Missing Mom

Grief support for all who have lost moms

Losing your mother can be traumatic at any age. Share your grief and talk with others who are coping with the loss of their mothers.

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Permalink Reply by Francis Valente III on May 5, 2011 at 5:37pm

So Sorry for your loss Michelle! I know your heart is breaking now but remember she will always be with you in spirit!

This was to be my Mom;s 78 birthday today so it is sad indeed! She passed lasr September and I miss seeing her beautiful face every day! Stay strong! Your Mom would want you to be!

Permalink Reply by beverly on May 5, 2011 at 6:20pm

Kathy Ledford said:

I lost my mother in August of 2008. This was the first Mother's Day without her and I had a very hard time. I cried all day and when I went to the cemetary to take her flowers it just broke my heart. I also put a note on a balloon and released it at the graveside. Now June is coming up and Father's Day. I lost my dad 43 days after my mom. I just pray that this time of year will be easier to cope with as time passes. I just wanted to see her and talk to her and hug her and tell her how much I love and miss her. That is what I did in my note that I sent up with the balloon. I don't think I have ever felt such heartache and grief. I don't know if I will ever be able to get over this. I know life has to go on but it hurts so much. I am going to grief counseling and it is helping some but there are just days that it is almost unbearable. There is no love like a mother's love and when that is gone it really does have an effect on everything in your life. I pray for God to give me the peace in my heart that I can go on with my life.. I have my children and grandchildren and it breaks my heart to know that one day they will have to suffer this pain. Please pray for me that I can grow to accept this loss and maybe if I can help someone else who has lost their mom or dad, that would help me deal with my loss.

Permalink Reply by beverly on May 5, 2011 at 6:33pm

Dear Kathy,

I feel the same way you do, this will be the 2nd mothers day with out my mom, i just want the day to be done and over with. My mom passed 5-09 unexpected , she went in for surgery, the dr. said she would be home in a few days, she spent 3 weeks in the hospital and passed with a medical malpractice suit looming,the lawyers won't take the case due to her age of 85,she was in wonderful shape. Her birthday is today , in 3 days it's mothers day and then it will be the anniversary of her passing, i don't know what to do with myself, i cry all the time, she was my best friend,travel buddy,we were joined at the hip. I went to the cemetary for her birthday today to plant flowers and was talking to her and asking why, why, why, I also wish i can hug her and tell her i love her, i just wish she could answer me. My dad passed in 2004 and i also feel the same with fathers day coming and his birthday just passed so this time of year I want to crawll under a rock and fall asleep until the end of june.

Permalink Reply by Baby-daughter on May 5, 2011 at 6:46pm

This Sunday will be my first mothers day without my Mama. I have a gun and I think his Sunday is the day I am going to use it. I will use it first on my pugs because I have been unable to find a home for them and on me.

Permalink Reply by Beth Novoa on May 5, 2011 at 9:08pm

I lost my Mom on August 8, 2010 and I can honestly say I feel your pain. We were regulars at her house for dinner every Sunday and we talked on the phone almost daily. I spent everyday with her from late May last year until the day she died. I feel like this is a pain that will never go away. It has been a painful experience in a lot of ways. I lost my Mom and my best friend and my children lost their Grandmother who they adored. I feel like my friends have scattered and it feels like an even lonelier journey at times. My heart breaks as Mother's Day approaches. I try to remind myself I am a Mom but I miss my Mom terribly. I wish I had words that could comfort you. I guess all I can say is I feel your pain.

Laurenelyse said:

My Mother passed away on June 11th,2009. I am new to this group. One that none of us wants to belong. My Mom was my best friend. We were only 20 years apart in age. She married my Dad at 18,he was 20. (they were childhood sweethearts). They were married for over 35 years. Mom's life revolved around her family. She had her Grandchildren with her everyday. She was 63 when she passed away from Liver Cancer. I was lucky enough to have her in our home her last 4 weeks. Although Hospice checked in on her once a day,Myself,My Husband, My Sister,and 2 Aunts took care of her around the clock needs. I'm so thankful we were able to give her that. That's how she wanted to go. Now I'm dealing with trying to pick up the pieces. She was such a huge part in our every day lives that I'm just lost. People will tell me"It gets better in time" I don't know how that could be. When I think of not seeing her or hearing her voice for 20,30,+ years. I cannot comprehend it at all! If anyone has advice on how they dealt with their loss I would appreciate your sharing it. Thank you. Laurenelyse

Permalink Reply by Baby-daughter on May 6, 2011 at 1:24am

All of you I know you are trying to help. You all talk about yur family children and friends helping you through the loss of your mother. How many of you had your only sibling steal your mother after your stepfater died and would not allow you to see your mother. How many were not told of your mother's
Death. How many of you found out when the County clerks office handed you A copy of your mothers death certificate collapsed n the office and no one bothered to help. How many of you knew your mother wanted a traditional burial had a paid in full death burial policy and your sister had her cremated. How many of you have a nightmare every night of your mother screaming for you from the creamatoram. He
lp me please get Me out of here. Every night since Oct 2010 4 months after my mother died.

How many of you can really say you know the pain. My mother and stepfather had it set up that if either or both ever needed help they wanted me to be there for them.

Permalink Reply by Maryse Maclure on May 6, 2011 at 7:58am

Hello Kathy,

I know exactly what you're going through, pretty much the same thing has happened to me this year.
I lost my mom to a terrible brain cancer, GBM 4 on December 27th 2010 and I also had the privilege to take care of her for the short 10 months of her disease, which I think is a blessing that it wasn't longer because I sadly had to watch her suffer and wither away. She was not the same from the beginning and at the end she really wasn't sure if I was her daughter. My dad has passed away on March 30th 2011. from a very brief illness which turned out to be generalized cancer. He was in the hospital for only 9 days. I'm still in shock !!! I tell myself mom came and got him so I wouldn't have to go through with him what I went through with her. Even though they were divorced for 21 years they were still friends. I also tell myself I will see them again and because I don't see them now I know they are still with me in spirit and in my heart. I talk to them everyday! I know that Mothers day and Fathers day will be really hard but, I will do something for both of them in my garden representing them. That was me and my moms favorite pass time when she came up to visit was play in my garden thanks to her I have a variety of plants that I probably wouldn't of have if she didn't bring to me every year when she came to visit. I always told my mother that working in that garden was my therapy. This year and years to come I will have the most beautiful garden in my town, because there won't be a moment of neglect, I will be there to enjoy and my reminiscing the times I had with my mom working in my garden and dancing to Elvis as my dad would sing and dance with me when I was a little girl!!! I also am very motivated for the relay for life that joined this year for the first time. I helped create a team to represent my parents and everybody that has been touched by these terrible diseases, in hopes that one day the word "CANCER" would be non existent in our dictionary's!!!!!

Kathy Ledford said:

I lost my mother in August of 2008. This was the first Mother's Day without her and I had a very hard time. I cried all day and when I went to the cemetary to take her flowers it just broke my heart. I also put a note on a balloon and released it at the graveside. Now June is coming up and Father's Day. I lost my dad 43 days after my mom. I just pray that this time of year will be easier to cope with as time passes. I just wanted to see her and talk to her and hug her and tell her how much I love and miss her. That is what I did in my note that I sent up with the balloon. I don't think I have ever felt such heartache and grief. I don't know if I will ever be able to get over this. I know life has to go on but it hurts so much. I am going to grief counseling and it is helping some but there are just days that it is almost unbearable. There is no love like a mother's love and when that is gone it really does have an effect on everything in your life. I pray for God to give me the peace in my heart that I can go on with my life.. I have my children and grandchildren and it breaks my heart to know that one day they will have to suffer this pain. Please pray for me that I can grow to accept this loss and maybe if I can help someone else who has lost their mom or dad, that would help me deal with my loss.

Permalink Reply by white dove on May 6, 2011 at 10:53am

Dear Baby-Daughter: You desperately need some psychological help... PLEASE find it! This site is for us who are grieving-mourning our moms and for SUPPORT for each other.. we definately dont need your psycho babble here.. not the place for it! PLEASE go somewhere else. NONE of us need any more grief handed to us from a stranger here. I think many have babysat you enough. I for one am very tired of this. Good luck, get help, find another site.

Baby-daughter said:

This Sunday will be my first mothers day without my Mama. I have a gun and I think his Sunday is the day I am going to use it. I will use it first on my pugs because I have been unable to find a home for them and on me.

Permalink Reply by Acquanetta Collier on May 6, 2011 at 12:09pm

God I hate Mothers day. I will be glad when this weekend is over. I don't want to go to church because they always have something for the mothers. I dont have a mother to give anything to or a child to receive anything from. the hell with mothers day. Im being selfish but I can't help it. I'm a mothers day scrooge.

Permalink Reply by Baby-daughter on May 6, 2011 at 12:29pm

White Dove

You have your wish. I will not be on your site any longer.

Permalink Reply by white dove on May 6, 2011 at 1:20pm

I have a daughter who loves to shower me with love on Mother's day.. and i love her for this! A part of me however, is thinking of my Mom..and being with her on this Day.. Bitter Sweet right? How I long to give her a Card.. flowers... mini roses... Holidays are still difficult, but in time.. i understand more and more that my Mom's love is always with me, forever and always ~ Prayers for all of us who have lost our Moms no matter what our age.. my mom's love is planted very firmly in my Heart. Hugs for all, and prayers for us to feel our Mom's love this Mother's day! Happy Mother's Day MaMa! *

Acquanetta Collier said:

God I hate Mothers day. I will be glad when this weekend is over. I don't want to go to church because they always have something for the mothers. I dont have a mother to give anything to or a child to receive anything from. the hell with mothers day. Im being selfish but I can't help it. I'm a mothers day scrooge.

Permalink Reply by Acquanetta Collier on May 6, 2011 at 1:30pm

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