Missing Mom

Grief support for all who have lost moms

Losing your mother can be traumatic at any age. Share your grief and talk with others who are coping with the loss of their mothers.

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Permalink Reply by Baby-daughter on March 28, 2011 at 6:44am

Has anyone found a home for my puppies. Aftwr I find a good loving home for my babies then I will go to Mama

Permalink Reply by white dove on March 28, 2011 at 11:14am

To Baby-daughter... what is going on??? i just read your post, and i havent always been following closely as time.. moves on.. here, but i would like to know your story:) God Bless hun*

Baby-daughter said:

Has anyone found a home for my puppies. Aftwr I find a good loving home for my babies then I will go to Mama

Permalink Reply by Baby-daughter on March 28, 2011 at 11:22am

TOo much. I have given up. Want a wonderful home for my 2 puppies. And the I will go to Mama. Can't u see the postings fRom about 19 an 20th of the month??? I don't know how this works. I just want my Mama and cannot go to her until I find a home for my pugs.

Permalink Reply by white dove on March 28, 2011 at 12:00pm

no i can't see other posts here... i went to your page, and there is nothing there either that tells of what u are going thru.. maybe if i request u as a friend here? Would u except? Then we could chat privately~

Baby-daughter said:

TOo much. I have given up. Want a wonderful home for my 2 puppies. And the I will go to Mama. Can't u see the postings fRom about 19 an 20th of the month??? I don't know how this works. I just want my Mama and cannot go to her until I find a home for my pugs.

Permalink Reply by s l watson on March 28, 2011 at 12:36pm

Hi Jeanette. My mom passed away on December 15th of 2010. Like you, I was not her favorite daughter. She was 38 when I was born. If you do the math, you'll see that she was in menopause the same time I was in puberty. My Daddy worked away from home so most of the time, it was Mama and me home alone (sister is 14 years older so she was already married and lived away). I was a 70's era pseudo hippi and Mama was a depression era product of a puritanical mother, so it is obvious this was a formula for opposition. We got closer as I aged and she realized I was not as bad as she first thought. She lived with me the last 6 months of her life and so many times, I found myself resenting the hurt of my youth. She had dementia so there was no point in trying to discuss this because she didn't even know me. But in her final days, when she and I were alone, I whispered in her ear that I know I wasn't exactly the daughter she wished for but I did the best I could at finding my own way in life and I hope I turned out better than expected. I also told her that whether or not she realized it, she was not always the model Mother but I forgave her and hoped she also forgave me. I have peace with this. I don't know that she heard me but I'm told hearing is one of the last things to go so I have to believe the message was received. I hope she forgave me as I forgave her but I'm the one living on so it is important for me to rest easily knowing it is off my chest and I communicated these feelings to her. If you did not get this opportunity, I'm sure there is an understanding that passes between Mother and Daughter that is one of forgiveness and whether or not it is spoken, it is known. God Bless you.

Jeanette said:

My Mom passed away on the 22nd of March. Imiss her terribly even though we didn't have a good relationship.
I have chosen to focus on the positive but am still confused why she was so hurt all the time
When I gallant my older sister it's like we are talking about2 different moms.
I love my mom. I want her back so I can fix things between us. So I can
understand her better.

Permalink Reply by Baby-daughter on March 28, 2011 at 1:42pm

I think there is maybe a mistake happening here. I am not Jeanette. It seams. We are having 2 conversations.

My Mama and I were very close and she is/was the most wonderful person there ever has been. My sister on the other hand was just the opposite. My sister took my mother away after my stepfather passed away. My sister was so nice she didn't show up for his memorial. He also was a wonderful man.

What I am looking for is a good loving home for my 2 pugs so that I can join my mother. I have nothing to keep me wanting to stay here. Once I have found a home for my pugs oi will join my dear sweet wonderful Mama. I cannot continue without her.

Permalink Reply by s l watson on March 28, 2011 at 2:45pm

I'm sorry Baby-daughter. I thought I was responding to the post left by Jeanette. I apologize. When I read her post, I felt I was reading my own history. So I was compelled to respond. As for joining my Mom. I have no doubt I will see her and my loving Daddy once again. But I hope that will be in the distant future.

Baby-daughter said:

I think there is maybe a mistake happening here. I am not Jeanette. It seams. We are having 2 conversations.

My Mama and I were very close and she is/was the most wonderful person there ever has been. My sister on the other hand was just the opposite. My sister took my mother away after my stepfather passed away. My sister was so nice she didn't show up for his memorial. He also was a wonderful man.

What I am looking for is a good loving home for my 2 pugs so that I can join my mother. I have nothing to keep me wanting to stay here. Once I have found a home for my pugs oi will join my dear sweet wonderful Mama. I cannot continue without her.

Permalink Reply by Legacy.com on March 28, 2011 at 3:39pm

Dear Baby-daughter,

I'm sorry that you have lost your mama. She sounds like a special person and clearly is very important to you.

I urge you to call 1-800-273-TALK. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 is a free, 24-hour hotline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress.

http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

My sincere condolences,

Jessica

Legacy.com

Baby-daughter said:

I think there is maybe a mistake happening here. I am not Jeanette. It seams. We are having 2 conversations.

My Mama and I were very close and she is/was the most wonderful person there ever has been. My sister on the other hand was just the opposite. My sister took my mother away after my stepfather passed away. My sister was so nice she didn't show up for his memorial. He also was a wonderful man.

What I am looking for is a good loving home for my 2 pugs so that I can join my mother. I have nothing to keep me wanting to stay here. Once I have found a home for my pugs oi will join my dear sweet wonderful Mama. I cannot continue without her.

Permalink Reply by s l watson on March 28, 2011 at 3:47pm

Good advide Legacy. I told Baby-daughter that I also have low moments. Not just related to losing Mama and Daddy but low points in life in general. Since my early years I have always thought that suicide was a solution to life's problems. However, I delay that thought then I have a great day, great week, great month, etc. and I wonder why I ever had those thoughts. Acting on those thoughts would have prevented my from finding the new friends I have now, or seeing my step grandchildren. I would have missed so many moments in life. So for every time my thoughts get dark, I remind myself of what wonders I maymiss. It gets me through and helps me see the light. I understand you have multiple health problems and things seem so gloomy but you have to have hope that life will improve.

Legacy.com said:

Dear Baby-daughter,

I'm sorry that you have lost your mama. She sounds like a special person and clearly is very important to you.

I urge you to call 1-800-273-TALK. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 is a free, 24-hour hotline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress.

http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

My sincere condolences,

Jessica

Legacy.com

Baby-daughter said:

I think there is maybe a mistake happening here. I am not Jeanette. It seams. We are having 2 conversations.

My Mama and I were very close and she is/was the most wonderful person there ever has been. My sister on the other hand was just the opposite. My sister took my mother away after my stepfather passed away. My sister was so nice she didn't show up for his memorial. He also was a wonderful man.

What I am looking for is a good loving home for my 2 pugs so that I can join my mother. I have nothing to keep me wanting to stay here. Once I have found a home for my pugs oi will join my dear sweet wonderful Mama. I cannot continue without her.

Permalink Reply by Baby-daughter on March 28, 2011 at 3:47pm

Thank you for your concern but its over. Help someone else.

Permalink Reply by Baby-daughter on March 28, 2011 at 4:02pm

White dove

Thank you for ur concern but there is no one who will care or be hurt by me going to Mama. Please will someone help me fiNd a home for my puppies

Permalink Reply by Baby-daughter on March 28, 2011 at 4:13pm

Someone please help me find a home for my. 2 pugs. Please. I cannot go to Mama until they are safe.