Just about the time I think that I am getting positive and maybe I can live without Brad, with no warning I get the "meltdown", nothing special sets it off, It just happens.  I miss sharing my thoughts and my feelings with him, he was the only one I ever shared my deepest feelings with, I do talk to him, but its not the same when he would hug me and always say I Love You.  I miss my best friend and am so lonely without him here by my side. It's been 1 year and 22 days and it still hurts not to have him here with me. I thought I was doing better, but I guess not. This roller coaster ride is going to "do me in"! Thanks for "listening" everyone, I just had to vent. Bless you all for being my friends!

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I have fought down two meltdowns over the last two days. I think when I have a day that goes better or seems normal or something it is followed by a meltdown. I think what happens is the okay days may get closer together and the melt down days may get furthur apart.
I have fought down two meltdowns over the last two days. I think when I have a day that goes better or seems normal or something it is followed by a meltdown. I think what happens is the okay days may get closer together and the melt down days may get furthur apart.
Judy,I think you're right.When the meltdown days hit now,they seem so devestating because we are having more and more"good"days.So when they do strike it catches us off gaurd.I guess we are just human.Life does go on doesn't it?hope everyone has better days.
Judy and Kathleen,

I remember when I first started being able to go two or three days in a row with so called "good days"...they were a surprise, but also a relief, but I knew right around the corner was a bad day waiting to happen. Always by day three or four a meltdown day was a given. Since I've progressed to longer times between bad days, the bad days now seem especially hard and so emotionally draining. They are probably no worse than they were in the beginning; they just catch me more off guard these days.

Here's to more progressive good days ahead for all of us!!
Marlene, you are right, the meltdowns seem worse now ater a few "good days", I start thinking I might be okay then it hits, like Judy said maybe the okay days get closer together and the melt down days may get further apart, but when they hit I'm taken off guard and they seem worse than before. I'm going to keep trying to handle them. Thanks everyone for the encouragement!

Marlena said:
Judy and Kathleen,

I remember when I first started being able to go two or three days in a row with so called "good days"...they were a surprise, but also a relief, but I knew right around the corner was a bad day waiting to happen. Always by day three or four a meltdown day was a given. Since I've progressed to longer times between bad days, the bad days now seem especially hard and so emotionally draining. They are probably no worse than they were in the beginning; they just catch me more off guard these days.

Here's to more progressive good days ahead for all of us!!
Marlene, you are right, the meltdowns seem worse now ater a few "good days", I start thinking I might be okay then it hits, like Judy said maybe the okay days get closer together and the melt down days may get further apart, but when they hit I'm taken off guard and they seem worse than before. I'm going to keep trying to handle them. Thanks everyone for the encouragement!

Marlena said:
Judy and Kathleen,

I remember when I first started being able to go two or three days in a row with so called "good days"...they were a surprise, but also a relief, but I knew right around the corner was a bad day waiting to happen. Always by day three or four a meltdown day was a given. Since I've progressed to longer times between bad days, the bad days now seem especially hard and so emotionally draining. They are probably no worse than they were in the beginning; they just catch me more off guard these days.

Here's to more progressive good days ahead for all of us!!
Barb,

We can all get there together. Thank goodness we have each other here to pull us through! I know I'd be lost without all of you...just to "listen" to and know I'm not walking this walk alone.


Barb said:
Marlene, you are right, the meltdowns seem worse now ater a few "good days", I start thinking I might be okay then it hits, like Judy said maybe the okay days get closer together and the melt down days may get further apart, but when they hit I'm taken off guard and they seem worse than before. I'm going to keep trying to handle them. Thanks everyone for the encouragement!

Marlena said:
Judy and Kathleen,

I remember when I first started being able to go two or three days in a row with so called "good days"...they were a surprise, but also a relief, but I knew right around the corner was a bad day waiting to happen. Always by day three or four a meltdown day was a given. Since I've progressed to longer times between bad days, the bad days now seem especially hard and so emotionally draining. They are probably no worse than they were in the beginning; they just catch me more off guard these days.

Here's to more progressive good days ahead for all of us!!
Yes Marlena we can get there together! You are never alone, I'm here for you, have a special day!

Marlena said:
Barb,

We can all get there together. Thank goodness we have each other here to pull us through! I know I'd be lost without all of you...just to "listen" to and know I'm not walking this walk alone.


Barb said:
Marlene, you are right, the meltdowns seem worse now ater a few "good days", I start thinking I might be okay then it hits, like Judy said maybe the okay days get closer together and the melt down days may get further apart, but when they hit I'm taken off guard and they seem worse than before. I'm going to keep trying to handle them. Thanks everyone for the encouragement!

Marlena said:
Judy and Kathleen,

I remember when I first started being able to go two or three days in a row with so called "good days"...they were a surprise, but also a relief, but I knew right around the corner was a bad day waiting to happen. Always by day three or four a meltdown day was a given. Since I've progressed to longer times between bad days, the bad days now seem especially hard and so emotionally draining. They are probably no worse than they were in the beginning; they just catch me more off guard these days.

Here's to more progressive good days ahead for all of us!!
Are there any weeds left??
Hi to all, today I am so "down" its unbelievable. I certainly am having a meltdown. Will we ever be the same ? Hugs to all. Hugs are good.
Folks it is a full moon, working in a nursing home I can tell you that full moons impact people very profoundly. Barb, meltdowns are normal, they are part of the new life. Just learn to recognize the signs, give yourself some time and space to let loose, then go back to what you were doing.
Steve Cain. thanks for the input. I always heard about the impact on us from a full moon but never gave it a thought. Now, being older and wiser and in grief, I guess I should of known. Thank you for creating this site for us.

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