Neal had turned 60 years old in June 2010 and passed October 15, 2010 from lung cancer that had spread to his liver, bones and brain. We had 40 years 8 months of a wonderful marriage. Neal was 19 years old and I was 17 years old when we married. It is the first time I have ever been by myself. It was always me and Neal against the world. We depended and leaned on each other everyday. I know I write it all the time, but I'll write it again, I miss Neal so much.
Pete, I am so sorry that you are shunned by your family and friends. But I think it is like you said, they don't want to be reminded of how short life is and how terrible it is to lose your spouse.
I have said it before about the fact that I have become a great actress. People think I am doing good, when in fact this madness, this lonelyness, this hugh hole in my heart, the half person I am now is just about more than I can deal with.
Thank goodness for this site for like you said Pete, I am not alone. We are all here for each other and on this site I can be honest as to how I feel. HUGS
Cathy I, too, lost my only love to Lung and Abdominal Cancers. My Rose was diagnosed on Sept 8, 2010 and passed away from the cancer Nov 27, 2010, we had no time to prepare and she had gone down hill so quickly we did not have time to even discuss treatments. She spent a month in the Hospital, most of it in the critical care unit. Rose did not make it to 56, her birthday was Jan 6th, we had been living together since Feb 8. 1980 just 8 days after my 18th birthday.
I am shunned by my family and our friends, no one wants to be reminded of how terrible life is after the loss of your spouse. It is a very lonely existence but some how I do my best to carry on. I am contemplating therapy because I can no longer function in the business world, my emotions get the best of me many times in an hour, and have been told by my younger sister that I am ruined physiologically by this life event.
You are not alone, we all lean on each other here if for nothing more then a sympathetic ear and some compassion. Most of us here would agree that no one knows how hard this life experience is until it happens to them, although I would not wish this on anyone.
Hugs to all,