It is OK not to feel strong that is so uncaring really to say to us. We are still in denial at this point that they are not in the other room. I keep thinking he is here. I have been doing a lot of remodeling of our house and wanting advice. Now is the time to call up family and friends and have a party or outing. Rely on those memories of your lives together. I have found things around the house as I move things that remind me of our times together. Hard to decide what pictures to put up and where. Mary I feel your pain and loneliness too, I am hoping that we can handle this grief as long as we can to heal well.
My name is Jeanette and I still can't figure out how to reply publicly. Every time I do my reply goes to someone's private page. The group has been a God-send though. Everyone is so warm and encouraging and it interrupts the loneliness for a little while. I think we need to stay connected - but it is hard with our families because they, too, are grieving. I am so sorry for your loss. God Bless You
Dear Mary ... Condolences on the passing of your dear husband. I am so very sorry you have to be part of Legacy, but you have come to a wonderful place where the members (angels) give encouragement even though they themselves are heart-broken. My husband passed away from pancreatic cancer in April, 2011 and although I miss him to this very day with every fiber of my being I realized how strong I am and I will survive. There is hope! You be strong on your own time and cry when you want to, sleep when you want to and never let anyone tell you when you should be stronger than they think you should be. Grief is a journey we must all take and members on here are new into their grief like you while others like myself have survived over 7 years and I come on here to tell those who need it that there is hope and a future for them. Please keep coming here and let us help you. You can say anything you want and not one person will judge you. Legacy saved my life! There is generally someone on Legacy at different times of the day and evening. Take comfort in the fact what you are going through is very normal and trust in many of us that your heartache subsides to a point you can move on in your life. For now go with the flow and try to rest, go for a walk if you can and talk to a good friend you can trust to help you through this grief. You could also seek out one-on-one help with a grief counselor of often churches have grief counseling. It is your decision and you do what you feel is right.
Hugs (because you need one)