Missing Mom

Grief support for all who have lost moms

Losing your mother can be traumatic at any age. Share your grief and talk with others who are coping with the loss of their mothers.

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Permalink Reply by Belinda Rhodes on August 31, 2010 at 11:31pm

Susan, It has not even been a month since you lost your mom, I feel honored you have joined our group, and I pray God will guide us, to learn our life lesson, whether they were taught when we were small or as adults. I hope you feel that your mom's passing is minor to any of us. I hope you continue to reach out to other, and please ask for help when you need it. I know a lot of us had so many different relationships with ""MOM", but to watch them suffer, or not, just the thought of who gave us life, is so hard to take in. I am sure you can tell I usually just write what comes to mind, but I know when it was less then 6 weeks of loosing my mom in December, I think I was in shock more or less. She suffered or was not herself for 8 years, but there was comfort knowing she was still here. I want to encourage you, there are plain ole rotten days, and then a good day, and back again to disbelief. Do not let anyone try to control your grief, so many have told me mine was going on way to long, but they do not know my heart or my soul. A friend gave me some wind chimes as a rememberance when mom passed, and many days when I hear them chime, I know she is with me. Please take one day at a time, and if that is too much take it minute by minute. Again, please know this group is always behind any mood we have, and share their experences, as we learn the reality of loosing a dear family member.
Stay in touch, your in my prayers, Belinda Rhodes

susan falanga said:

dear kat from norwood ,i also am from norwood i am sorry for your losses , my mom passed away on july 6th 2010 , and it really helps reading other peoples stories . i really liked it when you said ,,as we walk this journey of sorrow . it made me realize ,, i am not alone there are people in this world going through exactly what i am and missing their moms thank -you for your story

Permalink Reply by Belinda Rhodes on August 31, 2010 at 11:41pm

Dear Nyjha, If you find that island, let me know. I just turned 55 in August, and the tears will come in due time. Being a mom, and having a son, who is looking at you, to learn to adapt to grief, the sadness like you said of it all, is you have a cousin near death. I lost 2 uncles, my mom, and a cousin my age 10 days after mom, I truly felt I had been hit by a tsunami. My family had some longivity, but for goodness sakes, I knew how to care for others, but was not prepared on how to deal with me, or the loss of a parent. Please keep talking to this group, and pray the Dear Lord leads and guides you, and show you the way. Please let us know when you need to talk, or type, it does help get some of the pain out, and if you still feel as if you don't know what to do, please stay in touch with people you trust, or a support group that can meet your needs. Be patient, (listen to me) like it's been almost 9 months since my mom died, and I still am not "well". I will keep you in my prayers, and please let me know from time to time how things are going. Belinda rhodes

Nyjha Mekeeda said:

My mom died july 6th 2010 and as much as I try to cry I cant Im not sure its because its just me and my son or because I dont know how my had just turned 57 May 22,2010 and soon I will have to deal and understand the passing of my 13 year old cousin.I think crying makes me tired I just want to run away to Island and scream untill my energy is spent.

Permalink Reply by susan falanga on September 2, 2010 at 10:39am

dear belinda ,, i feel i was misunderstood ,,when i said my moms passing was minor ,,my mom was , and will always be my world . all i meant by minor was hearing other peoples stories and the tragedies they had endured .i know my my is not suffering any more and she is home with her my mom,dad, son,, brother , and so on R.I.P. MA,, I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU SO MUCH

Permalink Reply by linda on September 4, 2010 at 5:15pm

Hi to all of you. my mom passed away in july and her home going was on the 2nd of august. The pain I feel is unbelievable.I had no idea there was this kind of pain inside a human body.

Permalink Reply by linda on September 4, 2010 at 6:23pm

I have read the majority of the moms that have passed away I can't tell anyone what to do because I can't think for myself. my mom passed away on July 18th and she was put in the wall on the 2nd of august. I am sitting here crying for all of you my heart flutters for you all. I think with a whole lot of prayer to ask God to relieve a little of the pain just to sleep at night might help.for me I can't think of nothing that hurts worst than this. What do we do to stop this pain like no other pain. I had 4 aunties that passed away in a matter of a month. one auntwas getting ready for my other aunts funeral and my uncle told her to rest because they came from philly to calif. for the funeral and she layed down to rest for real she had passed away 5 mins. later. My uncle ( her husband) passed away 1 month later of a broken heart. 4 aunties 4 uncles and my mom in 6 months all together. what do I do? i am so lost i can't think. My mother got her wings and took flight she left us here alone. all i have left is my sisters and bros. and my husband and grandkids.. the other day my 3 yr. old grand daughter said nana I miss my great great great that's what my grandkids called her. man the pain the emptiness the depression the lost of who I am i just don't know how to keep going. sorry for the pain we feel.

Permalink Reply by linda on September 4, 2010 at 6:25pm

I just want to stop hurting inside so bad. God please let this pain stop

Permalink Reply by susan falanga on September 9, 2010 at 5:37am

hi to all,, i lost my mom on july 6th 2010 it has been over 2 months since my mom has passed . i still can not believe it , i can not believe my mom is gone .i read her obit web-site and to see my moms name on the site does not even seem real .this is one of the toughest things in my life i have ever had to do ,,, was bury my mom ,does anyone know when all this is going to seem real ? i thought things were suppose to get easier with time ,i miss my mom more and more with every passing day i dont have a clue ,how to deal with all this .i say to myself WHY cant i just be happy my mom is not suffering anymore .i am going back to therapy on monday to try and deal with my moms passing .going back to therapy makes me feel like i am going backwards in my life .i went through therapy as a child ,, and i feel i got through all my issues ,, but having to go back to therapy,, i kinda feel like i let my self down ,,because i have to go back CAN ANYONE UNDERSTAND THIS ,susan from norwood

Permalink Reply by white dove on September 9, 2010 at 9:24pm

Yes Susan i think many of us can relate!! I found counseling asap.. after my mom's passing.. actually sought it out. and now a year and almost half later i need more. I found it to be a very good way to talk out my inner most horrible feelings.. don't feel as if you're "going back" wards.. you will be able to move ahead in areas, trust me on this. I am sorry for your loss dear, no one ever told me it would be this hard and now i certainly warn others..... Hugs and prayers for u! *

susan falanga said:

hi to all,, i lost my mom on july 6th 2010 it has been over 2 months since my mom has passed . i still can not believe it , i can not believe my mom is gone .i read her obit web-site and to see my moms name on the site does not even seem real .this is one of the toughest things in my life i have ever had to do ,,, was bury my mom ,does anyone know when all this is going to seem real ? i thought things were suppose to get easier with time ,i miss my mom more and more with every passing day i dont have a clue ,how to deal with all this .i say to myself WHY cant i just be happy my mom is not suffering anymore .i am going back to therapy on monday to try and deal with my moms passing .going back to therapy makes me feel like i am going backwards in my life .i went through therapy as a child ,, and i feel i got through all my issues ,, but having to go back to therapy,, i kinda feel like i let my self down ,,because i have to go back CAN ANYONE UNDERSTAND THIS ,susan from norwood

Permalink Reply by white dove on September 9, 2010 at 9:24pm

hi to all,, i lost my mom on july 6th 2010 it has been over 2 months since my mom has passed . i still can not believe it , i can not believe my mom is gone .i read her obit web-site and to see my moms name on the site does not even seem real .this is one of the toughest things in my life i have ever had to do ,,, was bury my mom ,does anyone know when all this is going to seem real ? i thought things were suppose to get easier with time ,i miss my mom more and more with every passing day i dont have a clue ,how to deal with all this .i say to myself WHY cant i just be happy my mom is not suffering anymore .i am going back to therapy on monday to try and deal with my moms passing .going back to therapy makes me feel like i am going backwards in my life .i went through therapy as a child ,, and i feel i got through all my issues ,, but having to go back to therapy,, i kinda feel like i let my self down ,,because i have to go back CAN ANYONE UNDERSTAND THIS ,susan from norwood

Permalink Reply by Donna Cooper on September 11, 2010 at 11:57am

My mother passed away 4/9/04, I am still going through periods of shock almost like it was the day we lost her. I suppose i held it together long enough to support other family members when mom died and didn't allow myself to go through the grief process, my own health has gone down hill since we lost mom. Mama
was 62 when she passed away, to me this is young. She first got sick March 2004, my brother woke me up saying something was wrong with mama. When i went to check on her she acted like someone that may have been experiencing a stroke (this was very scary), I called for an ambulance. When the EMT got to mama's house they went to work, they thought her sugar was bottoming out (she had diabetes). EMT got mama stabalized and took her to the hospital which was not 5 min. from her home. She was in the hospital approx. 7 days. I stayed with her every night except one, she would talk during the night and sit up on the side of her hospital bed. She seemed out of breath but talked and acted like her usual self. However something seemed not quite right with her. I went home to shower on Sat. while my brother sat with her. My neice called me and said they are going to put granny in the nursing home. I raced back to the hospital to see what was going on. The dr told me to talk to my mom. I asked mama why she was going to the nursing home. She had always said in the past if she ever got sick she hoped she went fast, she didn't want to go in to a n. home! Mama said the dr said she only needed to go into the n. home for approx 1 month to get her sugar under control and get some phy.therapy. I asked mama
why she didn't tell me this, because i had jumped all over the dr thinking he put her up to this maybe he thought she didn't have family that cared and would care for her, mama said she didn't think it was a big deal. I should have known then something was wrong. Mama was in the n. home for approx 4-5 days they wouldn't let any one stay with her. She was brought in food to eat by the n.home that wasn't diabetic foods and when i questioned them they said the dr didn't specif. she needed a special diet. This should have let me know again something wasn't right! Mama was transf from the n. home back to the hospital and then i was told she was not going to make it. I thought the hospital had mixed up something. They transf mama to Roanoke Memorial Hospital she was put on a vent and with in 13 days she was gone. Pulmonary Fib. the main reason. This shocked me.

Permalink Reply by Harvey A. Depew Jr. on September 26, 2010 at 6:49pm

Yvonne,
It is me Harvey Depew Jr. Just wanted to say hello and if you want to sometime give me a call and i will read to you some of what i wrote about Mom and the family. You take care.

God bless you and your family,
Harvey
Phone # (260)-230-4066
I dont know what state you live in i live in Butler In. If you do decide to call, call me after 7:00 pm i have been working overtime every once in a while.

Permalink Reply by D. Cinn on September 27, 2010 at 7:29am

Sept.27, 2010 I woke up feeling ok but as I sit her writting this I am remembering that it has been 1 year since my mother left me. I miss her so much. I really do not have that many women that I can really talke to . Mom and I would stay on the phone for hours talking. Sat. was our talking day. Now every Sat. I just sit and stare at the phone. I still hurt just like it was last Sept. 27, 2009. I miss and love you Mom forever.