Missing Mom

Grief support for all who have lost moms

Losing your mother can be traumatic at any age. Share your grief and talk with others who are coping with the loss of their mothers.

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Permalink Reply by Chris on November 29, 2010 at 12:04pm

it been 6 years since I lost my mom, I was 18 and with the recent passing of my older sister (3 months ago) and with the holidays approaching I find my emotions a little uncontrollable I have 2 sisters and 1 brother my older sister was pregnant at the time and my other sister 12 and brother 6 we had to take care of so I really didn't have the time to grieve, I mean the 1st day I found out was the worst day I fainted it was unbelievable but so my older sister and I were there to take care of everything.. my mother was deaf and was staying with her boyfriend of 1 year and his mother and she was found deceased outside of their apt complex at 2 in the morning on May 14th, 2004 she was 38 yrs old and her death was due to blunt force trauma because she fell from the balcony and her case is still open it's just really stressful when there are no improvements and you have to find a way to somewhat move on with your life and try but its impossible that's where the strength and faith kicks in and I have been okay up until 3 months ago my older sister and her husband separated after 14 yrs of being together married for 9 of those yrs, I assumed that it was mutual at least that's how it was portrayed and my sister finally had made the move into her new home and the day of the move her husband showed and they had some words and he shot her twice and she passed away 2 hrs after surgery she was 29 and him, he shot himself and that was so unexpected.. when I found out about this I was instantly sick, nauseous, no appetite, no sleep, went from working 6 days a week to not being able to work at all now for about 2 months, I'm back 2 days a week now and I was starting to feel slightly better til Thanksgiving and I just realized that they are never coming back physically and its a pain that is unexplainable I just cant believe I lost them both my mom and my sister and I miss my mom so much so many days I have questions with no answers and I have my niece and nephew without a mother and father because of such a selfish act and its just hurts the soul hard, I'm trying to turn these negatives into positives I feel like that may be the only way I make it in this life I also feel like maybe the passing of both have hit me all at once because I have never felt like this before and I just pray to get better and I will always remember my mom and sister they were 2 beautiful women I will never stop missing them

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Permalink Reply by Melinda Contreras on December 6, 2010 at 7:05pm

I replied about 3 mts ago about my mother's passing in a tragic car accident. I truly believe my Mom is with me sometimes, because I have dreams that seem almost real. The last dream I had my Mom was walking in the door of my work handing me a wrapped christmas present, but instead of unwrapping the present I ran after her and woke up. I really wish I would have opened the present. I think she was trying to tell me something. Yes, it hurts a lot, but I know my Mom would want the best for me. The week of my Mom's funeral in May of this year I received notice I was in the LPN to RN Program. I think this was God's way of keeping me really busy during this terrible time in my life. I'm now almost half way through the program and I always talked to my mom about going when she was alive. I will graduate next year in May around the time she died, how ironic! well this will be my present to her. Love you Mom.

Permalink Reply by susan falanga on December 19, 2010 at 10:17am

hi to all just want to let everyone know about someone who added something to my profile ,, she started out with i am single ,, i just want everyone to be aware of this ,as we are greiving a loss ,, this person seems to think this is a dating site she goes under ruth 500_desmond@yahoo.fr

Permalink Reply by DEBBIE SYMONS-NETZLER on December 19, 2010 at 11:22am

I LOST MY MOM ON JUNE 23,2010. THAT DAY WAS THE WORST DAY OF MY LIFE. WHEN SHE PASSED AWAY A PIECE OF HER WENT WITH ME. THIS CHRISTMAS WILL BE 6 MONTHS TO THE DAY THAT WE BURIED HER. I MISS HER TERRIBLY. THE ONLY GOOD THING ABOUT THIS IS SHE ONLY LASTED ABOUT ONE MONTH IN A NURSING HOME WHICH SHE SAID SHE NEVER WANTED TO BE IN A NURSING HOME. MOM I THINK OF YOU EVERYDAY AND I LOVE YOU . DEBBIE

Permalink Reply by white dove on December 19, 2010 at 11:26am

Hello all here* First i would like to say, I pray for everyone here that includes me:)

Secondly, here comes Christmas Again~ and it is going on one year and nine months since my mom has gone. Still - i am struggeling in jobs, finances, domestic chores.. sometimes i feel we need to move from here and get a fresh start. We moved my mom into an apartment next to ours and cared for her on Hospice.. I am a changed person, and i try to regain parts of who i once was.. continueing to have post stress issues.. no insurance for counseling. What is one to do? I once was up on the cleaning, cooking, bill paying.. now that is all history. Thinking of not even putting up our little tree this year. I would love to know when life will change for the better? Thank you for letting me vent this most Holy of Holidays...

Permalink Reply by DALE S. on December 22, 2010 at 11:03pm

My name is Dale S. my mother Claudette passed away Dec. 8 2010.2 weeks ago today .Im responding, in honor of her . I am still hollow, self blaming , and losing some of my faith .But i am healing one hour at a time .I am also devastated by other poor souls out there , who have deeper losses than i do .I will include you all in my thoughts and prayers . I know its gonna be rough emotionally for a long time . But i feel that our mothers are rooting for us to continue on and keep the faith . So dont stop healing and growing stronger. Use your gifts to deal with the onslaught of feelings that hit us out of nowhere.May you continue to pursue Love and comfort through your higher power.God bless. your friend Dale S.

Permalink Reply by DEBBIE SYMONS-NETZLER on December 23, 2010 at 7:23am

DALE HANG IN THERE. TIME WILL HEAL. LAST SATURDAY I TOOK A DRIVE TO LOOK AT THE LIGHTS AND I AD TO PULL OVER CAUSE I STARTED CRYING. FLASHBACKS FROM XMAS PAST WITH MY MOM AND SHE PASSED AWAY IN JUNE. JUST REMEMBER ALL THE GOOD TIMES. THE HURT WILL NEVER GO AWAY BUT THEY ARE IN A BETTER PLACE WHERE THERES ONLY PEACE,FORGIVENESS AND LOVE. ITS REALLY DIFFICULT AROUND THIS TIME OF YEAR AND MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU AT THIS TIME AND THE NEW YEAR WILL BE BETTER. JUST REMEMBER OUR MOMS WOULD HAVE WANTED US TO BE ALIVE. DEBBIE

Permalink Reply by flora torres on December 23, 2010 at 3:33pm

Debbie I lost my mom too, I was just reading about you and Dale, my mom passed away July 27, 2010, it was so sudden, but she knew it was her time, it just hurts so bad, I just want to cry out tears right now because its christmas and I miss her so much, the new year is coming and its gonna be so hard to go on with out her, she was my "Amazing Mom"! God Bless to All who have lost someone dear and Happy Holidays!

DEBBIE SYMONS-NETZLER said:

I LOST MY MOM ON JUNE 23,2010. THAT DAY WAS THE WORST DAY OF MY LIFE. WHEN SHE PASSED AWAY A PIECE OF HER WENT WITH ME. THIS CHRISTMAS WILL BE 6 MONTHS TO THE DAY THAT WE BURIED HER. I MISS HER TERRIBLY. THE ONLY GOOD THING ABOUT THIS IS SHE ONLY LASTED ABOUT ONE MONTH IN A NURSING HOME WHICH SHE SAID SHE NEVER WANTED TO BE IN A NURSING HOME. MOM I THINK OF YOU EVERYDAY AND I LOVE YOU . DEBBIE

Permalink Reply by DEBBIE SYMONS-NETZLER on December 23, 2010 at 4:54pm

FLORES, SO SORRY ABOUT YOUR LOST. I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. LIKE I SAID I LOST MY MOM JUNE 23,2010.AND IT SEEMS LIKE IT DOESNT GET ANY EASIER.WHEN I LOST MY MOM I LOST A PIECE OF ME WITH HER. I KNOW WE HAVE TO GO ON WITH LIFE BUT I REALLY MISS TALKING TO HER. SHE WAS ONLY IN THE NURSING HOME FOR A MONTH SO THAT WAS A THING. SHE WAS A STRONG , COURAGEOUS WOMAN. SHE WAS BLIND THE LAST 7 YEARS FROM DIABETES BUT SHE ALWAYS HAD A SMILE ON HER FACE AND SHE LIVED ON HER OWN. SO HANG IN THERE AND WE CAN HELP EACH OTHER.

Permalink Reply by Dottie's Daughter on December 24, 2010 at 12:52am

I lost my Mom Sept 28th 2010. The worst day of my life also! I've noticed it doesn't get any easier really....each day is just another day I have to get through without her. No phone calls, no shopping trips, no sharing our days, no more life with Mom. The ache of missing my Mom sometimes is so overwhelming I don't think I can stand it but then I read what others have written on this site about how much they miss their Mother's like I do and I know I'm not alone. Thank you to everyone who shares their stories of how much you are missing your Mothers or Fathers. Its brings comfort to others who feel the same. My Mom's Great-Great Grandson was born tonight. She was so looking forward to meeting him. He is so beautiful Mom! A part of you lives on. I miss you so much!

Permalink Reply by DEBBIE SYMONS-NETZLER on December 24, 2010 at 8:16am

DOTTIE WELCOME THE NEW GRAND GRANDSON JUST LIKE YOUR MOTHER WOULD HAVE.ITS A TIME OF SORROW AND A TIME OF JOY FOR YOU. ITS CHRISTMAS EVE DAY AND I JUST WANT THE HOLIDAY SEASON TO BE OVER. I CATCH MYSELF PICKING UP THE PHONE TO CALL MY MOM AND THAN I HAVE TO TELL MYSELF SHES NOT THERE ANYMORE. SHE WAS MY BEST FRIEND AND A GREAT LISTENER. I COULD TELL HER ANYTHING AND SHE WOULD NOT JUDGE ME BUT SHE JUST LISTENED AND ALWAYS TOLD ME EVERYTHING WILL BE O.K. SO I HAVE TO REMEMBER THAT .SO HANG IN THERE AND WE WILL GET THROUGH THIS TOGETHER WITH EACH OTHER AND FAMILY AND GREAT FRIENDS. DEBBIE

Permalink Reply by white dove on December 26, 2010 at 11:26am

Hello to all~ I hope everyone "survived" Christmas ok... without our loved one's being physically here... Sad to think it is a survival mode, but i guess all we can do is push hard and hold on tight to our faith, to make a forward kind of movement here (on this earth). Someone told me, "life brings changes, and we must change along with them". Well, i don't know about anyone else here, but my changes haven't been anywhere near of where or who i used to be. Still trying, praying and pushing.

We must all know in our Hearts, that our loved ones (Moms) are still SO MUCH with us in spirit and in our Hearts! And As my mom used to say, "life here, is just a short flash in a pan". So for today, i will try once again to go past just survival.** Love, and Blessings to everyone!

DEBBIE SYMONS-NETZLER said:

FLORES, SO SORRY ABOUT YOUR LOST. I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. LIKE I SAID I LOST MY MOM JUNE 23,2010.AND IT SEEMS LIKE IT DOESNT GET ANY EASIER.WHEN I LOST MY MOM I LOST A PIECE OF ME WITH HER. I KNOW WE HAVE TO GO ON WITH LIFE BUT I REALLY MISS TALKING TO HER. SHE WAS ONLY IN THE NURSING HOME FOR A MONTH SO THAT WAS A THING. SHE WAS A STRONG , COURAGEOUS WOMAN. SHE WAS BLIND THE LAST 7 YEARS FROM DIABETES BUT SHE ALWAYS HAD A SMILE ON HER FACE AND SHE LIVED ON HER OWN. SO HANG IN THERE AND WE CAN HELP EACH OTHER.