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After reading some of the messages on this site, I felt compelled to post this message and share my story. I lost my father to cancer and that was one of the most difficult times in my life. Watching my father battle cancer, endure the treatments and take his last breath was not easy although it has made me stronger and become a better man. Please take a few moments of your time to read an article that was published about me, my father and my fight against cancer through song. This is truly touching so many people’s lives and I just want to continue to share it with the world. If my story helps at least one person deal with their loss of a loved one, then I feel like I’m doing my part.

Link to article http://www.2theadvocate.com/entertainment/50264372.html

Kevin “K-V” Stanford
www.bewithyouagain.com
my husband died one month ago at the age of 35. we moved to wichita because he needed a heart transplant. in the past 6 months i have lost my soul mate, my job, my car, my house, and quite possibly my sanity.we have a beautiful 8 year old girl who is my saving grace, she looks so much like him. i cant stop crying, i cant sleep, i cant eat. please tell me there is some hope.
Hi Christy,

Losing someone is never easy to deal with nevertheless your job, car and house. When I lost my father I was devastated but i had to pull it together quickly. I have to take care of my mom, grandparents and my child. It took a lot of prayer and faith in GOD to get me through. My close friends kept reminding me that GOD makes no mistakes. I know sometimes we don't understand the things that happen in life but we have to trust GOD. You will make it...You will survive and your story, your testimony will be an inspiring one that will help someone else one day. My son was so strong when my dad, his paw paw passed away and I drew strength from him. Stay prayerful, stay strong and just know that everything will be ok.
kevin,thank you for your words of wisdom its nice to know someone is out there who understands how i feel. i will take your words to heart and try to have some faith. i just miss him so much, but you really helped
Hey christy, i am really sorry for the loss of your beloved husband. Your story brought so much tears to my eyes. My aunt also passed away when she was 35, at such a young age just like your husband, leaving 4 kids behind including a 2 year old that loved her so much. The really sad part is she passed away a day after her 35th birthday. I shared the same birthday with her and sadly as much as a birthday should bring excitement, it brings nothing but sorrow to me that i sleep for both of those days. I know you lost so much and i'm hoping and praying that you get it all back together. Look up to god and your husband, and don't think for one second you don't have anything to live for because you have a beautiful daughter standing right beside you. That's something that you can never lose and amazingly she is the gift your husband shared with you. You still have her to live for. Your daughter is your hope. You are in my prayers. God bless.

christy strahan said:
my husband died one month ago at the age of 35. we moved to wichita because he needed a heart transplant. in the past 6 months i have lost my soul mate, my job, my car, my house, and quite possibly my sanity.we have a beautiful 8 year old girl who is my saving grace, she looks so much like him. i cant stop crying, i cant sleep, i cant eat. please tell me there is some hope.
Hi Christy,

You are more than welcomed. Just pray and trust in GOD, he will not let you down. And also know that you are not alone, you have your daughter and she needs you. I will continue to pray for you and your family also..

christy strahan said:
kevin,thank you for your words of wisdom its nice to know someone is out there who understands how i feel. i will take your words to heart and try to have some faith. i just miss him so much, but you really helped
Hello Christy,

Yes, there is lots of hope - trust in God which you have read over and over again. I learned through life experiences - he will NEVER let you down. He promised better conditions - Revelation 21:3,4 and it will come to be...as he promised. You have a hope of seeing your partner, your love one, your husband again. Join forces with God and watch how he surround you with the spirit of calmness and peace. Read Psalms 37:9-11 - it will come to be as he stated in the Bible - you must believe that and it will help calm the pain and comfort you.
I too, know the feeling of experiencing things that you want to share with someone who has passed away. I know of others who share the same desire also. For instance my mother lost her mother to cancer, she always thinks of things that she would want to tell her or for her to see. But you know what comforts us is the hope that we will see her again, as well as our other friends and relatives that have passed..."Do not marvel at this because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out." ( John 5:28,29) I believe will see my family and friends again soon, by means of resurrection. :)
Hello to all I am new to this so please bear with me.

I have over the past few years lost several people who were dear to me and I feel each time that I dont know what to do next. It all started in 2006 I lost my friends mother who was like a second mother to me to Emphysema then only 7 months later I unexpectedly lost my own father to heart attack and stroke now here i sit just comming home from a memorial for a dear friend who was diagnosed thiis past January with brain cancer and she passed away last sunday at the age of 48. I also found out earlier today another dear friend had several small strokes over the past week. Im not sure how to deal woth all this pain and fear, the fear comming from the fact that I in the past few months was diagnosed with something that can be fatal.......I wonder am I next? What should I do?
I hope i can comfort you all with these thoughts, as it comforted me, i've lost my grandmother, and friends to illness too. "No resident will say i'am sick"
( Isaiah 33:24) "He will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away." ( Revelation 21:4) Soon Jehovah (God) will wipe out pain, sickness and death. You and i won't suffer the loss of those close to us any longer. I have faith in the promise, i hope you have faith in it too....
Hi my name i cookie and know what you all are going through beacuse I am dealing with the same thing.But I really need some insight on something.My aunt passed away on october 9,2009 of breast cancer and she went to the hospital and i thought she was going to get better but she didnt.so now I am blaming myself for not being there like I should have been and I cant sleep I rarely eat.I am so depressed and I know its not my fault but why do you feel like that.I am always sad and crying i am not happy.I pretend to be but do you feel this way sometimes like you didnt get more time.
My son Joe died two years ago today after 4+ years battling ALS (Lou Gehrig's Disease). He was just 33 and started having his first symptoms when he was 28. Joe was a dynmaic personality: fun loving, generous, kind and full of energy. He started having some shoulder problems and weakness in his left hand. After several months of testing, he was given a death sentence. That was on February 4, 2004. It was agonizing to watch him deteriorate. First his left hand and arm. Then his right. His speech became slurred and after two years he was in a wheel chair. His arms were limp and hung at his sides. He was unable to feed himself or take care of his daily needs so he moved back home. He never complained. I remember that last night he walked. He got half way to the bedroom and broke down crying. His father and I held him and cried with him and then he asked for the wheel chair... he never walked again.

He never gave up living. The day he died he went swimming, but had a very difficult time and said he thought he wouldn't be back. When he died, we were shocked even though we knew it was coming. We thought he had 6-8 months. He'd only been in hospice for two weeks. He died at home and we didn't even realize what was happening. He could no longer speak so he used a computer and ran it with head movements. The machine kept saying, "Hands, hands, hands..." Did he want our hands to hold? Did he need his hands stretched? Did he see God's hands reaching for him? We don't know... he was gone and we didn't realize what was happening. Our hearts are broken.

I remember at the funeral someone said to me, "Well, in a way you must be relieved..." I just gapped in disbelief. There was only grief. When he was alive there was hope... for a cure, a miracle. When he was alive I could hug him and kiss him and tell him I loved him. He had a feeding tube put in 8 months before he died but he refused to talk about a respirator and we promised him we would not try and do CPR when the time came. How it hurts. A friend of Joe's wrote a song for him and sang it at his funeral: "The Letting Go" by Chris Haun. I am attaching it here. I pray that someday we will all find peace.

To read more about Joey Z., go to http://www.zooneyfest.com
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