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Hi Cookie my name is Toy. It's interesting that you feel that way because I too lost someone dear to me. My mom to an illness. And I often wonder what could I have done differently. Spend more time with her, accompany her to her doctor appointments, visit her more often, the list goes on and on, but the truth of the matter is dealth is our enemy according to 1 Cor 15:26 " As the last enemy, death is to be brought to nothing. So from this point instead of blaming ourselves the person to blame is Satan the Devil (Hebrew 2:14).

Just find comfort in knowing whatever time you spent with her was what you could give and perhaps you were there when she needed you the most. That's what comforts me along with the comfort from God's word the Bible.
Dear Diane although your lose happened sometime ago, I see the pain is still real. I can't expect it not to be. I am a new mother and that love for your child is something unexplainable. And I imagine that when it is suddenly or not so suddenly severed it would be devastating. However take comfort in knowing that the Bible gives us hope and we are given peace in knowing that you can see your son again. The God of love is the one who promises us this. How do I know you might wonder, because at John 11:25 Jesus said to her: “I am the resurrection and the life. He that exercises faith in me, even though he dies, will come to life.

Though I have not experience this loss I have full faith in Jehovah and confidence that his son Jesus Christ will bring back the dead which is spoken in Act 24:15 " and I have hope toward God, which hope these [men] themselves also entertain, that there is going to be a resurrection of both the righteous and the unrighteous."

I hope you can find peace in knowing this promise will come true.
Toy Williams said:
Dear Diane although your lose happened sometime ago, I see the pain is still real. I can't expect it not to be. I am a new mother and that love for your child is something unexplainable. And I imagine that when it is suddenly or not so suddenly severed it would be devastating. However take comfort in knowing that the Bible gives us hope and we are given peace in knowing that you can see your son again. The God of love is the one who promises us this. How do I know you might wonder, because at John 11:25 Jesus said to her: “I am the resurrection and the life. He that exercises faith in me, even though he dies, will come to life.

Though I have not experience this loss I have full faith in Jehovah and confidence that his son Jesus Christ will bring back the dead which is spoken in Act 24:15 " and I have hope toward God, which hope these [men] themselves also entertain, that there is going to be a resurrection of both the righteous and the unrighteous."

I hope you can find peace in knowing this promise will come true. From DeAnna

Irene Parker said:
My husband Terry passed away March 2009 from lung cancer. He lived 18 months from the time of his diagnosis. I was never willing to accept that he was going to die until it actually happened. He was the love of my life and I couldn't give up on him. I still feel like I'm living in a dream and he'll walk through the door. I know in reality that's not going to happen, but still have a hard time accepting I'm never going to see him again. Well, not in this world anyway. I know first hand how hard it is to lose someone you love to such a devasting disease, but I thank God for giving me the strength to be there everyday for my husband. The courage and strength he showed during his battle is an inspiration to me and his family. I know God has a plan for me until time to be reunited with Terry. I just have to figure out what it is. Pray to help me find the strength to carry on until he calls me home. You are all in my prayers, Irene
Elaine said:
Irene Parker said:
My husband Terry passed away March 2009 from lung cancer. He lived 18 months from the time of his diagnosis. I was never willing to accept that he was going to die until it actually happened. He was the love of my life and I couldn't give up on him. I still feel like I'm living in a dream and he'll walk through the door. I know in reality that's not going to happen, but still have a hard time accepting I'm never going to see him again. Well, not in this world anyway. I know first hand how hard it is to lose someone you love to such a devasting disease, but I thank God for giving me the strength to be there everyday for my husband. The courage and strength he showed during his battle is an inspiration to me and his family. I know God has a plan for me until time to be reunited with Terry. I just have to figure out what it is. Pray to help me find the strength to carry on until he calls me home. You are all in my prayers, Irene
My husband Peter died on October 25, 2009 from lung cancer. He was diagnosed in May 2009 and died five months later. We watched him suffer and decline after he started his chemo. He tried so hard to be strong and fight this horrible disease but it was too late by the time he was diagnosed. I took care of him and I never wanted to leave him even though I had to keep working. My children and I were at his side for a week, day and night before he died. He died at the hospital where I work and to this day, five months later, I still can't go near the floor where he passed away. I keep reading that there is only way through the grief and pain. I have joined a bereavement group and they say the same thing. I just want the pain to end and I want to feel happy again. I miss him terribly and I feel like I'll never be the same. My son keeps telling me to remember the good times and not think about the bad times at the end of his life. Unfortunately they are still very fresh in my mind and my heart. I just want to know that he is happy and at peace. I do believe that he is in Heaven and someday I'll be with him again. I have to have faith that God will take care of us all. I do have my faith and that is truly helping me through this.
Illness not only zaps the energy of the afflicted, but also those who serve as a support. We may wonder if there really is someone out there who understands. But though we may feel that no one truly knows what we are experiencing, let alone provide the help we need, Jehovah God assures us that "for the problem of what we should pray for as we need to we do not know, but the spirit itself pleads for us with groanings unuttered (Romans 8:26). We may not even know ourselves, what to say when praying to God, but he assures us that he knows what we are going through and he will help us to endure.


Susan I lost my 42yr old brother to liver cancer has well. I am hurting so much and am trying to deal with the loss. I am angry about how cancer is just taking people all the time...sadly it is in my family R.I.P. AUNT SUSAN said:
MY AUNT SUSAN DIED YESTERDAY JUNE 13TH 2009 SHE WAS 56 YEARS OLD I MISS HER SO SHE PASSED AWAY FROM LIVER CANCER IT HURTS SHE WAS A FRIEND MY AUNT AND MY GODMOM I LOVED HER SO MUCH AND I TOTALLY WILL MISS HER SOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH VERY RAW RIGHT NOW.
I lost a very dear friend of 13 years on Oct. 13, 2010 to cancer. She had been fighting this disease for 7 years! She was a remarkable woman! She was loved by everyone who knew her. I keep thinking that maybe I should have visited her more often. I feel alot of guilt right at the moment. I go from crying hysterically to being angry to numb all in a matter of seconds. I'm on medication for depression. How doe one deal with so many losses in one month? I've lost 2 friends to cancer and 1 daughter in law to cancer..all in the month of October. I keep asking myself...how much more can I take?! Both my dear friends were in their early 40s. Why them? I have alot of questions and no answers. How long does this grieving process take? I barely got over the grieving process when my father in law passed away 3 years ago suddenly. Anyone out there with any suggestions I haven't heard to help me deal with this heaviness?

I lost my husband on Dec.16, 2010 to a long battle with pancreatic cancer. We had just had our 25th wedding anniversary on Oct 19th. We are only 54 years old. I feel like I have a life time ahead of me, but I'm so very sad and don't even know where to start. I know it's only been 20 days sence he passed, I think of him all day long. It's so loney with out him. He was a GREAT & WONDERFUL MAN ...

 

JOYCE baby steps....

I recently lost my Uncle Charlie on December 12, 2010 to cancer. He had cancer and then we got ride of it. But then we did the thing were you make sure none of it comes back chemotherapy we did. It was to agressive for him because he did some not so healthy things when he was younger. We lost him to cancer chemotherapy. It hurts everyday. I cant seem to think that my Uncle is gone it hurts so much. I cant stand that happened. I dont know what do.


Debbie Rios said:

I lost my husband on Dec.16, 2010 to a long battle with pancreatic cancer. We had just had our 25th wedding anniversary on Oct 19th. We are only 54 years old. I feel like I have a life time ahead of me, but I'm so very sad and don't even know where to start. I know it's only been 20 days sence he passed, I think of him all day long. It's so loney with out him. He was a GREAT & WONDERFUL MAN ...

 

JOYCE baby steps....

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