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My Mom was my partner in crime too, we used to have a task or a plan or something to take care of that only WE knew about and we'd call it OUR MISSION or if my sister and I needed her help or we were out as teenagers, we could always call our Mom to tell her we were on a mission - and she'd say do you need a ride home ? I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN, I may never , ever meet you but there is a person a daughter ( ME ) WHO has lost a Mom too, best buddie, a secret keeper, a best friend - everything and then some - FIND SOMETHING YOU BOTH HAD IN common - My mom never left my sis or I or never gave us a card or anything written on without saying the words " Love You Forever and A Day " I never put much thought into that until a few days befor she died from a heart attack that was from the result of several ministrokes and a huge stroke that left her semi-paralized at only 56 with no warning - SHE said Love You Forver And A Day and when that day comes I'll love you more she never said that before and never sadi that again THAT FORESAKEN DAY HAS COME AND GONE and I know she loves me. My sis and I went two weeks ago and each got that phrase tattooed on our right foot so we can walk together in our mom's path with her words - Do SOMETHING for you and her something between the two of you only. Keep that bond with you and strong !! I too feel alone and helpless and I finally found a local counsler who deals with grief I have gone twice as soon as I sat down I said ( mY mOM died it has been nearly a year and , the lady had a look on her face that replied empathy and sympathy finally on last week a saw far enough into someone eyes to see then looking back at my pain I have 3 more appts set up You may not find the first one to be right for you do not give up !!!! She is in Newport News, VA lcsw, Keitha Austin. across from Mary Immaculate Hospital look in the yellow pages if you live in this area.
Forever and a day, girl an hour at a time
Angie abby vanessa gonzales sai:i lost my mother on February 03,2010 i guess you can say today is her two anniversary i miss her like i never missed anyone in my life, and I think I'm slowly going crazy.my mom meant the world to me,since the day she past all i do is think of her all the time there's not a minute that goes by that she not on my mind or in my thoughts,i lost my mom due to heart failure,doctors say she was a miracle because she had four strokes and one major heart attack and she was still breathing,but each one of those strokes took something away and she became bed ridden,which slowly to her away from me. since day one me and my mother have been the best of friends she was my partner in crime you can say we did things that no one could believe we were doing we had fun with life now that she's gone i feel so empty,alone,afraid, like a little kid again.I'm lost and i don't know what to do ,what is my purpose for being here now,i know that people say that it's going to get better and to me i feel like things are getting worse for me,I've never felt like this before in my life.i just don't want to be here any more,not with out her.
Gosh BeLinda - you seem like the Legecy Mom I have read your posting to us gals and you mentioned your boys and their ages. I feel like I want a hug from you or that if I feel to my knees weeping you would be able to take my face and know my pain. LIKE A MOM
aNGIE
(white dove) said:My mom will be gone~ one year tomorrow. I am not sure what i will feel.. or really what im going to do other than visit a tree we planted in her memory. I have read alot of articles, and now know that i will do something calming and quiet.. so that i may feel comfortable in letting out my emotions. This is to you MOM, we miss you so very much, it seems like just yesterday we were laughing, but in other ways of our hearts breaking, time has stood still. I would give anything to have you with us again. I pray that God has filled your heart totally up with love so that you could not want for anything more. xoxoxoxoxoxoxo's your baby and grandbaby.
Stacie Jones said:i am 25 she would be 55 tomorrow and i really dnt know how to deal with it
I am 35 and found out mom has extensive breast cancer with mets to bone, liver and nodes. Breast surgeons say surgery is no longer an option and Onc's say treatment will only be palliative. Mom has chosed to defer any treatment to be able to enjoy 'what she has left'. I am a medical professional and respect her decision 100%, but just cant come to terms with this. I cry at the drop of a hat. I feel that the control i usually have over patients care has been stripped from me and I just dont know what to do with myself. How do you cope?
RandiSabo said:I am 35 and found out mom has extensive breast cancer with mets to bone, liver and nodes. Breast surgeons say surgery is no longer an option and Onc's say treatment will only be palliative. Mom has chosed to defer any treatment to be able to enjoy 'what she has left'. I am a medical professional and respect her decision 100%, but just cant come to terms with this. I cry at the drop of a hat. I feel that the control i usually have over patients care has been stripped from me and I just dont know what to do with myself. How do you cope?
RandiSabo said:I am 35 and found out mom has extensive breast cancer with mets to bone, liver and nodes. Breast surgeons say surgery is no longer an option and Onc's say treatment will only be palliative. Mom has chosed to defer any treatment to be able to enjoy 'what she has left'. I am a medical professional and respect her decision 100%, but just cant come to terms with this. I cry at the drop of a hat. I feel that the control i usually have over patients care has been stripped from me and I just dont know what to do with myself. How do you cope?
I am originally from Dorchester, but I now live in San Diego California. My mother resided in the Parkwell Nursing Home in Hyde Park.
My brother and 2 sisters are not close and the situation is strained. But this Easter Sunday I had a strange feeling inside of me. That my mother had passed away. That feeling lasted all day then went away.
Friday I received a card from a hospice volunteer. She said my mother was her best friend. That she took the card I sent my mother and read it to her and it put a smile on her face, even though she was pretty sick. Then she wrote, your mother looked up to the ceiling and took her last breath. It was beautifully written, but I was in total shock.
I didn't know this woman, yet she took the time to call me to tell me my mother had passed away. She had died April 5th.
When I called down to the Parkwell Nursing home, they would not give me any information. Told me the couldn't that I wasn't on the "LIST." My brother barred me from ever seeing her or knowing anything further about her. Regardless I did send things and I did write.
I called my sister, she was shocked I knew and demanded to know who told me. It upset me, through anger I told them, how long were all of you going to keep this a secret? No answer.
My brother cremated her on Wednesday and threw her urn into the garbage. I'm sick to hear this and no type of memorial, no where to go, nothing. I don't know who the funeral home was, nothing. I feel sick and guilty and horrible. I cannot stop crying.
My mom was all I had, she didn't deserve this cruelty. I will live with this guilt until I die. I had to write someone somewhere. I want to scream why? I want to punch someone, but the pillow does the justice. Why so cruel ...Why?
Hi everyone,
I lost my mother on March 30th, 2010, on the same date as my Dad, twelve years later. She died of a severe infection after having been in a ventilator nursing home for 5 months. She was 84 years old. She suffered a subdural hematoma in October 2009 after having fallen out of her bed. She was brain damaged, couldn't walk, she had a feeding tube but she was awake. The last 5 months have been horrible for my family. I hated her being in a nursing home but couldn't take her home because of the ventilator. They actually managed to wean her off 2 weeks before she died. I prayed so much for her suffering to end but now that she is gone, the pain is immense and hard to put into words as many of you know. I know her suffering has ended, but I can't help but think aboutall those months she laid in bed and wonder what was going through her mind. I was with her every day with the exception of 5 days when I had strep throat. I advocated for her and made sure, as best I could that she was comfortable. Now, I don't know what to do with myself. My husband, daughter and myself moved into her coop complex 5 yrs. ago so we could be closer to her and take care of her. We were very close and spent alot of time together. I feel empty inside and can't beleive she is gone. Wll, i don't know what else to say. I feel like no one else understands what I am feeling; people keep telling me I have to deal and go on, but right now, I feel so sad and alone. Like I am an orphan. Thank you for listening.
My best to everyone.
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