only my dogs were back in the yard where they should be. At that time I was in a crisis because I knew that I could not keep the two big dogs and yet I didn't want to give them away. He would have known what a decision that was for me. Since then, I have asked him time and time again to come to me at nighht but to no avail. I keep trying and I will not give up.

Permalink Reply by Randolph L. Schrader on September 2, 2010 at 11:50pm

Hi too all, keep asking for your spouse to visit you in your dreams. You know they are angels now and have many more who can come to visit. Just keep asking them. And more than likely they will come when you dont expect it and that will be YOUR SPECIAL moment, only for you. And you will never ever forget it and it will be quick but "to the point" and no doubt. They hear you. Hugs to all. Hugs are good.

Permalink Reply by Randolph L. Schrader on September 3, 2010 at 12:08am

By the way, you could also be visited while you are awake, sitting at the computer, table having coffee, ect. And you will know it. What a wonderful "sign" that will be. Hugs to all. hugs are good.

Permalink Reply by kathy obiedzinski on September 3, 2010 at 6:42am

b mohlere i am going to print the message out and also put it in my bedroom also in george computer room thanks

b mohlere said:

I printed this out and have it on my nightstand. I read it before I go to bed each night.

Tell him, O gracious Lord, if it may be, how much I love him and miss him, and long to see him again; and, it there may be ways in which he may come, vouchsafe him to me as a guide and guard, and grant me a sense of his nearness as Thy laws permit.

I have occasional dreams of him. Some are meaningful with what I perceive as a message but other are just dreams about our normal times together. Those mean so much to me.

B