I lost my mummy on 8th November 2009. She was in hospital due to Pneumonia and chest infection. She was admitted into hospital with this on the 23rd October 2009. After 10 days she was better but still was being sick, the doctors said that they couldn't fine the cause of her sickness. She has several x-rays, scans, CT scans but they did not know what was the matter. On thursday 5th of November she has two biopsies and we were told that the results would arriveby Monday and it will hopefully show what the problem is. That Monday never came as she passed away on the Sunday. I believe that she was nelected at the hospital.
My mum had an open biopsie would for three days that was constantly bleeding. Me and my family went to visit her on Saturday evening and was not herself. My mum was always the life and soul of any party and even the other patients on her ward said that she was not her normal, bubbly self.
When i akse dthe nurse why she was like this, they said that she has been quiet all day and didnt want to tke any pain killers. They had reduced my mums fluids on Friday and then on Saturday her kidneys had shrunk due to dehydration. As you can imagine I was so angry. I was so scared when I left the hospital on Saturday evening around 9.30pm. I told by brother that I am so scared my mummy was going to die, he said no she will be fine, I promise.
Then at 2.45am, Sunday morning I get a call from the hospital saying that my mum has had a fit and that she was critical. Me, my dad and m sister went to the hospital and my mum was laying in the bed with a very low pulse and untrackable blood pressure.
They said that they do not know what caused the fit and that they did not know what to treat her with. It was 4 hours byt he time they decided to do another CT scan and by this time my mum had, had a stroke. Then it was decided that she was very critical and the ICU team would take over. They wanted to do an MRI scan and to do this they had to place her on a life support machine. They said she would be in the ICU ward within the next 2 hours.
After three hours or waiting me, my dad and two sisters were taken into a little room where we my dad was told that his wife was dying!! We all were so shocked that no one said a thing. Then moments later I ran out of the room to find my brothers and sister-in-laws. I saw my sis-in-law, ran to her and collapsed on the floor.
Alot went on after this and then about an hour and a half later my dad old the nirse in ICU that they could turn the life support machine off. That was it...the end of my mum and the end of my life too.
I am the baby out of 6 childeren and I was mummy's little princess. The apple of my mum's eye. She always told everyone how badly she had fought for me when i was in her tummy as she had such a bad preganancy. When she was pregnant she was told that only one of will survive, mother or child. My dad signed the paper work and said that he wanted his wife but thank god both of us managed to make it through. because of this my mum always said that I gave her a new life and looked after me so well. I was such a lucky little girl, I was brought up liek a little princess and now look......she's gone.
I just don't kno whow to cope wth everything. I am so strong for my dad because he is a very weal person. He feels like his whole life has ended and because I am being a pillar of support for him my emotions are still running wild inside me.
It is driving em mad....I don't know what to do. I don't know anything without my mum. I am missing her more and more as expected but even more now as I am due to get married in four weeks time. All the thibngs we spoke about....I really can't talk to anyone. I just want her back.
I am sorry if this doesn't make sense, I just needed to let this oout to someone.
My love is with all the people that are in this situation with me and I know the pain that is in our hearts in unbearable. I would say God Bless you all but my belief in Gopd has died with my mum and therefore all I will say is take each day as it comes.
I lost my Mom on 9/26/2008,she died of cancer in the gall badder,small intestine and lung. She never smoked or had a drink. She didn't allow smoking around her. It's hard on me and my brothers and sisters. My older brother and next to the youngest sister. Won't visit the website that I dedicated in her memory. I was very close to my mom, we talked all hours on the day. I mean from 4 in the morning until late at night everyday. My job works me all hours of the day and night. My mom was the one that kept me going. I cry everyday for my mom. My boyfriend don't understand his mom is still here. And my mom isn't I have an empty place in my heart for my mom.I smelled her scarf and broke down and cried. My boyfriend she's in a better place and she wouldn't want me to cry and be depressed like I am. But he don't understand I losted someone very dear to my heart. The one person I could tell anything to, and get the best advice. I still don't understand why she's gone, my heart can't accept the lost and pain. Everyone she's in time it will get easlier. I can't she how that is possible, and now Mother's Day in approaching. Thanksgiving and Christmas was very hard. Me and my sister's messed up both dinners. How do we cope with the lost of our mother without feeling the pain and hurt of knowing that we can't see and talk to her again. The house is so cold and plain that we don't even go by there anymore. She was our mother and father we losted both when we losted her.
it will be 3 weeks this sat my mom passed away i still dont believe she is not here anymore to visit i guess she is in heaven with my dad whom she missed alot
I lost my mom July 11, 2009 completely unexpectedly. I don't really know what happened and I feel as though I should have done something. I live with this guilt each day when I wake up and I think about her and what happened when I go to bed. My mom was sick so I took her to the hospital, the day before. At the hospital all they could find was an UTI. They gave her meds and we went home. My mom has trouble sleeping so it was not unusual for her to fall asleep during the day. Well the meds had made her drowsy so she fell asleep when we got home. To make a long story short, she didn't wake up. The next day I went to her house to check on her and she was already gone. I feel as though when I was there I should have called 911 or something earlier because she wasn't waking up. I just thought she was sleeping because the hospital didn't find anything. Now I have to go on living without her here, she is my best friend. I find myself crying and feeling depressed at certain times, especially now since Mother's Day is around the corner. I know that I am not alone with this as everyone loses their mom at some point but it wasn't supposed to be now or like this.
i know how you feel, i am sitting here crying typing this note, the closer mothers day gets the worse it is for me, my mom went in for surgury and never came home, she was in perfect health, the drs. killed mom and the hospitol was total neglect, i am so angry at thesem people for killing my best friend, i have no regrets we were attached at the hip,always together whether it would be shopping,travel going for a ride etc and now she is not with me. i want so badly for her to let me know some how she is by my side at all times. there are so many people in the same boat as t us but, it just does't justify not have out mom's anymore.
I am ever so sorry to hear about your great loss. I really have nothing more to say apart from look after yourself and be strong. Just think about all the great memories that you have and they will help you get by.
My thoughts are with you.
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