Missing Mom

Grief support for all who have lost moms

Losing your mother can be traumatic at any age. Share your grief and talk with others who are coping with the loss of their mothers.

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Permalink Reply by Dottie's Daughter on January 4, 2011 at 12:45pm

Joyce, I also lost my Mom on Sept 28,2010 when she was 80. Although its already been over 3 months it still feels to me like she passed away yesterday. My Mom also raised my 2 brothers & myself as a single parent and although I'm 55 I knew the day would come when she would be gone. Everyone says it gets easier with time and I hope it does but for now I still miss her just as much as I did the day she died. What I've been trying to do to get through each day is focus on the wonderful memories I have..and not what I've lost. I know for a fact my Mom would not want me to be sad because of her death. She lost her husband in Aug 08 after 37 yrs and I often wonder how she got through those 2 yrs alone without him. I know she missed him but she always said put one foot in front of the other and soon its another day. I have found some solace here and I hope you do too. The lives & stories people share...I know I'm not alone. We are all together in this and somehow we will all get through this time in our lives. Know you are not alone either, put one foot in front of the other and keep going. Hugs to you.

Permalink Reply by DEBBIE SYMONS-NETZLER on January 4, 2011 at 6:38pm

(white dove) said:

Bless your Mama's soul~ i feel our Mom's have worked so hard and have earned their time and peace in Heaven, but this leaves us here... feeling empty without them. It has been a bit over a year and a half since i lost my mom, and still i want to call her and fill her in on my day~ Our only consolation is: we will be with our moms once again soon. My mom does visit me once in awhile... in my dreams.. last time she said "I love you" i understand this isnt all that i want and need... but she is checking in on us and is waiting. Bless u hun and know that the very beginning is the shock period. Different for all~ there are grievence counselors all over. They do help us get some things into perspective. I am still struggeling, as time goes on, it will change as life does. WE will always miss our mom's that is a constant... take care of yourself now and make sure to take lots of time for you*

Joyce DeCarufel said:
I just recently lost my mom on December 11, 2010, she was 80 years old and she raised us six kids as a single parent, no child support ever.I am 59 and totally devastated at my loss, i feel like this is a bad nightmare and that it will soon be over and everything will return back to normal eventually.I cant begin to express how i feel, it is a strange feeling to have a loss like this and right now i dont feel like i really am awake, just in a daze and going from one day to the next, thats all i do!

Permalink Reply by DEBBIE SYMONS-NETZLER on January 4, 2011 at 6:38pm

(white dove) said:

Bless your Mama's soul~ i feel our Mom's have worked so hard and have earned their time and peace in Heaven, but this leaves us here... feeling empty without them. It has been a bit over a year and a half since i lost my mom, and still i want to call her and fill her in on my day~ Our only consolation is: we will be with our moms once again soon. My mom does visit me once in awhile... in my dreams.. last time she said "I love you" i understand this isnt all that i want and need... but she is checking in on us and is waiting. Bless u hun and know that the very beginning is the shock period. Different for all~ there are grievence counselors all over. They do help us get some things into perspective. I am still struggeling, as time goes on, it will change as life does. WE will always miss our mom's that is a constant... take care of yourself now and make sure to take lots of time for you*

Joyce DeCarufel said:
I just recently lost my mom on December 11, 2010, she was 80 years old and she raised us six kids as a single parent, no child support ever.I am 59 and totally devastated at my loss, i feel like this is a bad nightmare and that it will soon be over and everything will return back to normal eventually.I cant begin to express how i feel, it is a strange feeling to have a loss like this and right now i dont feel like i really am awake, just in a daze and going from one day to the next, thats all i do!

Permalink Reply by DEBBIE SYMONS-NETZLER on January 4, 2011 at 6:39pm

(white dove) said:

Bless your Mama's soul~ i feel our Mom's have worked so hard and have earned their time and peace in Heaven, but this leaves us here... feeling empty without them. It has been a bit over a year and a half since i lost my mom, and still i want to call her and fill her in on my day~ Our only consolation is: we will be with our moms once again soon. My mom does visit me once in awhile... in my dreams.. last time she said "I love you" i understand this isnt all that i want and need... but she is checking in on us and is waiting. Bless u hun and know that the very beginning is the shock period. Different for all~ there are grievence counselors all over. They do help us get some things into perspective. I am still struggeling, as time goes on, it will change as life does. WE will always miss our mom's that is a constant... take care of yourself now and make sure to take lots of time for you*

Joyce DeCarufel said:
I just recently lost my mom on December 11, 2010, she was 80 years old and she raised us six kids as a single parent, no child support ever.I am 59 and totally devastated at my loss, i feel like this is a bad nightmare and that it will soon be over and everything will return back to normal eventually.I cant begin to express how i feel, it is a strange feeling to have a loss like this and right now i dont feel like i really am awake, just in a daze and going from one day to the next, thats all i do!

Permalink Reply by DEBBIE SYMONS-NETZLER on January 4, 2011 at 6:43pm

SO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR MOM. ITS A TRAGIC LOST EVEN MORE SO WHEN IT HAPPENS AROUND THE HOLIDAYS. I LOST MY MOM ON JUNE 23,2010 AND THE HURT NEVER GOES AWAY. SHE WAS 81 JUST 1MONTH SHORT OF BECOMING 82.MY SIBLINGS AND I STILL CELEBRATED HER BIRTHDAY LIKE SHE WAS THERE. JUST TRY TO REMEMBER ALL THE GOOD MEMORIES OF YOUR MOM AND I KEEP THINKING MY MOM IS IN A BETTER PLACE.I GO TO THE CEMETRY ALL THE TIME AND TELL HER I LOVE HER AND WE WILL ALL BE TOGETHER SOMEDAY AGAIN.

Permalink Reply by Victoria Romero on January 12, 2011 at 10:49pm

I lost my Mom on New Year's Eve, 12/31/2010. She went into the hospital on 12/27 because she was pale and had trouble breathing. She lost 6 grams of blood and was admitted to Intensive care and given 4 pints of blood. She underwent several tests to determine where she was bleeding. She was moved out of Intensive care after 2 days because she was doing better. On Friday, 12/31, she called everyone to let them know she was going home on New Year's Day and that we didn't need to come up to see her because we had all been coming up everyday and she did not want us to worry about her. Her nurse asked her if she wanted to go for a walk in the hall and she said yes. My brother was there and said she was walking and then she fell to the floor and collapsed. My aunt called all of us and by the time we had gotten to the hospital, they were performing CPR. They tried to save her, but she was already gone. She would have turned 72 on 1/10/2011. I believe she wanted to be with my Dad who passed away 5 months before her in July, 2010. I miss them both very much.

Permalink Reply by DEBBIE SYMONS-NETZLER on January 13, 2011 at 10:45am

Victoria Romero said:

I lost my Mom on New Year's Eve, 12/31/2010. She went into the hospital on 12/27 because she was pale and had trouble breathing. She lost 6 grams of blood and was admitted to Intensive care and given 4 pints of blood. She underwent several tests to determine where she was bleeding. She was moved out of Intensive care after 2 days because she was doing better. On Friday, 12/31, she called everyone to let them know she was going home on New Year's Day and that we didn't need to come up to see her because we had all been coming up everyday and she did not want us to worry about her. Her nurse asked her if she wanted to go for a walk in the hall and she said yes. My brother was there and said she was walking and then she fell to the floor and collapsed. My aunt called all of us and by the time we had gotten to the hospital, they were performing CPR. They tried to save her, but she was already gone. She would have turned 72 on 1/10/2011. I believe she wanted to be with my Dad who passed away 5 months before her in July, 2010. I miss them both very much.

Permalink Reply by DEBBIE SYMONS-NETZLER on January 13, 2011 at 10:45am

Victoria Romero said:

I lost my Mom on New Year's Eve, 12/31/2010. She went into the hospital on 12/27 because she was pale and had trouble breathing. She lost 6 grams of blood and was admitted to Intensive care and given 4 pints of blood. She underwent several tests to determine where she was bleeding. She was moved out of Intensive care after 2 days because she was doing better. On Friday, 12/31, she called everyone to let them know she was going home on New Year's Day and that we didn't need to come up to see her because we had all been coming up everyday and she did not want us to worry about her. Her nurse asked her if she wanted to go for a walk in the hall and she said yes. My brother was there and said she was walking and then she fell to the floor and collapsed. My aunt called all of us and by the time we had gotten to the hospital, they were performing CPR. They tried to save her, but she was already gone. She would have turned 72 on 1/10/2011. I believe she wanted to be with my Dad who passed away 5 months before her in July, 2010. I miss them both very much.

Permalink Reply by DEBBIE SYMONS-NETZLER on January 13, 2011 at 10:46am

Victoria Romero said:

I lost my Mom on New Year's Eve, 12/31/2010. She went into the hospital on 12/27 because she was pale and had trouble breathing. She lost 6 grams of blood and was admitted to Intensive care and given 4 pints of blood. She underwent several tests to determine where she was bleeding. She was moved out of Intensive care after 2 days because she was doing better. On Friday, 12/31, she called everyone to let them know she was going home on New Year's Day and that we didn't need to come up to see her because we had all been coming up everyday and she did not want us to worry about her. Her nurse asked her if she wanted to go for a walk in the hall and she said yes. My brother was there and said she was walking and then she fell to the floor and collapsed. My aunt called all of us and by the time we had gotten to the hospital, they were performing CPR. They tried to save her, but she was already gone. She would have turned 72 on 1/10/2011. I believe she wanted to be with my Dad who passed away 5 months before her in July, 2010. I miss them both very much.

Permalink Reply by DEBBIE SYMONS-NETZLER on January 13, 2011 at 10:50am

DEBBIE SYMONS-NETZLER said:So so sorry Victoria. That must have been terrible, since it seemed like she was coming home for the New Year. My mom passed away on June 23,2010 and I think of her everyday and she keep thinking she is in heaven with my father and they celebrated their first Christmas together in 14 years since he passed. Hang in there, I cant say things will get easier because they dont but there are alot of people out there that will be there to listen and support and will help. God Bless you and your family.

Victoria Romero said:

I lost my Mom on New Year's Eve, 12/31/2010. She went into the hospital on 12/27 because she was pale and had trouble breathing. She lost 6 grams of blood and was admitted to Intensive care and given 4 pints of blood. She underwent several tests to determine where she was bleeding. She was moved out of Intensive care after 2 days because she was doing better. On Friday, 12/31, she called everyone to let them know she was going home on New Year's Day and that we didn't need to come up to see her because we had all been coming up everyday and she did not want us to worry about her. Her nurse asked her if she wanted to go for a walk in the hall and she said yes. My brother was there and said she was walking and then she fell to the floor and collapsed. My aunt called all of us and by the time we had gotten to the hospital, they were performing CPR. They tried to save her, but she was already gone. She would have turned 72 on 1/10/2011. I believe she wanted to be with my Dad who passed away 5 months before her in July, 2010. I miss them both very much.

Permalink Reply by River of Tears on February 1, 2011 at 6:04am

As I sit across a picture of my Mother I think if only she were here . I share this out of the love for My Mother and with hope that the future holds promise that more can be done for other families . It was little over a yet ago that my Sister and I tried to call her , so contacted her Home Health Nurse , and Doctor, Neigbors , and even 911 since she was not answering the phone, yet each of them had different answers or may I say right now in the kindest way ,an excuse why they chose not to help her . Which troubles me to this day but I hold all guilt for . My Sister and I lived out of Statenot able to get to her right away , yet knowing that something was wrong and she needed help . But as I sit here looking at her picture all I can say is that I failed her . She was found the next morning later in the afternoon long after the nurse was suppose to be there as promised . I had left 3 messages for her that morning telling her I was on my way ,and that we both loved her so . The last call , though now recorded that they called me was one where then nurse picked up and told me that she was with our Mother and she had passed . My Sister sitting across from asking me what she was saying though the words just could not come out of my mouth just this wrenching gasp . Our Mother was this beautiful woman who who shared a life of many experiences with us . Joy is all we felt even if was just on the phone with her , yet if the chance to be in the same room it felt as it was suppose to be. Wondering how all this could happen and how I could have failed her . Now I site wondering the same thing about my Sister who was there so we could hug each other hugged tight after hearing the gasping new about our Mother that she too has just passed and has gone to heaven and how I too have failed her . I have been truly blessed in life with the love of others those I had hoped to be there for yet wonder how it is that when in need that what I wanted or thought to do does not change a thing . I hope that my Mother now that I love her beyond what is the science of what we know as man that it is apart of ones heart. If only to pull out the chess board one more time to ask her to play or look across the room to her share of all the yesterdays . Some say they wish they could have chosen who they had as a Family , the fortune was mine that I My Mother chose to have me.

Each life has importance if not to others at least to those that Love them.

To all all take care

Permalink Reply by Jenny on February 3, 2011 at 11:38pm

Saran,
Beautiful...just beautiful!!I'm balling..You captured all the little things that you do all the time..but,now,it's just different. I notice things and realize I didn't appreciate the little stuff. Like getting the walker out of the car.. What I would'nt do to go to the grocercy store one more time, and fold up that walker Silly..perhaps but there a hundreds of them everyday. I still watch what my mom would watch on tv, and I don't even like the show..Crazy..She was amazing.. "Nettie Rossi Berg", I love you always and forever..
Jennifer